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  • #16
    @divafern: Just curious. How tall are you? Cillakat is 5' 2", I am 5' 0". I am wondering if our small size is part of what makes/made us feel unsafe.

    I find it fascinating that some women absolutely crave attention and will go out of their way to get it, and then others are (literally) hiding out in bathrooms.
    "Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food." -- Hippocrates

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    • #17
      Originally posted by federkeil View Post
      I'm 6'7", I've been stared at pretty much my whole life. My one friend told me he preferred to walk behind me in the university halls because then he got to see all the people turn and point and such when i walked by.

      Played football with a guy who's 6'6", he didn't like walking with me in the halls cause he didn't like the attention he got on his own let alone when there were two "freaks" walking together.
      haha cool! Tall guys are the best! My man is 6'5 and a 1/2... and I'm usually wearing at least 2-3 inch heals so we get stared at for being giants together... i'm 5'10 without the heels...

      I love getting checked out when we are together... cuz he can beat up the creeps!

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      • #18
        Originally posted by TigerLily View Post

        I find it fascinating that some women absolutely crave attention and will go out of their way to get it, and then others are (literally) hiding out in bathrooms.
        Its probably a personality thing along with diet, upbringing and all kinds of stuff thrown in together. I personally don't want the limelight in general. I prefer to work behind the scenes. I'm comfortable being an assistant... i love it in fact.

        Other people were born for the spotlight... and losing weight today makes you stand out because so many people look like crap.

        We wouldn't have this problem if everyone was in shape.

        I'm going to just learn to enjoy it somehow. Maybe there is self hypnosis to help you get the right mindset for this!

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        • #19
          Originally posted by divafern View Post
          Your post touched me. Excessive, unwanted attention is one of the reasons why I gained weight in the first place.
          ditto

          in my early years, I would always be self-conscious about looking too good. As a lone woman in a male industry, accusations of sleeping with the boss, etc.. seemed to drive me to dressing dowdily and once I started to lose weight, to sabatoge myself in the end of the day. It wasn't until I was in my mid-30's that I became more comfortable with my body and allowed myself to wear sleeveless shirts.

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          • #20
            I've added this thread to the long list of reasons I'm glad I'm not a girl.

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            • #21
              Interesting thoughts, all.

              I get looked at a lot, but few men actually approach me and speak. Those who do are generally older than I, often by quite some years. Guy friends tell me that this is because I carry myself with a certain, well, regal posture that renders me both attractive and intimidating. (Which is rather funny, as I'm only 5'3".)

              Anyway, I take it as a compliment to be noticed, and I like the nerve of guys who aren't afraid to say something (polite). The young'uns who look away when I catch them staring? Endless entertainment.
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              • #22
                I can only imagine what cillakat is wearing to get stared at in Little 5.
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                • #23
                  Originally posted by LemonFreshScent View Post
                  Other people were born for the spotlight... and losing weight today makes you stand out because so many people look like crap.
                  so true, my wife is 5'7" and 140lbs, built like a gymnast but she thinks she's chubby. At least that's how she thinks until we go someplace public... then she feels skinny.
                  I didn't like the rules you gave me, so I made some of my own.

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                  • #24
                    Originally posted by federkeil View Post
                    she thinks she's chubby. At least that's how she thinks until we go someplace public... then she feels skinny.
                    Beauty is power.

                    Power is beautiful.

                    Embrace it.

                    She'll embrace back.
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                    • #25
                      Originally posted by TigerLily View Post
                      @divafern: Just curious. How tall are you? Cillakat is 5' 2", I am 5' 0". I am wondering if our small size is part of what makes/made us feel unsafe.

                      I find it fascinating that some women absolutely crave attention and will go out of their way to get it, and then others are (literally) hiding out in bathrooms.
                      interesting, I am short: 5'3"

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                      • #26
                        Having lost over 100lbs...its very interesting how people treat you differently. Men, women, doesn't even matter. You get looked at differently and spoken to differently. I have noticed that I get a lot of looks from men...at first I had a hard time with this..I think my fat girl defenses would go up and Id think to myself "Why is he looking at me? Am I that funny looking? " lol...I have some severely messed up self esteem (it's gotten better, I can admit I'm atleast mildly attractive now)..but the weird thing is I hardly ever get approached anymore. The thinner I get the less I get hit on. But as for looks..it doesn't bother me...I just ignore them and go about my day although I kind of like it.
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                        • #27
                          Originally posted by TigerLily View Post
                          @divafern: Just curious. How tall are you? Cillakat is 5' 2", I am 5' 0". I am wondering if our small size is part of what makes/made us feel unsafe.

                          I find it fascinating that some women absolutely crave attention and will go out of their way to get it, and then others are (literally) hiding out in bathrooms.
                          Hee hee, limelight girl back, I'm 5'2", a child molestation and rape survivor and have been liberated from an abusive marriage and I still love being the center of attention. I don't go through the antics that I did in my teenage days, but obnoxious attention was never my style. I love to make people laugh with me, and I love to perform, but I don't love to be laughed at or be thought of as the crazy girl at the party. I've met girls who will do ANYTHING for attention, but I like positive attention, not just any old attention.

                          I guess it's just in my personality and no one's been able to beat it out of me yet.
                          The more I see the less I know for sure.
                          -John Lennon

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                          • #28
                            I use a pretty standard reply for "compliments": "and what makes you think I wanted to be appraised of your judgement of my physical appearance?" shuts them up, mostly because now of course I'm some uppity bitch.

                            Stares and wolf whistles are met with the one fingered salute.

                            I simply don't appreciate any kind of comment, be it verbal or non-verbal on my appearance from complete strangers.

                            Now friends and family, that's different.

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                            • #29
                              Hmm, I'm pretty short too(5'2). I feel hot and wouldn't mind if people stared. but they don't(le sigh) No guy has hit on me for a long time, except for one awkward moment when a regular customer slipped me his phone #...He is in his 40's. Nothing wrong with 40, but come on!
                              I think its the lack of boobage lol!
                              Calm the f**k down.

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                              • #30
                                Originally posted by Gwenhyffar View Post
                                I use a pretty standard reply for "compliments": "and what makes you think I wanted to be appraised of your judgement of my physical appearance?" shuts them up, mostly because now of course I'm some uppity bitch.

                                Stares and wolf whistles are met with the one fingered salute.

                                I simply don't appreciate any kind of comment, be it verbal or non-verbal on my appearance from complete strangers.
                                Why?

                                (Honest question, not intended to be snarky.)
                                Nightlife ~ Chronicles of Less Urban Living, Fresh from In the Night Farm ~ Idaho's Primal Farm! http://inthenightlife.wordpress.com/

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