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  • i think the gist of it is to be assertive and confident. don't be surprised if some of that advice backfires on you. some of us women really aren't into being told what to do, even if "experts" say we are biologically predisposed to want direction and commands. but then again, some of us women aren't into head games and don't want to be in a relationship with people who play around like that. another way to look at it is to decide what YOU are going to do (whether that's where you're eating, how you're spending your afternoon, or what mood you want to have), and ask her if she'd like to join you. honestly, self-help books have been recommending this for decades. you can only control yourself, and followers will follow if you lead confidently.

    for example, BS like this: "Women want men to rule them, protect them, guide them, tell them what to doÖ itís just the natural order." Pfft... right... men like to think this (and maybe it works for some women), but that attitude would not get my husband anywhere with me. at the same time, the author talks about groups of women trash-talkinging their husbands, and i agree with his advice there. if my husband was in a group of men trash-talking their wives, I would never stand for it. why on earth is it okay for women to do this to their husbands? i've actually stood up against my friends before because they were verbally denigrating their husbands.
    Last edited by Saoirse; 05-08-2011, 09:35 PM.
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    • Originally posted by Saoirse View Post
      ...some of us women really aren't into being told what to do...
      This is false. Now come rub my shoulders, I had a long day at work.

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      • Originally posted by Saoirse View Post
        i think the gist of it is to be assertive and confident. don't be surprised if some of that advice backfires on you. some of us women really aren't into being told what to do, even if "experts" say we are biologically predisposed to want direction and commands. but then again, some of us women aren't into head games and don't want to be in a relationship with people who play around like that. another way to look at it is to decide what YOU are going to do (whether that's where you're eating, how you're spending your afternoon, or what mood you want to have), and ask her if she'd like to join you. honestly, self-help books have been recommending this for decades. you can only control yourself, and followers will follow if you lead confidently.
        + infinity and beyond..
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        • Originally posted by Rivvin View Post
          This is false. Now come rub my shoulders, I had a long day at work.
          LOL now this is REALLY becoming the Manly man thread.. ;-) haha
          "If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." Nora Roberts

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          Currant: 136 lbs
          Goal: 125 lbs
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          • Originally posted by Rivvin View Post
            This is false. Now come rub my shoulders, I had a long day at work.
            lol.
            that would only work if i loved you and knew that you (as my love) were joking. my husband has pulled this on me many times, and if i wasn't feeling the love i'd just laugh and walk on by. then again, according to the descriptions, my husband may be a bit too alpha. and if i had married a beta, i would have ditched him long ago because i'm NOT a princess.
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            • and the comments are just unbelievable:
              "Years into my marriage, I just came out and told my wife that I’d be porking other chicks on occasion. It turns out that she had assumed I had already been doing so. She’s not exactly in love with the idea, but she knows I’m gonna do it anyhow, and is only afraid that I’ll actually fall in love with another (younger) woman. The brutal honesty makes the marriage stronger, and the sex hotter."

              wow...so he's fucking other women because he knows that his wife feels too shitty about herself to leave him? that true love man. again, i'd rather be alone than living with a dipshit, and my husband knows it.
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              • Originally posted by Saoirse View Post
                lol.
                that would only work if i loved you and knew that you (as my love) were joking. my husband has pulled this on me many times, and if i wasn't feeling the love i'd just laugh and walk on by. then again, according to the descriptions, my husband may be a bit too alpha. and if i had married a beta, i would have ditched him long ago because i'm NOT a princess.
                That would work because the attitude would make you love him. As you said, lead confidently. It's all about attitude. A man who does not truly feel that he is in command can memorize the most "alpha" lines in the world, but they will do him no good without the attitude to back them up. And by the time he has that attitude, he won't need to memorize anyone else's lines.
                You lousy kids! Get off my savannah!

