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    I am a 25 year old female and in good health. I am engaged, no children, and am not obese but am slightly overweight (in my eyes, maybe others wouldn't think so) I'm 5'6'' and 150 lbs but not muscular at all, my extra 30 or so lbs is mostly fat that I'd like to get rid of. My problem is the exact same problem as everyone else in the whole world who wants to lose weight but can't. Well, I'm probably better off than most, because I know exactly what to eat and how to work out to lose my weight. My issue is that I'm 25 with no children lol I have a wonderful significant other who likes to go out to eat and drink, I have several close friends and we socialize with each other by drinking and going out and eating. No different story than anyone else. My question for everyone reading this is, have you found a way to have your cake and eat it too? Do you practice 100% paleo/primal and still have a life with friends who don't? Did you have to find new friends who don't eat chips and queso and fried pickles and 34 oz mugs of beer at Pluckers every friday night? Did you stop drinking even though its a lifestyle that I still want to keep but still want to eat healthy? I don't need a lecture about how its a choice that you have to make - eating what you want or being healthy. I fully understand what I need to do. But we are social creatures, and I LOVE my friends and coworkers and my time with them going out is very important to me. But the peer pressure to join in their indulgences is really tough to deal with. I'm not saying that they would make fun of me for trying to adopt a healthy lifestyle, I guess I'm just trying to figure out how everyone else deals with the social aspect of their lives and the primal way of eating. I haven't started seeing the ill effects of a poor diet other than my extra weight on my rear. I did about a month of the primal eating and lost 10 lbs and felt great, but then weight loss stopped and I got frustrated and gave in to my cravings and gained it back. I need a way to stick to it, while still being able to socialize and keep my motivation high so when I'm confronted with the poor choices at the bar, I can confidently deny them. This is also just a venting post as well lol the friends that I would normally vent to are the ones that don't understand the primal life (I've tried to tell them about it, they think I'm crazy for thinking fat is healthy) I wish that socializing with people didn't have to mean going to a restaurant or bar to stuff your face with unhealthy crap. And I know that tons of people socialize with exercise, but not my friends lol I love them all dearly, but drinking and eating is just a part of my social circle, as is most everyone.

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    Absolutely you should socialize. Isolation is bad.

    Do your companions really care what you're eating and drinking? If I'm invited to a chain restaurant I just forget any chance at decent food and will nurse an iced tea, seltzer, or wine while chatting. Eating is never so urgent to justify toxins--I can always cook before or after.

    If your friends truly need to watch you chew and swallow it's only because of precedent. If they become accustomed to you not doing so then they'll stop expecting it. Don't discuss your nutrition strategy, just say "not hungry" or "already ate".
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    • #3
      I suggest that you find food/drink at those places that suits you (your sense of health/diet), and stick to those. You don't have to eat what they are eating, and the pressure *will* fall away. Just laugh it off and change the subject and move on. Eventually they won't bug you about it.

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      • #4
        Have a bloody Mary instead of a beer or have some wine. Eat the guacamole with a spoon instead of chips. Order a big salad with chicken or salmon on it.
        Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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        • #5
          Don't have low enough self-confidence that you're concerned about what people will think about how you eat and drink. Do what you want and let them deal.

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          • #6
            I don't think you have to give up your friends or try to find friends who exercise and socialize while exercising. That doesn't sound very fun at all. I eat out fairly often with my husband or friends. It's hard to know where the food you're eating is coming from, but I'm not eating it every day so I don't worry too much. I haven't seen very many appetizers that are primal, but I don't usually have trouble with a main course. I order steak or broiled fish, or a salad if that's all that's available. I refuse the bread or mashed potatoes that often come with a meal and ask them to double up on the fresh vegetables. My drink of choice is now always red wine, and while I know it's supposed to be an occasional indulgence, if I'm eating out I'll have one or two (or three) and not worry too much.

            One thing I've realized over time is that mostly people don't pay any attention to what you're eating. I went out with a group of friends recently and at the end of the meal we ordered three big desserts to share between six of us. NO ONE noticed that I didn't eat any of it. NO ONE! So what it comes down to is you deciding what you're going to put into your body. (Sorry if this sounds like a lecture but it IS a choice!) You say you love your friends and the time you spend with them and I think that's great. Enjoy them, just don't eat like they do! You can do it! If you really want to, and it sounds like you do, you can do it! (That's your pep talk!)
            Ann of the Jungle's Primal Blueprint Journal:
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            • #7
              If your friends are any kind of good friends, they won't say a word about your choice of food.
              F 28/5'4/100 lbs

              "I'm not a psychopath, I'm a high-functioning sociopath; do your research."

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              • #8
                The longer you stick with primal, the less temptation you will feel from the type of foods and drinks your friends are having.

                So, keep strong during the week, eat a good primal meal before you go out, then go join your friends, choose one favourite drink that is worth indulging your 20% for, and make it last. If your friends even notice, you can learn to brush off the comments.

