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    Hey there everyone!

    How have you been?

    Things have not been well in the land of the werewolf. ;_;

    I was swimming along just dandily, and then...Life totally got in the way. I was 95% primal, doing all kinds of (Beginner level) Convict conditioning... I was down over 35lbs!

    And then...well, my girlfriend moved in.

    My girlfriend doesn't like to cook. She doesn't like fish. She doesn't like seafood. She doesn't know how to grill, and refuses to learn (If she refuses to learn, she never has to do it!) She doesn't know how to broil, she insists there needs to be bread and potatoes in everything...

    Cue depression.

    I quit eating primal, I gave in to her demands for fast food, ice cream...and indulged myself.

    Now I'm back to where I was before, and...I don't want to be here!!

    So, I'm going to try to get back. Some words of encouragement are totally needed, everyone! My life has not been good for some time, and I could totally use some gentle get back on the horse. (Is the horse delicious? Can I eat it?)

    I hope you all remember me! I'm gonna try to become an active member again!

    I've got the PB on my Kindle, and I'm reading the Omnivore's Dilema. Good to see you all again!
    Down from 275 to 250!
    Werewolf Primal Living Blog - http://lycanthropology.com
    Some fact, a lot of fiction! Keep track of my progress there!

  • #2
    I know what I would do, but then I'm me.....ditch the GF and find a new one!
    “But a smell shivered him awake.It was a scent as old as the world. It was a hundred aromas of a thousand places. It was the tang of pine needles. It was the musk of sex. It was the muscular rot of mushrooms. It was the spice of oak. Meaty and redolent of soil and bark and herb. It was bats and husks and burrows and moss. It was solid and alive - so alive! And it was close"

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    • #3
      Most of the time my boyfriend and i eat separate meals. Sounds like hard work but actually it's easier and means I don't need to compromise what I want to eat. So let her get her take away and have her bread, just don't join in! Sounds hard at first but you get used to it. Some meals you can share eg do a roast and she can have roasties with hers and you just have the meat n veg Or you have steak n veg, she can have chips with hers and so on. I find it less stressful this way. Good luck

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      • #4
        Yeah, eat separately and try explaining to her what your health means to you. If she ridicules you, time to move on. Maybe she's sabotaging you, but I don't want to presume too much here...
        F 28/5'4/100 lbs

        "I'm not a psychopath, I'm a high-functioning sociopath; do your research."

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        • #5
          Will she read PB too? If she won't take the time to research your style of living and meet you half way, you do have a choice to make.
          Cook for the house, and bring her over to the "dark side", or just like others suggested, eat separately.

          Are you sure this is a person you want to spend time with in a long term?

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          • #6
            You are the most important person here. Focus on eating right and getting healthy.
            Eating primal is not a diet, it is a way of life.
            PS
            Don't forget to play!

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            • #7
              I totally get it. You've finally got the girl thing going on in your life and would do almost anything to keep that. But the next question becomes do you want to needlessly give your life for her. If you keep on this way, you will die fat and unhappy and she may decide to walk in after you've managed to gain another 20-50lbs and are really depressed. I would state the facts about what you've learned to her while letting her know what she means to you. Then draw a line in the sand and say no more. If she wants fast food, do not go along "to be nice" or indulge in any way. Same with ice cream. Suggest a nice walk or fun activity that she may like. If she choses ice cream any way, you know that the food is more important than time with you and you may never change that. Some people's habits are like that. You go out and do something you like to do or cook for yourself at home while she gets her treat. This is a big obstacle to manuver in your relationship. If it does not go well, then get back to basics and find you again. She was drawn to the person you were 35lbs ago. I bet she really likes who you were becoming.

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              • #8
                Here's a thought.... YOU COOK.

                Cook and shop for your own ass. My husband eats ice cream and bread. I don't. If I can ignore him, you can ignore her.

                http://maggiesfeast.wordpress.com/
                Check out my blog. Hope to share lots of great recipes and ideas!

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by magnolia1973 View Post
                  Here's a thought.... YOU COOK.

                  Cook and shop for your own ass. My husband eats ice cream and bread. I don't. If I can ignore him, you can ignore her.
                  My thoughts exactly.
                  Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by magnolia1973 View Post
                    Here's a thought.... YOU COOK.