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                • Originally posted by Saoirse View Post
                  wow...so he's fucking other women because he knows that his wife feels too shitty about herself to leave him?
                  He's fucking other women because he wants to.

                  that true love man.
                  Even though he has the ability to attract other women and have his choice of who to sleep with, he stays married to her. There's love.

                  again, i'd rather be alone than living with a dipshit, and my husband knows it.
                  Your husband knows you're keeping a close watch on him.
                  You lousy kids! Get off my savannah!

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                  • Originally posted by Grumpy Caveman View Post
                    That would work because the attitude would make you love him. As you said, lead confidently. It's all about attitude. A man who does not truly feel that he is in command can memorize the most "alpha" lines in the world, but they will do him no good without the attitude to back them up. And by the time he has that attitude, he won't need to memorize anyone else's lines.
                    The only problem with that is you can't *make* anybody do anything.. but the attitude/ confidence would help catch somebody who is fairly secure off guard and perhaps leave them doing things they probably don't usually do.. Alpha male.. I don't know if those types even exist..
                    "If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." Nora Roberts

                    Start December 20th 2010: 177 lbs
                    Currant: 136 lbs
                    Goal: 125 lbs
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                    • Originally posted by Grumpy Caveman View Post
                      That would work because the attitude would make you love him. As you said, lead confidently. It's all about attitude. A man who does not truly feel that he is in command can memorize the most "alpha" lines in the world, but they will do him no good without the attitude to back them up. And by the time he has that attitude, he won't need to memorize anyone else's lines.
                      nope, you're wrong. i'm a "take me as i am or get the fuck out" type of person. it doesn't matter that i have a vagina. my husband also has the same personality, and yet somehow it works. that attitude (as i've said, he uses it on me) only "works" *if* i'm feeling the love. as a mom to three kids (whom i know that i can raise on my own if it came to that), i don't always feel the love, and so he doesn't always get his back rub. i don't care if he *lightly* flirts with other chicks when i'm not around, and we talk about the attractiveness of other women (usually i bring it up), but if he came home and said "i'd like to bang other chicks, cool with you?" i would very cooly tell him "go right ahead, but don't come back." i don't believe in feeling incapable of functioning without another person, and i know that i could always get someone who makes more $$.
                      my primal journal:
                      http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...Primal-Journal

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                      • Originally posted by Saoirse View Post
                        i think the gist of it is to be assertive and confident. don't be surprised if some of that advice backfires on you. some of us women really aren't into being told what to do, even if "experts" say we are biologically predisposed to want direction and commands. but then again, some of us women aren't into head games and don't want to be in a relationship with people who play around like that. another way to look at it is to decide what YOU are going to do (whether that's where you're eating, how you're spending your afternoon, or what mood you want to have), and ask her if she'd like to join you. honestly, self-help books have been recommending this for decades. you can only control yourself, and followers will follow if you lead confidently.
                        few women are like that; especially in today's western society where tv has ruined our ability to understand reality
                        Starting Date: Dec 18, 2010
                        Starting Weight: 294 pounds
                        Current Weight: 235 pounds
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                        • This kind of discussion makes me glad I'm not married.

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                          • Originally posted by kenn View Post
                            few women are like that; especially in today's western society where tv has ruined our ability to understand reality
                            yeah, i know.
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                            http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...Primal-Journal

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                            • Originally posted by Paleobird View Post
                              This kind of discussion makes me glad I'm not married.
                              lol marriage is over rated .. *personal opinion*
                              "If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." Nora Roberts

                              Start December 20th 2010: 177 lbs
                              Currant: 136 lbs
                              Goal: 125 lbs
                              11 more lbs to go


                              Follow My Journey :-)

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                              • Originally posted by Paleobird View Post
                                This kind of discussion makes me glad I'm not married.
                                many of the comments on the blog piss me off, but that has nothing to do with my marital status.

                                honestly, when my husband is commanding like that, i feel like he *expects* me to submissively follow along, which makes me feel unsexy and downright angry. that's why i say that this advice might backfire on some, because not every woman subconsciously prefers to submit.
                                my primal journal:
                                http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...Primal-Journal

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