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  • #16
    Liver. Eat moar liver.
    Crohn's, doing SCD

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    • #17
      Some silly social dance or aerobics class. I'm partial to Zumba. You can't be depressed when jumping around to dirty latin lyrics!

      A lot of people like meditation for depression, but I've never understood that - time to let me brood more than I already do? Not a good idea for me.

      For some odd reason cleaning helps, too. Even though I hate cleaning.

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      • #18
        I agree with the others who said a) move and b) fake it. In the second category I find laughter helps - even if it just takes me out of myself for a little while. I grab my laptop and earbuds, head to the nearest place that has power (that's a short list in NJ these days) and pull up my faves on youtube: eddie izzard, bill cosby, victor borge, carol burnett. Get to the library and get yourself a funny book to read: anything by terry pratchett, dave barry, erma bombeck. Another thing I do is read one of the books that I loved as a kid. To paraphase George Bernard Shaw, the YA section is wasted on the young.

        If you're in the part of the country that has been hit by the storm, I hope all is well with you. I'm trying to think of this as "primal bootcamp". No power, cold nights, and during the day I have to forage for food, cash and gas.
        Last edited by MattyH; 11-02-2012, 08:28 AM.

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        • #19
          Originally posted by sakura_girl View Post
          Suggestions on what I could do to get some happiness in?
          I suffered with depression years ago. My doctor prescribed drugs. Didn't work. The only things that did work were getting out of the job I was in and making the decision to be happy. It's not what others say or do that causes problems for us, it's how we react to them. Nowadays, I ALWAYS smile at people I meet. It makes them happier and that makes me feel even better.

          Try reading The Art of Happiness on the thoughts of H.H. The Dalai Lama. ISBN 978-0-340-99592-1

          I also have a motto:- "A positive attitude may not solve all your problems but it will annoy enough people to make it worthwhile." (Herm Albright)
          Why use a sledge hammer to crack a nut when a steam roller is even more effective, and, is fun to drive.

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          • #20
            Steam room, hot tub, pool - I find that winter gets to me if I don't get to the light, heat and water in a large space every few days. It also helps to book a tropical vacation in February -March about 3/4 way through the winter. Also seeds uncatalogued and starting the annuals in mid-April-early May + house plants that bloom in the winter and conservatories/winter gardens. I often buy flowers starting in December, as a part of grocery shopping to brighten things up. Vanilla extract - a dub behind the ear cheers me up with the wonderful scent.
            Last edited by Leida; 11-02-2012, 09:12 AM.
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            • #21
              It depends on what is causing the depression.

              Vitamin D (and sunlight if you can get it), fresh air, movement, just getting outside usually help me. Going to a coffeehouse or bookstore and just reading sometimes helps me. Liver for sure is always good.

              It's hard to go hiking in the rain but whenever I'm already hiking and get caught out in the rain it turns out really fun. Sometimes when it's one of those windy days with light, sporadic rain, I go for a run outside and it's exhilarating. Basically doing something opposite of what seems like the right thing to do (stay indoors where it's comfortable).

              I'm new to lifting heavy weights and I'm finding that it really makes me super happy.

              A long slow run (about an hour) also makes me happy.

              If my depression is psychological sometimes it helps to talk to people. I had a lot of luck with Al-Anon in the past. Sometimes it is helpful to help other people with worse problems than you.
              Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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              • #22
                Thank you everybody for your suggestions. It actually made me happy that so many people in this community were nice enough to offer their advice. So thank you

