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  • #16
    How about bowling?
    Began Primal Living: 25 Sep 2012
    Starting Weight: 82kg (180 lbs) - Lost 30 lbs since going Primal!

    "I do not eat enough carbs to justify eating low-fat."
    "Have some bread with your bread, pasta, bread, and HFCS." - Unicorn
    "I also walk my dog twice a day now instead of paying someone else to do it." - IronGirl
    "Tell me you're not weak minded enough to be outsmarted by a donut?" - not on the rug


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    • #17
      There's always room for improvement, but it sounds like you're a catch now. So own it. If she's non-committal from your text, call her and say "I'd like to cook you dinner. What do you like to eat?" If she turns down dinner at your house, have a plan B on hand, but being confident (or pretending to be) is a good thing. If she says pasta- figure out how to primalize it and roll with it
      http://cattaillady.com/ My blog exploring the beginning stages of learning how to homestead. With the occasional rant.

      Originally Posted by TheFastCat: Less is more more or less

      And now I have an Etsy store: CattailsandCalendula

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      • #18
        Originally posted by drssgchic View Post
        ...but it sounds like you're a catch now. So own it.
        +1. And if you feel the confidence is lacking, fake it 'till you make it.

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        • #19
          No. Too intimate, I'd take her someplace public, fun, less pressure to be forced to make conversation in an overly quiet environment for an hour. I'd run away.
          F 28/5'4/100 lbs

          "I'm not a psychopath, I'm a high-functioning sociopath; do your research."

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          • #20
            What is wrong with movies and something to eat afterwards. The movie is always good to talk about later and lead into non threating discussions like movies, actors, stories.

            Public is better. Besides, then you don't have to worry about food plus how you look plus how spotless the place is and what things can be readily discerned by stuff you have lying around.

            Then you can suss out her enthusiasm for other events or whether she would be interested in you cooking dinner.

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            • #21
              do not invite her for dinner. no way. movie, tapas, badminton at the ymca, drinks and h'ors d'oeurves, the keg --- keep it light and breezy. if u entertain at your ho,e, your bathroom needs to be SPOTLESS! waaaay too much pressure for an at home date.
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              Start Date: 25-06-12 @ 161lbs
              Goal Reached: 30-09-12 @ 143lb. Now bouncing between 145lb - 149lb. I'd like less bounce and more consistency :-)

              Started Cross Fit 20.12.12 ---- Can't wait to submit my success story on the 1st anniversary of starting primal.

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              • #22
                I wouldn't go for a first date at someone's house either. I would feel weird and there is no polite escape timetable, like if you go to a movie or skating or something. And your text message doesn't make it clear that she needs to choose dinner at your place or grabbing a bite elsewhere. I wouldn't offer her the choice, actually. Then she has to feel bad if she chooses something other than you cooking for her. Just plan something on neutral ground.

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                • #23
                  Matinee, early dinner at moderate restaurant, home early, she may or may not invite you in..
                  During the evening you can sense whether or not she likes you enough to bring up the idea of cooking for her.

                  It may take several dates out in public for her to feel comfortable enough to go to your house.
                  And, yes, if and when she comes over, clean your house like you've never cleaned before.
                  We love clean

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                  • #24
                    Agreed with the above. It's a safety thing.

                    I have had really great dates at museums, there is always something to talk about, it's a safe public space, etc. And afterwards, if it goes well, you can suggest grabbing dinner since you will probably be tired and hungry from walking so much. I would especially recommend science museums and the like, that have lots of interactive exhibits. Or if you live in a city with a lot of art galleries, gallery openings are usually free and a lot of the time there is free wine as well!
                    No disease that can be treated by diet should be treated with any other means.
                    -Maimonodies

                    The cure for anything is salt water - sweat, tears, or the sea.

                    Babes with BBQ

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                    • #25
                      Dude, you are in NYC, correct?

                      There are roughly 1 bazillion things you could do for first date material that do not involve your place. Given the setting, that is a 'run for the hills' scenario.

                      Chelsea piers for the rock climbing wall, walk up and down riverside park. Go to the Guggenheim or the Met. Do the astronomy show at the Museum of natural history. Go to the top of the Empire state building. Hell, take a boat cruise. Then wind up at a small cafe with primal options.

                      If you are really, really stuck, you could even go to Brooklyn ;-)

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                      • #26
                        Ooh- a museum would be great! I like brains in a guy, and one who thought museums were cool would start out with pretty high marks in my book
                        http://cattaillady.com/ My blog exploring the beginning stages of learning how to homestead. With the occasional rant.

                        Originally Posted by TheFastCat: Less is more more or less

                        And now I have an Etsy store: CattailsandCalendula

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                        • #27
                          Inviting someone round to your house for dinner = sex date. Fine if you're both up for it, but if you like her and want something to develop then I would take her out for the first few dates. It sends a better message.
                          "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

                          In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

                          - Ray Peat

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                          • #28
                            A good first date is afternoon coffee. If you don't click you don't have a huge investment in time or money. If you do click, then you ask if she'd like to continue the conversation over dinner.

                            Personally as a woman I would not go to a man's house for dinner on a first date unless I already considered him a trustworthy friend.
                            High Weight: 225
                            Weight at start of Primal: 189
                            Current Weight: 174
                            Goal Weight: 130

                            Primal Start Date: 11/26/2012

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                            • #29
                              My husband and I met online and he came over to my place for dinner with my parents for our first date, we were together from that night
                              Just sayin'

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                              • #30
                                My first date with my husband was dinner at his place, but I thought it was a "just friends" thing. We had known each other for a few months and gone out with a group of friends many times. If I had know what he was plotting at the time, I would never have accepted! I ended up basically moving in that night, so be careful what you're doing, lol.
                                50yo, 5'3"
                                SW-195
                                CW-125, part calorie counting, part transition to primal
                                GW- Goals are no longer weight-related

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