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    My sister has invited me and husband and our 4 kids ranging from 1.5 to 8 years old. We have been completely primal for about 3 months now and she knows we are doing some sort of different diet. So she invited us to dinner and said she is making fruit pie (with wheat), baked beans, potato salad, chicken, deviled eggs, and i am sure she will have the variety of pop. The olny thing of htis lot we would eat is the chicken and deviled eggs if it wasnt made with mayo.

    So we all go over there and just eat chicken and i will get the looks and maybe later a rant about not letting my kids eat normal food. Or, i can just avoid the whole situation and decline, even though e rest of my family will be there and family get togethers are important.

    What would you do? Am i being too picky? I need advice or support one way or another. Oh and btw, this sister iss the one who called me one the phone 3 months ago and said what i was doing was f'ed up. Even thaough she never asked why or asked for details. Thanks

  • #2
    Oh and i forgot, she is also having corn on the cob

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    • #3
      Eat the chicken and the eggs and enjoy if she starts complaining leave.
      Eating primal is not a diet, it is a way of life.
      PS
      Don't forget to play!

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      • #4
        Why not go and bring some extra vegetable side dishes and a fruit salad for dessert? That way you're contributing, and you have things to eat.

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        • #5
          Why don't you just bring a couple of primal firendly dishes to contribute to the dinner? Mark featured a great looking sweet potato salad yesterday. Fresh fruit. Bring enough so you are not just bringing food for your family to eat only.

          I personally would also have some corn on the cob. It's delicious and is an occasional indulgence for me in exactly these kind of situations.

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          • #6
            She never offered for me to bring anything, so that means that i shouldnt so i didnt ask. She is judgemental And very opinionated. I feel like she Is asking to still see if i am on this "diet."

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            • #7
              So call her up and tell her that yes you are still on this diet. She probably want a to know how much food to plan for. Tell her the items on her menu that your family won't eat and then tell her that you don't expect her to change her menu to accommodate your unconventional diet. That you would love to contribute a couple of dishes.

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              • #8
                Sounds like the gluten has gone to her brain.
                You could still offer to bring something and show up with veg and dip. If she acts up leave. Your only other alternative would be to cut ties with her if she is going to keep on this way.
                Eating primal is not a diet, it is a way of life.
                PS
                Don't forget to play!

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                • #9
                  Go and bring a dish you'll eat. Use your 20% to keep the peace. This is your family.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Howdiho View Post
                    So we all go over there and just eat chicken and i will get the looks and maybe later a rant about not letting my kids eat normal food. Or, i can just avoid the whole situation and decline, even though e rest of my family will be there and family get togethers are important.
                    Or, OR -- now hear me out, I know this is crazy -- OR, you eat the damned food for one insignificant day. Kind of like how you were eating 3 months ago and were perfectly alive and well.

                    Edit: Here is another thought. You certainly are treating this like any other short-term fad diet. If this is going to be how you eat for the rest of your life, then you have to be flexible enough to allow for, and dare I say, enjoy some deviations from it every now and then. It takes a certain type of personality to do something in an unrelenting, hardcore manner from day one and have it stick, but the average person is not like that. The more you resist temptation, the harder you will cave in down the road.
                    Last edited by Grumpycakes; 07-01-2012, 09:26 AM.
                    You lousy kids! Get off my savannah!

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                    • #11
                      Take a primal salad and some meatballs and watermelon to share. All are mainstream enough that nobody would question your 'crazy' new diet.

                      I have found it easier to quietly integrate grain free foods into the menu than set myself above or apart from the crowd. Don't be a diet pariah.
                      Sandra
                      *My obligatory intro

                      There are no cheat days. There are days when you eat primal and days you don't. As soon as you label a day a cheat day, you're on a diet. Don't be on a diet. ~~ Fernaldo

                      DAINTY CAN KISS MY PRIMAL BACKSIDE. ~~ Crabcakes

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Grumpycakes View Post
                        Or, OR -- now hear me out, I know this is crazy -- OR, you eat the damned food for one insignificant day. Kind of like how you were eating 3 months ago and were perfectly alive and well.

                        Edit: Here is another thought. You certainly are treating this like any other short-term fad diet. If this is going to be how you eat for the rest of your life, then you have to be flexible enough to allow for, and dare I say, enjoy some deviations from it every now and then. It takes a certain type of personality to do something in an unrelenting, hardcore manner from day one and have it stick, but the average person is not like that. The more you resist temptation, the harder you will cave in down the road.
                        That's a totally fine option, but it also sets a precedent for the sister to expect the family to eat food they don't want to eat, and she sounds like the kind of person who will give the poster shit even if she does just play along this time. 'Resisting temptation' isn't the problem here.


                        One route is to just eat chicken and eggs yourself (and potato salad if you want it, you're already eating mayonnaise), but let your kid and husbands eat as they please. Gives your sister less to gripe about.

                        Could you ask to invite some mutual friends who would eat your sister's food? Then there's an excuse to offer to make something to bring, so there will be 'enough to go around.'

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                        • #13
                          be honest with her and resist the passive-aggressive power play. tell her up-front that yes, you are still eating this way and that it's a change you plan to make for life. if you've yo-yo dieted in the past, she may have trouble believing you, but that is her issue, not yours.

                          tell her you have no wish to put her out and will bring a few dishes that everybody will enjoy. that's it.
                          As I ate the oysters with their strong taste of the sea and their faint metallic taste that the cold white wine washed away, leaving only the sea taste and the succulent texture, and as I drank their cold liquid from each shell and washed it down with the crisp taste of the wine, I lost the empty feeling and began to be happy and to make plans.

                          Ernest Hemingway

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                          • #14
                            Sounds like pretty standard Fourth of July picnic food to me. Traditional, even. So, take along a salad and some fruit as other suggested. If she says anything, say something like: "It's not the food, it's me (us). I didn't realize it until recently, but too much starch makes me (us) feel ill. So we just had a taste and are filling in with veggies and fruit. The chicken is delicious, by the way!" Then say something to distract her, like how cute her little Billy is holding his little sister under in the kiddie pool.

                            People are far more accepting of people who "can't" eat something than those who "won't". May be dumb, unfair, whatever, but it's still true. And if you eat just a little, but say you need to control your portions, you look even more reasonable. Confound their expectations and still stay (mostly) true to yourself!

                            ETA: But take a militant stand on the sodapop. That way, you'll be lucky if your kids only drink one instead of ten.
                            Last edited by Jodis; 07-01-2012, 10:11 AM.

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                            • #15
                              Family food is so frought with landmines. Best of luck to ya. My suggestion is to eat anything and everything as long as it doesn't contain any wheat. Just keep your hard line there. Personally, I find wheat to be the easiest way to backslide into eating crap all the time. If anyone asks about you and yours not eating wheat just say it upsets your stomachs. Eat and enjoy the rest. Be sure to compliment your hostess on the wonderful food and thank her for all her hard work several times. It will be hard for your sister to bitch at you when you're busy praising her. When you get there, hug her and kiss her and tell her how happy you are to see her. Then shout "Now let's party!!"

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