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  • #61
    Originally posted by quelsen View Post
    Kenn FTW
    Starting Date: Dec 18, 2010
    Starting Weight: 294 pounds
    Current Weight: 235 pounds
    Goal Weight: 195 pounds

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    • #62
      Originally posted by Apex Predator View Post
      The issue with this, and the other people encouraging him to stay, is that staying with someone with BPD is an excellent way to die, end up in the hospital or jail, or worse.
      Heh.

      Now you're getting it.

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      • #63
        Having dealt with a friend with BPD, I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone with it. If you're abused in any way then it's time to get out. 8 years is a long time, but if you haven't made any headway in the respect department then you should get out. I can imagine it's pretty scary (I've been with my husband for almost 10 years and the idea of something like that happening frightens me) but you said it yourself, you cannot save the world. You need to think about yourself, your life, and it's a good sign that you're here. That means you are trying to improve your life. If she's actively holding you back.. How long can you live your life for someone else?

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        • #64
          Treat yourself to some space for reflection, say a weekend getaway to Sarasota, Florida?

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          • #65
            Originally posted by DarthFriendly
            Why is everyone assuming that dildo is the injured party here, or that his description of his s.o. is accurate?
            Because we watch him on a hidden camera live video feed 24/7. You didn't get the link?
            Durp.

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            • #66
              Originally posted by DarthFriendly
              Why is everyone assuming that dildo is the injured party here, or that his description of his s.o. is accurate?
              I'm holding out for more proof . . . .
              Buy house, Demolish house, Build house.

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              • #67
                Originally posted by Blackcatbone View Post
                I'm holding out for more proof . . . .
                This...I want photos of blood and accompanying police reports.

                Or not.
                I responded with ...If the situation is as stated GTFO.
                That doesn't require any further proof.
                “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
                ~Friedrich Nietzsche
                And that's why I'm here eating HFLC Primal/Paleo.

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                • #68
                  Either way, doesn't matter, she could be a saint, he's not happy, get out.

                  SERIOUSLY if you dislike your relationship, get the fack out before you have kids

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                  • #69
                    Originally posted by cori93437 View Post
                    This...I want photos of blood and accompanying police reports.

                    Or not.
                    I responded with ...If the situation is as stated GTFO.
                    That doesn't require any further proof.
                    Yeah, I decided to sit this one out. He had enough people telling him what to do if it was in fact the case, but given his track record for shittiness, well, you know . . .
                    Buy house, Demolish house, Build house.

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                    • #70
                      Originally posted by CarlaC View Post
                      Don't listen to what Saoirse said- no divorce lawyer has ever walked into someone's life and demanded to clean up someone else's mess.
                      confused, what did i say? i was only pointing out that the lawyer is out to make money, so be wary. if he's married and she's as described, there's a 99% chance that he will need a lawyer. he should just remember that the lawyer's not a friend.
                      Originally posted by DarthFriendly
                      He describes a woman he's been living with for 8 years as a "psychotic bitch" and no one seems to question this.

                      "Awwwww. I feel so bad for you, get out as soon as powssibwell, you have to think of yourself...." seems to be the most common response.

                      Anyone who's read dildo's bullshit would have to wonder that if after 8 years of putting up with that crap any woman might not a little testy.

                      Where's the sisterhood at bitches?

                      You're just taking a man's side on scant evidence.

                      "Yeah, you go dildo, run out on the woman who's been paying your bills, cooking, cleaning, supporting and wiping up after you for 8 years. You deserve better."

                      Not that any of that is accurate, just wondering about the assumptions people are making here.
                      it's definitely crossed my mind. but then i realized that if he's describing his SO as a bitch, she's better off without him.
                      my primal journal:
                      http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...Primal-Journal

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                      • #71
                        aren't people just reacting to the thought of staying with someone who has BPD?

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                        • #72
                          Originally posted by lambchop View Post
                          aren't people just reacting to the thought of staying with someone who has BPD?
                          No... I ignored that part...
                          If he was being abused as claimed was the basis for my own GTFO comment.

                          In hindsight... GTFO regardless...
                          Because if there is not "abuse" you are telling people that your SO is an abusive BPD psychotic bitch...
                          So no matter what the advice is the same... GTFO.
                          Either because he is being abused or just because he is unhappy and likely making her really f*king unhappy too!
                          “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
                          ~Friedrich Nietzsche
                          And that's why I'm here eating HFLC Primal/Paleo.

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                          • #73
                            Yeah, if you are announcing to the world she's a bitch, that missing respect ain't gonna grow back

                            What is the past shitty behaviour? Nosey, I know, but curious!!

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                            • #74
                              Well if he doesn't love her anymore and talkes about her like this, it would be unfair to continue a relationship with her.
                              If she has borderline, it would require a stable and strong personality that has no need to go to an internet forum for relationship advice so it would be unfair for him to continue the relationship.

                              So either way ending the relationship is the best thing he can do.
                              He could consider counseling but than first thing would be her to get active against her BPD

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                              • #75
                                yes, it's ok to walk away.

                                yes, i agree that you should seek counseling. There will be a lot of healing that needs to happen for you.
                                Last edited by zoebird; 07-18-2012, 06:25 AM.

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