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I Am An Assertive Woman Now! (Did I just Roar?)

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  • I Am An Assertive Woman Now! (Did I just Roar?)

    I feel like I am a different person now. Things, people and issues that used to bother or scare me just... don't anymore.

    I ripped an old friend who I've always had a problem with "a new one" when he started in on something. All the old self-help books, all the verbal judo advice I had read, learned, and integrated fell to the wayside after I said what had to be said, in the perfect way, with the perfect tone, with the perfect eye-contact...all automatically!

    Another issue that had put me in a mental, emotional and spiritual breakdown for years I looked at the other day and thought... "Eh...! Who cares." And I really *don't*!

    My whole makeup now is "I am an Alpha, everything else is my equal, subordinate, or prey." Last year it was more, "I hope they're not mad at me, maybe I better apologize or hide?"

    Has anyone else felt this way since PB? I'd like to hear especially from other women.

  • #2
    No, but I love the new attitude, and I hope that happens to me too!

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    • #3
      I've always felt like an alpha. PB didn't change that but it may be one of the reasons why it feels very right for me. It also could be that I really like steak.


      • #4
        I've never been assertive. I'd just like to get to the point where I don't give a crap anymore about things. I'm figuring if I became assertive, I would then be able to tell my husband simple truths about things and I'm more worried about hurting his feelings versus me being happy.


        • #5
          mmm......geostump....I can relate!


          • #6
            janagram, all I can say is thank goodness for friends! I know a lot of people don't agree with that but after 14 years and trying to get him to change, sometimes you have to try something else.


            • #7
              i was already like this. perhaps i am 'worse' now.


              • #8
                Have always been assertive, but some people know the right buttons to push that make me crumble. Lately, that hasn't happened. A few people have tried with the drama crap, and I've been calling them out on it instead of reacting emotionally. Feels good.
                Jen, former Midwesterner, living in the middle of nowhere.


                • #9
                  I feel calmer and less reactive to my family now.
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                  • #10
                    "I am an Alpha, everything else is my equal, subordinate, or prey."
                    I have this attitude (which pairs well with being an Aries) but it didn't come with Primal so much as it did with weight loss in general.


                    • #11
                      Absolutely agree. I used to just get so frustrated with everyone and everything for such little things - to the point where it was destroying most of my friendships. People who knew me a year ago would describe me about a thousand times different than people who know me now.
                      Now I don't bother with people who create drama, and spend my time making myself happy (which now, is quite easy! ).

                      But I love to hear everyone else is feeling this way. Just reinforces my love for PB!


                      • #12
                        I have always been assertive, but with too much of an edge to be as effective as I should be. I feel so much better in balance and so much less stress-addled, that even though objectively things are just as bad as they've ever been (and maybe a little worse!), it just doesn't get to me. Or it very rarely gets to me enough to throw me, even a little bit.

                        I just got an email while stuck in a meeting that was physically painful from the overwhelming boringosity of people who Would. Not. Shut. Up! I was fighting the urge to stand up and scream, and/or stick something pointy menacingly in someone's face.

                        It's from professional colleague but also personal friend, who's known me through good and bad times. I recently saw him over Xmess and he's touching base from further travels:
                        You seem so "at peace" with your life right now
                        The timing made me laugh. But, it's not just me who's seeing a difference
                        "If man made it, don't eat it." ..Jack LaLanne
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                        If it doesn't agree with experiment, it's wrong." ..Richard Feynman

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