I've just started reading Marriage, A History by Stephanie Coontz, and it's really interesting. Much I already knew, but other things not so much. I think a lot of the marital turmoil these days has a lot to do with this being the first time ever in the history of humans that we marry for love and most have the ability to survive after divorce. The framework for modern marriage is relatively new, the last couple hundred years. Up until about 40 years ago women couldn't survive post divorce unless they came from wealthy families that would support them. Previously, marriage was seen as a social, financial, political contract. The idea of marrying for love was seen as radical and very much discouraged. Love was usually reserved for one's mistress or lover, not husband or wife. I had seen the hypothesis on numerous occasions that paleo culture wasn't monogamous and was somewhat skeptical. I'm leaning towards monogamy probably being practiced sometimes, especially when children were particularly vulnerable, but kin-groups were much more egalitarian and communal, so children had not just their parents but also extended family to help rear them. It's all pretty interesting to ponder.
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