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  • Grok Knows How To Say "NO"... Do YOU?

    Hey Guys and Girls...

    Mark has talked about the importance of dealing with stress effectively and living a deeply relaxed lifestyle... so I wanted to share some amazing research and recommendation for you to check out a book called 'When The Body Says No' by Gabor Mate.

    Diet may be very important but emotional health is just as, if not MORE, important.

    Gabor demonstrates with the physical expression that stress (in all sorts of ways) leaves on the body when we deal with it ineffectively. Stress from unresolved issues from the past, the inability to express your emotions, having weak personal boundaries, having trouble saying 'no', etc... all culminates into effecting the proper functioning of our body.

    Check this video out:




    The book is truly an amazing read. He also has some mind-blowing work he has done on Addiction, ADD, and raising children. A real compassionate and wise soul.

    Hope you get something out of this for yourself,

    Oz

  • #2
    Very interesting video. I'm a very low-stress person, so I'm feeling pretty damn good about myself right now.

    At the same time, I tend not to express a lot of anger in my everyday life like he was talking about early on. Although, I believe this is due to me getting all of my frustration out at the gym. I tend to rage when I'm lifting weights.

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    • #3
      Great video, it resonates with me. I was quite ill a couple of years ago, and I know stress was a major contributor.
      Karin

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      • #4
        Thank you very much for posting that video.
        “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t — you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford

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        • #5
          no.
          Starting Date: Dec 18, 2010
          Starting Weight: 294 pounds
          Current Weight: 235 pounds
          Goal Weight: 195 pounds

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          • #6
            Originally posted by kenn View Post
            no.
            Practice makes perfect!

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            • #7
              Thank you very much Ozbuckley for posting this. I thought it was interesting that he pointed out that it is not just the "Type A" driven sort of people who have high stress levels but also the ones who try too hard to be nice all the time and let themselves be walked over like a doormat.

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              • #8
                Cool guys Im glad you found it insightful.

                I really recommend reading the book... amazing!!!

                Its funny with stress isnt it... as Gabor Mate says, stress comes in many forms. Even unresolved limiting beliefs about oneself and the world creates and allows stress to exist. ..and the amazing thing about this is that many of these beliefs are UNCONSCIOUS ...and much of our stress is UNCONSCIOUS as well. ..sometimes we have no idea we are carrying stress, until one day we wake up and find a lump somewhere in our body or a some neurological disease.

                Learning to say 'NO'. Asserting ourSELF's. Having definite values. Strong boundaries. And allowing others to have the same. Grok would be proud, Im sure.

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                • #9
                  learned to say no about 1.5 years ago. very liberating. drives my boss nuts.

                  tee hee
                  Julia
                  Starting Weight 235 - Dec 1, 2010
                  Started Primal Mid January 2011
                  Current Weight 183
                  Goal 160



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                  • #10
                    I say "no" then have guilt for saying it.
                    Georgette

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Paleobird View Post
                      Thank you very much Ozbuckley for posting this. I thought it was interesting that he pointed out that it is not just the "Type A" driven sort of people who have high stress levels but also the ones who try too hard to be nice all the time and let themselves be walked over like a doormat.
                      I think the doormats experience far higher stress levels and more toxic stress levels. AT least Type A's get it out.
                      MTA: because it is rare I dont have more to say

                      "When I got too tired to run anymore I just pretended I wasnt tired and kept running anyway" - my daughter Age 7

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by runnergal View Post
                        I think the doormats experience far higher stress levels and more toxic stress levels. AT least Type A's get it out.
                        Why do you think I ignore people who ask me to do things? Makes it easier.
                        Georgette

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by geostump View Post
                          Why do you think I ignore people who ask me to do things? Makes it easier.
                          Hey Georgette,

                          'Ignoring' is really an act of avoidance. Ive been there many a time and still find myself on occasions slipping back to ignoring too.

                          That way of dealing with 'perceived' conflict is very passive and has the aspect of turning away from the issue; holding back. On the hand, maybe something that may benefit you is to face those kind of situations and look the person in the eyes and say 'no, im not going to do that'. Proactive, facing the issue clearly and directly, clear concise communication of feelings, etc.

                          A large % of people struggle saying no. I wish you all the best mate!

                          Oz

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                          • #14
                            Nobody get angry with me for being grumpy! I am "expressing my emotions."
                            You lousy kids! Get off my savannah!

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                            • #15
                              No is my favorite word..
                              "If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." Nora Roberts

                              Start December 20th 2010: 177 lbs
                              Currant: 136 lbs
                              Goal: 125 lbs
                              11 more lbs to go


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