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  • Yikes, good luck on the double-date! Sounds terrifying.

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    • Originally posted by LordPistacchio View Post
      Semantically correct. But then altruism isn't truly possible.
      exactly

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      • Originally posted by LordPistacchio View Post

        The only new update is that my wife and OW are arranging a double date with me/wife and OW/douchebag for tomorrow evening. I'm terrified.
        that sounds like a totally horrible idea. is your wife a secret sadist?
        As I ate the oysters with their strong taste of the sea and their faint metallic taste that the cold white wine washed away, leaving only the sea taste and the succulent texture, and as I drank their cold liquid from each shell and washed it down with the crisp taste of the wine, I lost the empty feeling and began to be happy and to make plans.

        – Ernest Hemingway

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        • You know, If I ate popcorn, I'd be pigging out on it, reading this thread. Good thing... I don't, and I'm not.

          Thoughts:

          Good on you/your wife for discussing the issue.
          My husband and I are very open in our communications, and we also understand that "attraction" is basically a chemical reaction (hello, pheromones!), and means absolutely NOTHING. "Love" on the other hand, is all about wanting the other person to be happy, and is really big on self-sacrifice. Don't confuse the two.
          Should either of us have an attraction issue, we fess up to it to each other. Yes, it does happen. No, it is NOT a symptom of a marriage problem. The solution to it is generally distance, and/or open discussion with spouse, which can put it in perspective.

          Once you keep "secrets" ... things tend to go downhill fast. Being discreet about dealing with uncomfortable feelings isn't necessarily "secrets", but at some point, getting that aired out will help.

          Yes, it is perfectly possible to:
          A) Have "attraction" to more than one person at a time, and
          B) Love more than one person (ask any parent) at a time.

          The question, therefore, is what is your priority? This would be a good focus for your counseling sessions, in my opinion.

          I'm going back to not eating popcorn, now.

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          • Originally posted by cori93437 View Post
            Except that what you are talking about doesn't work across the board for all members of the same sex.
            That's why it's called a generalisation. It's different from a blanket statement.

            btw, any time someone brings credentials into a discussion like that, it makes them look silly. just a tip

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            • Originally posted by Sabre View Post
              That's why it's called a generalisation. It's different from a blanket statement.

              btw, any time someone brings credentials into a discussion like that, it makes them look silly. just a tip
              Making assumptions about people based on the set of genitals between their legs makes you look silly regardless of whether you want to call it a generalization or a blanket statement, people with credentials don't do it... unless they're shills.
              That was my point.
              “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
              ~Friedrich Nietzsche
              And that's why I'm here eating HFLC Primal/Paleo.

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              • you know, i have to be honest, if my other set up a double date like that i'd be terrified too, and say 'no. no. nuh uh. no. NO. let's go have sex for a few days.'
                beautiful
                yeah you are

                Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.
                lol

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                • "@twa2w- if the women are getting more than the men, you can easily have 20 happy bonking women and 60 happy bonking men...your math-fu is weak "

                  All I can say to this is that there are three kinds of people in this world - those that can add and those that can't ;-)

                  I can't help people who are inumerate.

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                  • Originally posted by cori93437 View Post
                    Making assumptions about people based on the set of genitals between their legs makes you look silly regardless of whether you want to call it a generalization or a blanket statement, people with credentials don't do it... unless they're shills.
                    That was my point.
                    How about this one: humans with penises between their legs tend to be stronger than humans with vaginas.

                    See? There's nothing silly about generalisations. They just make people upset.

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                    • Originally posted by Sabre View Post
                      How about this one: humans with penises between their legs tend to be stronger than humans with vaginas.
                      Yeah yeah - let me see you push a baby out of your penis, then we'll talk strong.
                      "Right is right, even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong, even if everyone is doing it." - St. Augustine

                      B*tch-lite

                      Who says back fat is a bad thing? Maybe on a hairy guy at the beach, but not on a crab.

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                      • LMFAO !!!!!!! push a baby out of your penis - you boyz have got no idea !!!!!!
                        "never let the truth get in the way of a good story "

                        ...small steps....

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                        • A double date? No Effin' way man. I'm in this thread just to hear how that goes!

                          Dude, you need some physical distance from OW to so you have the space you need to create emotional distance. Simple as that.

                          No judgements on how this all happened, cause shit does happen. Just suck it up and fix it.

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                          • A double date? Oh, this should be awesome.

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                            • So...The Date.

                              I've been hesitant to say anything because ever since I told my wife about everything, it's been so anticlimactic. We all had fun last night and clueless douchebag is still clueless.

                              Douchebag had to leave early to catch a flight for work so my wife, WO and I talked. I think it's important to understand that all of the parties involved are simply too close for physical separation to work, unless someone's family moves away. We are next-door neighbors with kids who play together. Douchebag works out of town and is rarely home so WO still needs help and support. We are a tight-knit little extended family (tribe?) and can't afford to banish anyone because of this.

                              So WO and I acknowledged that we both have work to do. WO and I are both seeking therapy. She has to get herself together generally and I have some cognitive adjustments to make. I have no choice but to separate myself emotionally from her for a while and hopefully make the adjustments needed to be the friend WO needs without compromising anything with my wife.

                              I know that there are many who will be skeptical that this could work, and maybe it won't. If not, then WO and I will have to remain distant emotionally.

                              And I apologize deeply for the disappointing ending. I briefly considered making something up about a poly relationship or a brawl with douchebag, but we're all just going to work on fixing ourselves.

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                              • how frightfully adult !
                                As I ate the oysters with their strong taste of the sea and their faint metallic taste that the cold white wine washed away, leaving only the sea taste and the succulent texture, and as I drank their cold liquid from each shell and washed it down with the crisp taste of the wine, I lost the empty feeling and began to be happy and to make plans.

                                – Ernest Hemingway

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