Even the post "Grow a pair or stop complaining" made me go "maybe it was a mistake to come back...?" And I totally understand why it was made, but, I dunno, cowardly and easily intimidated, and my self esteems taken a huge hit, so I just assume no one wants me around. Pretty much ever.
that said, she's not being very respectful in what looks like ANY aspect of your relationship. my suggestion is write a letter, bullet points and everything