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Part of my problem is that in those first few months I'm very up for it, and I'm very... generous! But once a few months passes the steaminess of first lust starts wearing off for me, and the previous level of intimacy (a lot) isn't sustainable. But then the guy notices a difference, gets demanding, starts complaining, I get turned off... vicious cycle.
I'm like you. When I'm with someone new, I have a lot of sex drive. If I date older men, they often have trouble keeping up with me. But after the initial excitement wears off (a couple weeks, a couple months), my sex drive starts to decrease. Once I've been in a relationship with someone for more than a year, year and a half, I practically lose my sex drive altogether. This is not uncommon for women.
But I would never take a drug that messes with my libido (just as I would never take an anti-depressant). I mean, just imagine all of the neurotransmitter pathways that would impact, unintended consequences, etc.
Yeah, so now my bf and I have sex a couple of times a month, and I never, literally never, want to.
Edited to add: I don't mind it that much though--doing it when I don't want to, as long as I have time.
Edited further to add: I think the solution for me is polyamory. Monogamy kills my sex drive so if I avoided monogamy, maybe it wouldn't happen.