I can relate very much to the OP. the real issues boil down to the relationship, not the food. If you or someone in the family had a peanut allergy that sent them to the ER, there would be no big deal about providing your own food. The issue seems to be control. I for one am severely gluten intolerant and have dr's orders to strictly avoid it. My kids are showing signs as well. My dad is also gluten intolerant, so I can say it's a family allergy. But I have a family that will slip goodies to my kids behind my back and say oh, it's not a big deal when I find out. What that shows me is that they don't respect my parenting choices, and that's a deal breaker for me. In those cases, when food is just a battle in the midst of a bigger war, I would skip the event and have my own primal cookout. This does get lonely sometimes, but I have found that it is better to surround myself with friends who live a similar lifestyle OR who don't give me grief because of my choices. People run into these family issues all the time over food, relationships, money, why no grandkids yet, lifestyle choices, etc. And from what I've seen in battles for control, it is usually the ones who feel they have little or no control that fight the hardest for dominance. Maybe use that to your advantage. Call her up and say your family gets sick when you eat ___________. And ask what kind of food she thinks would go good with chicken, eggs, etc. Make it a puzzle she has to solve and give her the praise at the partty: "yes, this way of eating is so hard, and we get sick when we eat grains, but my lovely sister makes these gatherings so enjoyable for us because she can come up with the greatest alternatives and is such a perfect host for all people." If she has that reputation, she will have to uphold it lest she look like the incapable one.
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We have been invited to family 4th of july dinner. Would you eat this?