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I went through those feelsing when my husband left me. Don't put your body through what I put mine through though. I could not eat for 2 months. I lived on about 200 calories a day that I forced into my body. I had to go to the hospital because I felt so awful. I regularly passed out in the shower, etc. I needed to lose weight but this was not the way to do it. My nails broke, my hair fell out, I looked awful and I was weak. It took months to feel strong again. I lost muscle along with fat. I sat in the dark in my room and cried. I did not sleep. I let life pass me by. What a waste! Two months gone of my life for someone who valued me so little that he walked out on me and left me in the most heartless way ever.
I know this is probably not the best plan but I started seeing someone. It gave me something to live for (other than the obvious) and distracted me. Then I played around with some onlinie dating sites. I found someone really special. A lot of people will say you should wait awhile and mourn your loss but everyone is different. A little fun, adventure and distraction might just pull you through the hard times and get the healing started. Heck I think there is a primal dating site!
Thank you for the support and advice- it's very nice and very appreciated.
Last Monday she wrote me an email.
I din't respond to this but posted a photo gallery on Facebook of photos of us having fun together this past summer, with a description "@Her while my heart hurts so much right now I will remember our summer together fondly. I wish you always the best; thank you for everything". Just my way of trying to let her know I accepted the situation.
That afternoon I got a text from her:
"I saw your facebook message and your pictures. I think matters of the heart are better left off of Facebook, so I wanted to respond to you personally- my heart hurts too and I will always remember you fondly. It was an epic summer and I hope we can talk again someday"
I didn't respond to that.
I need some help with this though:
I got two texts just now from her:
"Hi TFC - obviously you don't want to talk to me. I get it but I have your belongings and would like to return them to you, how would you like me to do this?"
"Also, I would like to keep it as its very meaningful to me, but understand if you would like the chest back. Let me know."
All she has of mine is a cell phone charger, a button up shirt, some socks. I want her to throw it all away I don't care about it and I don't want to see her again. Seeing her again just to reclaim worthless crap would hurt so much. Beyond that I don't even want to text her back or talk to her ever again. It would cause me a lot of pain.
She has some toiletries at my place that I handed her when she broke with me 8 days ago, but she refused to pick up and take with her. As far as I am concerned she doesn't want them either.
The chest she refers to is a piece of furniture I refurbished for her for her birthday in July as a surprise. You can see before/after pictures of it here: http://sdrv.ms/MYbYFO
I don't want to look at the chest again or even think about it.
Ask her if she wants to hook up one last time for closure kind of bfwb type deal- releive a little stress !!
Just my thoughts
Raise grass fed bison all natural. trying to gage this comunity to see if their is any intrest?
You won't believe me, but one day in the future, a month or even a year from now, you'll find yourself laughing without thinking about it first. Then you will know you are healing.
Time, it's the only cure. And yes, bacon.
Do what you love and do it often. If you don't like something, change it. if you don't like your job, quit. If you don't have enough time, stop watching tv. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop, they will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love. Stop over analyzing, life is simple. When you eat, appreciate every last bite. Some opportunities only come once, seize them.
I don't know if you consider yourself religious or spiritual in any way...but...
...when I had a horribly broken heart many years ago...I prayed and prayed and prayed and prayed...I read the passage in the Gospel of Luke about not worrying and God will take care of you no matter what. I felt desperately alone and it was the only thing that saved me from a horrible situation. I also read "The Red Book" by Sara Beak and was exactly what I needed at the time. Funny how that works. It is geared towards women, but anyone can read it and benefit, I think.
Just so you know, I'm a recovering Catholic. I do not attend any church of any kind. But I'm kind of a religious/spiritual studies nerd and I've been on a deeply winding path for most of my life.
I remember a post you made about her recently regarding text misinterpretations, that was you, yes? So sorry to hear that things have not worked out.
For me, the best thing when I am very sad, or feeling sick, or anything is to throw myself completely and entirely into my two favorite things: my job, and World of Wacraft (don't judge me =P). Just focus really hard on your favorite things and that will help you get through this. Try not to be doing nothing, as idleness leads to over thinking.
OP: Find the time to be alone, and deal with it all. Most of the time when I hear things like this, people are usually emotionally dependent on their partner. If this is the case, I find it best to suggest people spend more time alone (you spend time with those you love, so spend time with yourself!). This will at least lessen the blow to at least some form of insult, rather than a life destroying situation.
this is after six days of nothing. The last text she sent which I didn't respond to was
"Thanks, TFC that means a lot. I hope you are doing well too. This is all very difficult and I don't want to make anything more difficult. It's hard not talking to you."
WHAT THE FUCK.
I Haven't reciprocated contact I haven't even initiated it. Here she is initiating it... what am I to think> WHat is natural to think? Is she setting me up to crush my heart again? It isn't fair. I haven't said anything since she broke it off why would she initiate contact to break it again?????