I get what you are saying, but can you see the stars at night in San Diego?? Sounds like a dumb question, but coming as we did from NJ, here is what we really, really still like: the stars, the quiet, the animals that we can hear in the quiet, the darkness at night, the obvious change in the land as the seasons come and go (even mud season here on our hill), the fresh air, the fact that we are out there enough that my kids can run and play and scream outside even at 11 o'clock at night and not disturb a soul with their being-a-kid-ness.
Nope - we are not off the grid, even though I hold (probably) overly-romantic hopes of someday being able to do so. Our garden doesn't feed us a whole lot 'cause we were city-slickers and are still learning, although the herb garden is awesome and produces monstrously.
Constant trips for supplies = a poorly managed pantry IMHO. I drive a lot because I take my Third to therapy for her disabilities, but we still choose to live out here because it is balm for our souls.