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    I don't know about you but when I'm grieving I tend to turn to food-usually the wrong food. Anyone have ideas or tips on dealing with grief without turning to food?
    My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


    9/6/11: 390.1lbs

    5/22/12: 339.4lbs

    Goal: 175lbs

  • #2
    I'm sorry for your loss.

    I'm going through this right now too. My mother is losing her battle with cancer and I am her caregiver. I try to remember that using food as a drug to smother my feelings is not going to help me survive this nor change the circumstances in any way. Even so, I am not always successful especially when hormones are involved. So I just pick myself back up after each binge episode and go back to Primal.

    Hang in there.
    Primal since 9/24/2010
    "Our greatest foes, and whom we must chiefly combat, are within." Miguel de Cervantes

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    • #3
      First. Emotional eating.
      Try to find something that gives you a similar feeling that food gives you. Walking in the sunshine. Playing with a pet or child. A good book. Whatever. Look for activities that initiate emotional response.
      Second. If you are going to use food find primal food that comforts you. I like fried bacon and eggs with a side of dark chocolate. I get that feeling but without the guilt
      It is hard and something many of us battle with. Good Luck.

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      • #4
        Pebbles-Thank you. I just wrote about what's going on over in my journal but I've been watching it happen to my grandma all summer and we just got word that she is on her last leg. I've been trying really hard not to binge (not cheat-binge) and have been successful until now. I'm alone int he house for once so I am having to face myself. I can say that the food I'm binging on tastes awful and in the morning I'll be back on the wagon but right now I am just at a loss for how to deal with this all.

        P.S. Not to bring my gender into this but it probably doesn't help that it's that time. Since you mentioned hormones and all...
        Last edited by metalsporks; 09-23-2011, 06:48 PM.
        My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


        9/6/11: 390.1lbs

        5/22/12: 339.4lbs

        Goal: 175lbs

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        • #5
          Sempriona-I've been doing that sort of stuff already but it just wasn't cutting it tonight for some reason. I guess a slong as I keep it to this one time only and just jump back on, right? btw-this is why I'm listening to Christmas music when it's 3mo away...
          My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


          9/6/11: 390.1lbs

          5/22/12: 339.4lbs

          Goal: 175lbs

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          • #6
            Can you treat yourself to other things? Splurge on lotions, a massage, new music or books? Something comforting that isn't food? Buy yourself a really soft pair of PJs, make a paleo treat and watch sappy movies?
            Buy house, Demolish house, Build house.

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            • #7
              Blackcat-I would but there is no money for that stuff. There has been very little paleo food since I started so a paleo treat is pretty limited. The only things I've been able to do are watch movies, listen to music, and play with my DD who isn't here right now.
              My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


              9/6/11: 390.1lbs

              5/22/12: 339.4lbs

              Goal: 175lbs

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              • #8
                I also wanted to just thank you all for your support. It's nice to have somewhere to go.
                My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


                9/6/11: 390.1lbs

                5/22/12: 339.4lbs

                Goal: 175lbs

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by metalsporks View Post
                  Blackcat-I would but there is no money for that stuff. There has been very little paleo food since I started so a paleo treat is pretty limited. The only things I've been able to do are watch movies, listen to music, and play with my DD who isn't here right now.
                  Is there a library nearby? Something that you can do that's free that you enjoy? Something that can get you out of the house? Not necessarily tonight, but maybe in the morning? Have a soak in the tub or a hot shower and plan something fun or inspiring?
                  Buy house, Demolish house, Build house.

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                  • #10
                    I may just go take that shower you suggested while planning some sort of a primal treat liek what's been suggested. And I think I need to plan on taking a break tomorrow in between everything (moving and all) to go to the park or the beach.

                    Thank you all for your advice. You've been very helpful.
                    My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


                    9/6/11: 390.1lbs

                    5/22/12: 339.4lbs

                    Goal: 175lbs

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                    • #11
                      Yes, definitely plan a break. Moving is hard enough as it is, but moving while there are other things going on is 10X worse. You'll be much more effective at dealing with everything if you give yourself a little breathing room.
                      Buy house, Demolish house, Build house.

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                      • #12
                        I hope so. I was surprised I hadn't found a blog post on dealing with grief yet though! O.O
                        My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread34085.html


                        9/6/11: 390.1lbs

                        5/22/12: 339.4lbs

                        Goal: 175lbs

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                        • #13
                          There are two really good books that may help you...."On death and dying" and "On grief and grieving". Could you get these from the library? Sometimes reading about and understanding what is happening during the dying and grieving process can give just enough perspective to help you feel a little more in control. It's not about avoiding grief, but rather about understanding what is happening during the whole process so it doesn't feel so overwhelming and scary.
                          Last edited by jammies; 09-23-2011, 09:56 PM.
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                          • #14
                            Self care is really essential when someone you love is dying. I've been through a few experiences of loved ones and cancer in the last few years, including my mother's passing in 2009, and it's a hard thing to face. Make sure you are taking time for yourself, even if that's just getting out for a walk, reading a good book, or getting a hug when you need it. It's easy to forget your own needs when you're supporting someone else with a terminal illness, but you need to care for yourself too.

                            I hope you can find some peace and comfort in this time. We're just a bunch of people on the internet, but I hope the support here has helped.
                            “If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive.” --Audre Lorde

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                            • #15
                              I agree with the suggestion to find something else that you enjoy to take your mind off of your cravings. Using food as a comfort is a learned habit, and so can changed. I hadn't painted pictures since I was in elementary school, but one day my parents brought home some cheap painting supplies and asked that when I felt stressed or wanted to binge, that I paint instead. I was surprised at how much I liked it. It really helped. Painting may not be your thing. I also go for walks playing music I really enjoy. The key is to find something that helps distract you and take the edge off whatever is bothering you at the moment. Eventually, if you stick with it, you will take comfort in the new activity instead of taking comfort from unhealthy foods. Take care!

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