                After a while you will barely even notice what they are having, or at least you may wonder why on earth they would ingest such garbage but you would not see it as potential food for you.

                Good luck.
                Annie Ups the Ante
                http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread117711.html

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                • #9
                  I assume you get to choose your meal and drink.
                  Order a big steak or chicken or fish (with fat/skin attached) and veg or salad and eat it.
                  They think your meal is mostly unhealthy and they know theirs is mostly unhealthy too - so it appears everyone has unhealthy meal they enjoy. Dont talk about fat being healthy and processed carbs being bad just eat and enjoy the night.
                  They wonder why you get thin and don't get sick often eating unhealthy/fatting food.
                  I don't see a problem.

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                  • #10
                    I appreciate the comments guys! thanks for the great ideas. Several of you are giving me ideas of what kinda food to order, but unfortunately when we go out we don't usually have a full meal. It's mostly drinks and bar-type appetizers. No one really orders a full meal. Which is my dilemma. But when I did try this WOE for a month a while back I really did try to only order wine or vodka sodas when I was out. It was never as much fun as beer but I guess for my health I will MAKE it fun lol thanks again for all comments, they are greatly appreciated.

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                    • #11
                      Eat before you go out and switch off between vodka sodas and water.

                      I actually don't go out anymore because well, drinking one or two vodka sodas keeps me sober and damn, drunk people are annoying when you are sober. I have a lot of people I really can't be around when they are drunk and I am not.

                      I'm trying to come up with some new "going out" ideas that don't involve a bar stool and drinks. It's harder than you would expect. I haven't made much progress, LOL.

                      http://maggiesfeast.wordpress.com/
                      Check out my blog. Hope to share lots of great recipes and ideas!

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                      • #12
                        My suggestions a bit different. Life is about compromise, and primals about health. Make the healthiest choices you can.
                        When you eat out look at the menu be mindful and don't order real crap unless you're in a place that only serves crap if you're in a junk food joint even there you can improve what you eat to a degree. if you have burger take off the top of the bun or don't have the bun, order the best meat you can,don't have the cheese or fries, have side salad, a diet soda might not be brilliant but its better than the shakes, fruit juice and water maybe better. Wines good when drinking out, try it the European way mix it with sparkling water. Its more refreshing anyway and you don't get the morning afters.
                        Suggest places where you can get better options, your pleasure factor counts as much as everybody elses. Try and find a teppanyaki bar, They cook the meat you want, with the veg you want and your choice of spices. They do it in front of you too and its really fun, the chefs tend to be real showmen, its easy to be healthy there.
                        Do the best you can. There will come a time in your life when you want to clean up so until then be as clean as you can.
                        Keep in mind that there might also be some of your friends who want to be a bit healthier but are in the same boat. Try leading the way with small changes; you might be surprised. Any crap that you don't eat is a success in its way
                        When I'd had enough of the grain and starched based 'diabetic eating for health' diet (eating for health, my ass!) my weight was 242.5 lbs. On starting primal- 18th April 2013 weight : 238.1.
                        27th July 2013. weight after 100 days 136.9 weight lost 101.2lb ; that's 105.6lbs since I stopped the 'diabetic eating for health'
                        new journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...ml#post1264082

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                        • #13
                          Would your friends be up for dinner parties? That is what we started doing - we just invite people over and do the cooking Summer makes these especially easy because we can grill and then it doesn't even seem like we are "forcing" paleo on them!

                          What about trying new places to eat/drink - lots of specialty places have opened up near us that have jumped on the local bandwagon and tend to have many more offerings of grass fed burgers, etc... Seems reasonable for 25ish year olds to give up dive bars and go to fancier places

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by jilly View Post
                            I appreciate the comments guys! thanks for the great ideas. Several of you are giving me ideas of what kinda food to order, but unfortunately when we go out we don't usually have a full meal. It's mostly drinks and bar-type appetizers. No one really orders a full meal. Which is my dilemma. But when I did try this WOE for a month a while back I really did try to only order wine or vodka sodas when I was out. It was never as much fun as beer but I guess for my health I will MAKE it fun lol thanks again for all comments, they are greatly appreciated.
                            This minor detail is a restriction you have put on yourself, not something writ in stone. If you decided to order a salad with meat or a chicken breast ("I think I need to eat more when I'm drinking"), no one would do more than blink, and that would just be the first time. After that it would just be, yeah, she orders a meal.

                            I don't like soda drinks myself. I'd do vodka on the rocks. You get the same liquor, but it feels like an alcoholic beverage.

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                            • #15
                              You can be social without eating or drinking. Get an iced tea and fast on those nights out, or eat prior to going out. If you are feeling left out, that's on you. Your friends shouldn't care whether or not you get bombed and eat deep fried crap.

                              Sounds to me that you are worried about not "participating", rather than just having a good time.

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