                    Cook and shop for your own ass. My husband eats ice cream and bread. I don't. If I can ignore him, you can ignore her.
                    That's what worked for me! I started cooking my own food. It's been working for us for over a year now. I cook and eat what I want, and she usually eats it too, but sometimes if she wants something different, she cooks it. When we eat out, I've learned to navigate any menu, it just takes a little practice.

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                    • #11
                      Boyfriend and I were splitting the cooking responsibilities when we first moved in together (and I was only a few months primal). Sometimes that meant just leaving out the soy sauce in the fried rice, sometimes that meant cooking sweet potatoes with the regular potatoes (though I eat regular potatoes now). When I cooked, that meant spaghetti squash for me and regular spaghetti for him. Eventually, HE complained about the effort of making things differently, so now we eat the same primal dinners I'm still trying to figure out ways to get him to eat more primal lunches or breakfasts (because ramen for lunch and then in the middle of the night is NOT NUTRITIOUS DAMMIT). He does like to cook.

                      Make sure she understands that you need to eat a certain way for your health. Hopefully she will respect that. If she's not going to cook things that work for you, you'll just have to cook for yourself. I'm not saying it won't be a hassle, but it might be the only way you can get a good meal.

                      What the hell does SHE eat? In general, it's pretty unreasonable (in my opinion) for her to expect to cater to her dietary "needs" and desires, without contributing to meal creation herself.
                      Depression Lies

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                      • #12
                        By the way, I do cook for my husband, who is not a fan of meat. I usually make him fish and then we share side dishes. Last night I made him almond crusted flounder with a lemon butter sauce, roasted squash and a big ass salad. He had exactly no complaints and thought of it as the best meal ever. 100% primal.

                        http://maggiesfeast.wordpress.com/
                        Check out my blog. Hope to share lots of great recipes and ideas!

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                        • #13
                          Uhm, you cook. If she doesn't like what you have cooked, she can go and get her own food.
                          "Though she be but little, she is fierce!" - William Shakespeare

                          http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...tml#post964333 (My journal)

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                          • #14
                            Who cooked your food before she moved in?

                            Did neither of you consider these details before shacking up? How well do you really know each other?
                            Sandra
                            *My obligatory intro

                            There are no cheat days. There are days when you eat primal and days you don't. As soon as you label a day a cheat day, you're on a diet. Don't be on a diet. ~~ Fernaldo

                            DAINTY CAN KISS MY PRIMAL BACKSIDE. ~~ Crabcakes

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                            • #15
                              Hey all!

                              I've been with her for six or seven years now, and I cooked my own food previously. (Which is why I was able to stick so well to Primal!) but when she moved in near the beginning of the year, she said that she would prepare the meals. I told her that I'd really like to stick to Primal, and she says "Oh, well, a few potatoes aren't going to kill you." and "It's just a little sugar in the chicken!" (WTF?) (And by a little she means about a quarter cup.) And "I've set out some pound cake for you, eat it before it goes bad." She doesn't take what I'm doing seriously, because to her, it's not serious.

                              I've been doing my part. I generally make a lot of crock-pot meals (Because WF has been having a lot of stellar sales on roasts!) I bake my own fish (She hates fish) pan fry my own scallops, make my own soups (Typically a from scratch chicken coconut curry with home made stock), roll my own meatballs, and do all of the grilling. I make quite a bit of my own food, but she also eats a lot earlier than I do (She needs to eat around 5-6PM) and I don't even get home from work until around 7 or 8, so she makes extra of whatever she's eating, and expects me to eat it before it 'goes bad'. She doesn't like eating leftovers. I've got a bit of a hangup about food going to waste (Comes from being poor as a teenager) so I tend to finish off things she doesn't eat as well.

                              I would love it if she'd buy her own food, but, currently, I'm the only one with a job, and I buy all the food. She gets sick if she doesn't eat the foods she likes (Which, interestingly enough, MAKE HER SICK!!) and I think it's pretty much a case of "I want you to be like me."

                              Thanks for all your suggestions, folks! I'm going to be eating more fish (It's really cheap here in Cali) and sticking to strictly making my own meals. It's just really financially difficult to be funding both Primal and SAD. ;_;
                              Down from 275 to 250!
                              Werewolf Primal Living Blog - http://lycanthropology.com
                              Some fact, a lot of fiction! Keep track of my progress there!

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