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  • #61
    I don't think - depending on how you look otherwise - that it necessarily adds age, but I do think it changes 'approachability'. One is obviously not some college babe anymore, but formed character with some strength etc. Always intimidating to men. And I want that! But it's scary too as new phase in life.

    And also: My MIL is something like 120 years old and still has long 'blonde' hair- which looks horribly dead and scary especially when she looses it all over the place. My own mom is gray. At some point, age just doesn't matter, but grace does.

    And oh, have I talked with DH over hte last 20 years. Ever have been rejected on a regular basis? By now it is too loaded a topic and we are all happier pretending it doesn't happen. I can always take affirmative action and leave when the kids are okay. *sigh* Otherwise he can be quite nice and smart and all that, which counts too in my book.

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    • #62
      I don't get carded with my pink hair, but always do when my hair is natural.
      Depression Lies

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      • #63
        Haha, well I wasn't talking about pink vs whatever. I wouldn't card pink either. I'm talking about your natural vs gray hair. I've got a friend in her 30s who went grey and NOBODYwould think she's older than that. I think.

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        • #64
          I quit coloring my hair in my late 40s' (now 52) and have not regretted it. I've also let it grow long (just below shoulder blades) During the transition I had a wonderful hair stylist/colorist, I didn't want the skunk look of gray roots showing until all the color was gone. I get a lot of compliments on my hair. It looks frosted. At first each time I looked in the mirror (once the dyed color was gone) it was weird seeing the gray, I didn't recognize myself. I have found that the older I get, the less I care what others think about me or my looks. As long as I"m happy with my hair, thats all that matters. Hubby doesn't care one way or the other about color. I cannot fathom keeping my hair a certain way for a man. He does prefer it short, but I like it long...so guess what, it stays long until I get tired of it

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          • #65
            I've sort of gone no poo. I use a cleanser(all natural, no sulfates or any bad stuff) for curly hair once or twice a week and I use a co-wash(conditioner) on it. My hair is a lot softer using it and I've noticed my all over color is a lot lighter and the greys are snow white. All new growth is white. I've decide that I'm not going to color my hair for awhile and see how it goes.
            Georgette

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            • #66
              Originally posted by Owly View Post
              That might not only be about the hair. What's the average age of a mother in the community where you now live as compared to where you were before? There are very different ideas of how old a mom is in different places.
              Originally posted by Blacksmith View Post
              I think folks down south and in the mid west tend to have their kids earlier. Most of the people in my area seem to have their kids a bit later. We all seem to be in our 30-40's.
              Originally posted by zoebird View Post
              A lot of my friends in the south are 35-40 and have children aged between 14-18. By the time they are 45, they will likely have grandchildren.

              Whereas, where I lived in PA, the average 30-35 yr old had under-10 year olds. So, they won't be grandparents for a good 20 more years (likely), meaning in their 60s.

              So, I agree with Owly on this one.
              I think you all are right - I just haven't thought of it that way. Mine happened at 29, 31, 33, and 35 (I married at 26). Thanks for bringing this up - I simply thought the folks out here, much as I am enjoying living here, were just idiots in that regard.
              I have a mantra that I have spouted for years... "If I eat right, I feel right. If I feel right, I exercise right. If I exercise right, I think right. If I think right, I eat right..." Phil-SC

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              • #67
                Wished I had a good colorist, or any hair stylist, for that matter. But I'm terrified of them. I have horrible hippie hair and you do have to know what you are doing cutting it. Most don't, cut it like normal hair that just hangs down, and I end up with the pyramid/Cleopatra look. The best hair dresser I ever had was a young turkish whippersnapper in Germany...I guess I have turkish sort of hair. Coarse and thick with an ill-defined curl to it. Combine with two kids under 6 and you got yourself some trouble.