                Will take some of those suggestions into consideration. I am naturally pretty inverted, so I think just watching some comedy shows or reading a good book will help to take my mind off things. Am already taking Vitamin D supplementation, and eat liver on a weekly basis. I already exercise and am not *that* huge of an animal person, but I'll try the faking + talking to myself every day to see if it makes me feel better. Going hiking just reminds me of what I lost, so probably won't do that...plus it's rainy here anyway. Maybe I'll also focus on learning a new piece on the piano....(any suggestions? )
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                • #23
                  Originally posted by sakura_girl View Post
                  Maybe I'll also focus on learning a new piece on the piano....(any suggestions? )
                  what's your current skill level for piano? and what kind of music do you usually play?
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                  • #24
                    Originally posted by primalrob View Post
                    what's your current skill level for piano? and what kind of music do you usually play?
                    I was classically trained for 5 years. I haven't played in a while, but the last piece I worked on was Rachmaninoff's Prelude in g minor. I enjoy Rachmaninoff, Gershwin, and Debussy, but I also like Bach. I tried to play "Call Me Maybe" and it was lame as hell.
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                    • #25
                      Originally posted by sakura_girl View Post
                      I was classically trained for 5 years. I haven't played in a while, but the last piece I worked on was Rachmaninoff's Prelude in g minor. I enjoy Rachmaninoff, Gershwin, and Debussy, but I also like Bach. I tried to play "Call Me Maybe" and it was lame as hell.
                      ah, so if it's classical, i think you should take all your negative feelings and put them into the music. rachmaninoff and beethoven are great, but i think you should take Chopin out for a spin...he's easy to get lost in (listening to him, anyway)
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                      • #26
                        Originally posted by primalrob View Post
                        ah, so if it's classical, i think you should take all your negative feelings and put them into the music. rachmaninoff and beethoven are great, but i think you should take Chopin out for a spin...he's easy to get lost in (listening to him, anyway)
                        Any specific pieces that come to mind?
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                        • #27
                          My mom was a concert pianist (she died last April). As a child, I used to lay under her grand piano when she practiced. (I can still draw what the underside of grand piano looks like by heart!) One of my Chopin favorites that she used to play was Nocturne in C# Minor.

                          Learn that one and think of my mom, who was a wonderful lady!

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                          • #28
                            Make a list of good things, things to be grateful for.

                            For example, when having your lunch, be grateful that you live in the developed world, that these foods are accessible to you and that you have the sense to eat this well. When with friends and family, be grateful for the fact you have them, by your side, when needed. If you fall over and are uninjured, be grateful for your luck and health. If it's nice and sunny, be grateful for sunlight!

                            Take in every second that works out. If it went well, focus on it, enjoy it. If it didn't go well, make a mental note on how to avoid it in the future and move on. Really live every second of ANYTHING that's going well.

                            No one thing can make you happy. Many things combined will make you happy and almost everyone has a few things that are going well in their lives. But you need to notice them.
                            For example, right now, this very second, I'm happy. It's Reading Week at uni, some family is visiting, I've had a yummy coffee with milk and butter which came out JUST right and I'm relaxing, enjoying messing around online after a day of walking and carrying heavy weights. Those four things are the main reasons I'm happy. And, now I look at them, they're not all that significant. But I'm focusing on them and enjoying every second. It's all about the attitude.
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                            Perfection is entirely individual. Any philosophy or pursuit that encourages individuality has merit in that it frees people. Any that encourages shackles only has merit in that it shows you how wrong and desperate the human mind can get in its pursuit of truth.

                            --
                            I get blunter and more narcissistic by the day.
                            I'd apologize, but...

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                            • #29
                              Fresh air and walking always help me when I'm feeling down. The people who said "Fake it till you make it" are right! When you are feeling blah, try smiling. Seriously! Not sure all the science behind it, but the act of smiling actually signals your mind to believe you are happy. It's bizarre, but it works for me. There's a blog I read called The Happiness Project, by Gretchin Rubin. She researches and writes about happiness, and has some really great insights that have helped me in my daily life.

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                              • #30
                                Originally posted by Goldie View Post
                                Years ago I just decided to be happy. Whenever I get irritated or depressed about something, I acknowledge the feeling and then decide not to feel that way. It doesn't work 100% of the time, but in general, just "deciding" to not feel the negative emotion works for me. I think a good part of it is acknowledging the negative emotion--once I recognize it, I find it easier to dismiss it.

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                                Everything is temporary. Let go of the negative things and the positive will replace it.
                                +1. This is a very simple technique but can be very powerful.
                                F 5 ft 3. HW: 196 lbs. Primal SW (May 2011): 182 lbs (42% BF)... W June '12: 160 lbs (29% BF) (UK size 12, US size 8). GW: ~24% BF - have ditched the scales til I fit into a pair of UK size 10 bootcut jeans. Currently aligning towards 'The Perfect Health Diet' having swapped some fat for potatoes.

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