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    About 2 or 3 months ago, when I finally got the guts to go for another stub at my goal of 15% BF (on my WW scale), I gave a word to myself that I will not have my hair cut till I reach 17% BF. I was hovering over that number for third week in a row now, despite rather good regimen (I am doing U.D. 2). While 19 to 18% was good to go, 18 to 17 is harder (rather as expected, since it is not a range my body is accustomed to). Again, 17% on the WW scale, so it's not like I am dangerously thin & I understand it is not the most accurate, yada-yada-yada. That's NOT the point.

    Today I am toying with the idea of rewarding the behavoir, rather than the number. I had a glitches during the 1st day of carb-up, falling for sweets instead of good food in the pm (despite meeting calories and carbs), and still have troubles letting go of fruit. So, I am thinking that I can get my haircut if:

    -I hit my 17% close enough this or next Saturday

    OR

    -I have both met the following conditions:
    • clean carb up (no wheat, no added sugars, xpt 1 tbsp raw honey) Sat through Monday, with Sunday and Monday being classic No-Nuts Paleo.
    • clean carb-down on Tue-Friday: no dairy, no fruit, meet calorie requirements

    I can’t decide, because it feels like I am breaking my word to myself and trying to wiggle around the very specific conditions. Keeping my fingers crossed that I do not have to resolve this moral dilemma and just see that coveted 17% on the scale by next Saturday!
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  • #2
    so what do you want me to tell you? get the haircut.

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    • #3
      If your goal is happiness what has BF% got to do with it? One day at a time, go cut your hair.
      Wheat is the new tobacco. Spread the word.

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      • #4
        See how easily we tie ourselves up in knots over the silliest things?
        You lousy kids! Get off my savannah!

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        • #5
          Yeah, the Goal was Happiness, till I read that Blog by Mark about Paula. Now I am fighting the fat again. Gotta change my signature, I am afraid.
          My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread57916.html
          When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

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          • #6
            As soon as it become a negotiation and you're looking for loopholes - you might want to take a step back.

            Get a haircut because you need one. Eat food because you need to fuel you body. Make good choices because it's the right thing to do, not because you want a haircut.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by IvyBlue View Post
              If your goal is happiness what has BF% got to do with it? One day at a time, go cut your hair.
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              • #8
                I changed both my goal and my signature as I mentioned in the last post. I just can't seem to come to terms with never becoming slender even if it is more comfortable to stay fat.

                Get a haircut because you need one. Eat food because you need to fuel you body. Make good choices because it's the right thing to do, not because you want a haircut.
                I do not want to fuel my body. I need to push myself to stick to the restrictions applied by the healthy style. When I looked at Paleo to start with, the message was so cheery: Eat fresh meats, fruit, vegetables and nuts! Feel great. Well, turns out, you can't eat fruit, nuts and your cooking is severely limited by the restrictions on dairy, sugars and flours. You want to meet your macros, you have to limit your protein intakles to egg whites, tuna and chicken breasts, or your fat level shoots up like a rocket. You can't even have all you want vegetables, because your carbs are limited too, and, apparently, cabbage adds up to way too fast. Plus, you need to drop coffee (sugar spikes), dairy (isnuline) and even on carb-up days, you can't have fruit, sugar, and fat, so you eat 3000 calories worth of boiled rice. And, your weight doesn't drop off, oh, no. It hangs for dear life.

                Yeah, you need some sort of a reward to stick to it and power past depressive spells of hopelessness and thinking that you are going stay fat no matter what.
                Last edited by Leida; 11-10-2011, 09:51 AM.
                My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread57916.html
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                • #9
                  Get thee to a counselor. Life is too short to be unhappy because of a number.
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                  • #10
                    Never being slender? At 17% body fat? You are a woman, right? If you don't care to function as a woman, I recommend steroids to reach your BF goal.
                    Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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                    • #11
                      17% on my Weight Watcher scale, it is not the 'real' 17% as I mentioned in my first post. I am more likely at about 20% now or something like that. I just want to look slender, and I am not (thighs, no abs). Basically I want the same result i saw on Paula's story.

                      Get thee to a counselor. Life is too short to be unhappy because of a number.
                      You know, I don't understand it. I am trying to be proactive, solving my problem. You are telling me to waste my money on someone who is supposed to help me to reconsile myself to my flaw instead of working on overcoming it? No, it's not easy, but other people got there, why is it never me? After all, I was reconsiled for 2 years after the birth of my daughter to being a whale. I could have stayed there, I could have grown even fatter. Why did not I just go to the counsellor to figure out that my body is not worth fighting my urges to eat sweets over? Whenever I wanted something in my life I worked hard for it, and I have earned it. The only thing I keep failing to achieve is the slender body. I just need to find some way to apply the work and the mountain gonna move.
                      Last edited by Leida; 11-10-2011, 10:35 AM.
                      My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread57916.html
                      When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Leida View Post
                        Today I am toying with the idea of rewarding the behavoir, rather than the number.
                        Leida, get the haircut.
                        From what I can tell, you've made significant progress so far on UD 2. I think you are due for some positive reinforcement- to acknowledge your success and focus less on the coveted number-based goal.

                        I know where you're coming from. I've been trying to lose fat for the past year. I set rewards at goalposts and told myself I could buy new clothes, get a tattoo, etc when I reached X weight. The result was that I was stressed and obsessed when the scale didn't change and I was just yearning to get to the goal number. I did those things anyways even though I hadn't reached my goal and Im glad I did.

                        Its easy to say "be happy with yourself" or other pseudo-pscyhological bullshit but such advice usually comes from people who have have no understanding of the experience (validation, weighing). Its easier said than done. I know you wrote that you're not going to stop daily weighing, but I really think you'd have less cortisol if you remind yourself of how unreliable the scale is. In fact, if you lay off, you might get a whoosh soon. Good luck! Paula got there with some patience and you definitely will too.
                        Last edited by vdn; 11-10-2011, 10:58 AM.

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                        • #13
                          million hugs, vdn. I just sooo needed to hear something like that....
                          My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread57916.html
                          When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Grumpy Caveman View Post
                            See how easily we tie ourselves up in knots over the silliest things?
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                            • #15
                              A counselor is not to help you "reconcile yourself" to what your body is. He or she is to help you make sure that your goal is right/healthy. Given your earlier post about how much you "can't" have eating this way, maybe you need to reassess your goals? I'm not saying you CAN'T hit that number- just that the amount of cortisol you're expending on it might be inhibiting you.

                              Maybe you're reassessing the number because in the end it's not about the destination, it's about the journey? You are thinking about rewarding yourself for controlling what you can control- ie- what you eat/do. I don't see that as a step in the wrong direction. It sounds to me like a step toward knowing what you can control and what you can't.
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