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  • #31
    Originally posted by Bosnic View Post
    I disagree with some people here. Unless you're looking for a fling, being upfront as early as possible is a good thing in most cases.
    Yeah, I was not that into him. I was being wing-woman talking to this guy for my friend that was interested in his friend. I brought it up because Primal is new to me, I'm excited about it and sometimes I like to discuss with others to see their view/reaction.

    And I was married before too. I've only been back on the market for just over a year. I know what the bar scene is and what it's about. I was there with some girlfriends having a drink and enjoying a night out, not hunting for a husband.

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    • #32
      Oh, we're talking bar culture stuff. Yeah, I have no experience with the bar scene. I meet people through activities like hiking, playing music or other things involving mutual interests. In those venues, you can actually talk and in general we start with asking about what you do or what brought you to this event or hey, your bass playing is really adding a lot to the jam tonight.
      Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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      • #33
        I brought it up because Primal is new to me, I'm excited about it and sometimes I like to discuss with others to see their view/reaction.
        i got that you meant generally, not specifically this particular guy. and as i said, you cant change people so it is just something to look out for. most real men around here lol are pretty into their meat. bbqs are so good. men who hunt are always fine too. so, for me, it is usually workaroundable, as we all eat the same things but they have bread or potatoes with their food. when we go out, i just have steak and salad. they have my chips. one time we got stuck somewhere in the middle of the night and i ended up with the burger and the salad. he had my chips and bun and one of the chicks out with us had my coke. the burger prob had nasty stuff in too but at that stage, i wasnt gonna cause a stink. another generalisation, but men seem to always be fine with the way i eat, provided i dont preach about what they eat. they are also used to slim women not eating dessert for diet reasons. and funnily enough, alot of the men i know dont have a sweet tooth. when you get a problem is if you end up with someone, eg my ex husband, who views junk food as mana from the gods, not a last ditch option when you are on the road.

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        • #34
          You do know if you are a good enough cook, you can make almost any man primal.

          My (ex?) vegetarian husband is excited about ribs tonight. Ant texted me to buy kielbasa. And bitches about his bacon not being crisp enough.

          There are a lot of guys who will gladly look past your bread hatred when you grill two perfect steaks and eat the bigger one.

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          • #35
            Originally posted by magnolia1973 View Post
            There are a lot of guys who will gladly look past your bread hatred when you grill two perfect steaks and eat the bigger one.
            I was with you right up until you ate my steak
            Disclaimer: I eat 'meat and vegetables' ala Primal, although I don't agree with the carb curve. I like Perfect Health Diet and WAPF Lactofermentation a lot.

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            5,000 Cal Fat <> 5,000 Cal Carbs
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            TQP: I find for me that nutrition is much more important than what I do in the gym.
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            • #36
              Last guy I went out with thought it would be funny to put sugar in my coffee. Dating sucks.
              You know all those things you wanted to do: You should go do them.

              Age 48
              height 5'3
              SW 215 lbs
              CW 180 lbs (whole foods/primal eating)
              LW 172 lbs
              GW 125ish lbs

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              • #37
                BTW, bars are about the worst place to meet someone, unless you're just looking for sex (or "hooking up" as it's called now).

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                • #38
                  I always eat the bigger steak.
                  Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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                  • #39
                    He was trying to make a connection and see if you were fun by giving you a shit test. There have been some great examples of fun replies to his questions here. If you weren't into him cause you were the wingman and were taking one for the team, that's ok. If you want to have some fun and meet new people, then try to lighten up a bit.

                    That old joke about how can you tell a vegetarian? Easy, they'll tell you....Don't be the primal version of that. I'd walk away if I sensed you wear it like a badge.

                    I wish you all the best in your relatively new single life!

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                    • #40
                      I think I'm going to pick my next guy by how he cooks his barbecue. Now, if there was just an easy way to weed out the over-cookers...

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by sbhikes View Post
                        I always eat the bigger steak.
                        you and I could get along, and at the same time, we wouldn't.

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                        • #42
                          *Caveat- I never did the bar or club scene. Ever.*
                          I always answered whatever question there was truthfully. I remember an ex asking if I liked eggplant, because his Mom apparently made a mean eggplant parmigiana. I told him the truth. "The only eggplant I've ever had had the taste and texture of wet sand, but I'm willing to give it another shot."
                          Had another engineering student hit on me in the lab and ask if I wanted to go to a bar with him and his buddies. He got "Not big on the bar scene, but I'd love to get some coffee."
                          I've never been one to lie, but I've also never been one to make a big deal out of something. "Want a whiskey and coke" probably would've gotten "If you'll leave the Coke out, sure!" "What's your favorite sandwich place" would've gotten "Not a big sandwich person, but there's a great [cuisine] restaurant near here. Have you been there?"
                          Deflect and redirect, is what it boils down to.
                          Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, steak in one hand, chocolate in the other, yelling "Holy F***, What a Ride!"
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                          • #43
                            Originally posted by teach2183 View Post
                            If you're looking for some amazing prince, you're likely looking in the wrong place. I met my DH when I was 19, so I never went to bars looking for a date. But guys at bars looking for a date are going to ask generic questions to weed out girls, like zoe suggested. No one is saying you should be dishonest, just know that it's light banter in a bar and don't make it a serious conversation.
                            Originally posted by mikebike View Post
                            BTW, bars are about the worst place to meet someone, unless you're just looking for sex (or "hooking up" as it's called now).
                            I introduced myself to a guy in a bar... 10 months later we got married... and it's been over 26 years now...

                            The worst place for me to meet guys, in days gone by, was church.
                            Female, age 51, 5' 9"
                            SW - 183 (Jan 22, 2012), CW - 159, GW - healthy.

                            Met my 2012 goals by losing 24 pounds.
                            2013 goals are to get fit and strong!

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                            • #44
                              Originally posted by KV8R View Post
                              you and I could get along, and at the same time, we wouldn't.
                              I always eat the rarer steak, too. We could always double-date.
                              Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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                              • #45
                                I've been in this situation too. I can see the points made in keeping things light and flirtatious. I'm not there yet, I guess! I tend to go with the honest answers much like the OP. Guess I have some learning to do.

                                OTOH, if food preferences do come up I want to make sure I'm not wasting my time with a totally inveterate junk food junkie. So it's hard to know what to do.

                                I had an awesome conversation last week at a Single's Potluck with the guy behind me in line (really good looking), talking about why I don't eat bread or desserts unless I make my own. He asked me why I brought Eggplant Pizzas and it turned out we have shared the same health issues. He's now fully T2 diabetic, but keeping it under control with diet and exercise. He was fascinated to hear about Paleo/Primal eating and I think we might have more conversations about it in the future :-)

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