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                • #68
                  Originally posted by geostump View Post
                  I've sort of gone no poo. I use a cleanser(all natural, no sulfates or any bad stuff) for curly hair once or twice a week and I use a co-wash(conditioner) on it. My hair is a lot softer using it and I've noticed my all over color is a lot lighter and the greys are snow white. All new growth is white. I've decide that I'm not going to color my hair for awhile and see how it goes.
                  Yaaaay! White RULES!

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                  • #69
                    You don't happen to remember what she did, do you?

                    Originally posted by ConnieSB View Post
                    I quit coloring my hair in my late 40s' (now 52) and have not regretted it. I've also let it grow long (just below shoulder blades) During the transition I had a wonderful hair stylist/colorist, I didn't want the skunk look of gray roots showing until all the color was gone. I get a lot of compliments on my hair. It looks frosted. At first each time I looked in the mirror (once the dyed color was gone) it was weird seeing the gray, I didn't recognize myself. I have found that the older I get, the less I care what others think about me or my looks. As long as I"m happy with my hair, thats all that matters. Hubby doesn't care one way or the other about color. I cannot fathom keeping my hair a certain way for a man. He does prefer it short, but I like it long...so guess what, it stays long until I get tired of it

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                    • #70
                      Originally posted by Comma View Post
                      Yaaaay! White RULES!
                      Not sure how I feel about the white, but it is kind of pretty. I'm only 36 but I have such a babyface that I'm hoping it doesn't age me too horribly at all. My eyebrows are white and so are my eyelashes. The only lines I have are the parentheses lines around my mouth. The longest layer is about an inch from touching my bra strap(longest its been in 31 years btw). The underneath layers are loose, barely wavy and the curls get tighter the shorter the layer.
                      Georgette

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                      • #71
                        Originally posted by Comma View Post
                        You don't happen to remember what she did, do you?
                        She called it "low lights"..it was a gradual process but not once did my hair look like it was in transistion

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                        • #72
                          Ye, I have heard about that. Were you dark? I cannot imagine any sort of lights taking me out of skunk territory.


                          Hm. Just sprayed entire bottle of colored powder spray on hair to cover up grey as going to a do...well well.

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                          • #73
                            I've recently been considering dying my hair - havig it professionally done rather, which will require a costly maintenance.

                            I do feel like the white hair is aging me. I feel bad enough about being overweight, still having acne at 29, wearing trifocals (seriously) and I'm 5 years older than my boyfriend as it is - do I really need to keep this "unique" hair and look much older than I am?

                            I am blessed with plush oily skin so I don't have any wrinkles to speak of, my face itself is youthful and if I follow my nana, it will remain so. The hair though... the shocking white middle of the head. Ugh.

                            I had a frank talk with my cousin and said look... tell me the truth. It has been 10 months since I quit dying my hair. Is this aging me? Might people perceive me as older than I am? And she said, to be blunt, sometimes it does give that impression.

                            So I'm considering going back to coloring. >.<

                            FYI, I don't use any shampoo or conditioner anymore, every now and then I scrub my scalp with baking soda and rinse with ACV but usually just rinse and massage with warm water.
                            yay!

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                            • #74
                              That's fine of course. You have to pick your fights, and I was nowhere near admitting my greys at 29. Whatever works. ESPECIALLY the skunk stripe is not exatly flattering. More like the generous abandance of silvery hair, together with clear skin and thin-as-a-reed (still need to work on those, too, sigh).

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                              • #75
                                Yeah - there was no way I was going to accept my grey at 29 - totally different in my mid-40s.

                                I am working on being one of those sophisticated, slim middle aged women, rather than the dowdy middle aged "let myself go" ones... I think weight has a much bigger affect on aging, than grey hair.

                                I think you have to go with foils in a lighter colour than your natural one to blend the skunk stripe in. My hair looked terrible when I put a block colour through it myself - the re-growth was so obvious.

                                This website really helped me through the decision making process to go natural, and the growing out period. There are some seriously attractive women in the 20s, 30s, 40s and older, going grey...

                                http://goinggraylookinggreat.com/
                                Last edited by Rueben; 12-11-2012, 10:00 PM.

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