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  • Help! Fallen off the Primal bus and having a hard time getting back on

    I am a busy 40 year old mom of two precious boys and I was Primal and feeling great for a good three weeks, then we hit some bumps and long story short I didn't get good (hardly any deep) sleep for almost a month. I turned in despair to sugar and caffeine to just keep me awake and able to care for my kids. Sleeping better generally now, but gained another 5 lbs from this and tipping the scales at a depressing 162 lbs, size 12 (I'm naturally very small boned, size 2-4). Yikes. I'm having a hard time, now, getting back on the Primal bus. Would appreciate any advice, etc. Thanks.

  • #2
    just take it one meal at a time til you're back on board the wagon, it's really just as simple as that

    and no need to beat yourself up over a 5lb water weight gain, that will fall off soon enough
    beautiful
    yeah you are

    Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.
    lol

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    • #3
      Thanks. Good advice.

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      • #4
        yeah i'm just now climbing back up on my own wagon 8 lbs of water lost in the last few days

        you can doooo eeeeeeet
        beautiful
        yeah you are

        Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.
        lol

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        • #5
          Yes, definitely one meal at a time.

          Also, make sure that you have primal snacks around at all times. This makes a huge difference for me when I'm also stressed.

          Finally, I basically have an IV drip of tea all day long. Like, two days ago, I only had 2 cups of tea. Madness! I have at least 8 a day (last 2-4 being roobois, rather than caffinated, which is what I drink during the day). LOL

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          • #6
            A good cardio session will get the water weight off fast and get you revved up to go back on the primal wagon IMO. That's my routine when I've had a bad day of indulging.
            F 28/5'4/100 lbs

            "I'm not a psychopath, I'm a high-functioning sociopath; do your research."

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            • #7
              Long ago (1980s) I read a magazine article that gave a useful trick -- the title of the article was "Romancing the Jolt." It was a riff on a book titled "Jolted Sober" which had been followed (of course) by "Jolted Lean." The underlying idea in these two books was that some people got this "instantaneous" mental thunderclap that allowed them to abruptly turn a corner into the right direction.

              The thrust of the magazine article was that anyone can purposely create the required jolt within themselves. You don't have to wait for it to find you. I've found this to be true, but you have to make the effort. It's fun. Here's what you do --

              Start absorbing EVERYTHING you can about the behavior you want to adopt. Be somewhat specific -- not just "I want to be Primal." More like "A Whole-30 seems like a good idea."

              Read articles, cruise web-threads, look at pictures, try out various affirmations and be OK with discarding stuff that doesn't ring true. Don't make any effort to actually change anything while you're soaking up the information. Don't pick a "start date" or anything like that. You'll know when it's worked -- you'll "suddenly" know what you have to do and you'll have a certain strength of purpose that will get you through the first days or even weeks.

              It won't last forever -- you have to keep the motivation up -- but it's great for stopping a skid and re-invigorating yourself.

              My last "romancing" by the way, consisted primarily of reading three of PaleoBird's threads start to finish, especially the Eat MOAR Fat thread. That gargantuan project took a couple of weeks and included wandering off to various posted links, and from there -- the universe.

              Sure enough -- within about a week I was really getting into the idea that I'd do better in ketosis. (Past experience bore that out, too.) In less than 2 weeks, I was back on track, after a several-month "slip" of mostly Too Much Fruit, but also -- gasp! -- one particularly memorable episode with a 1/2 gallon of Tillamook Espresso/Chocolate Chip ice cream, eaten more or less all at once. Yikes.
              __________________________________________
              He not busy bein' born is busy dyin' ~ Bob Dylan

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              • #8
                Originally posted by KWM View Post

                Read articles, cruise web-threads, look at pictures, try out various affirmations and be OK with discarding stuff that doesn't ring true. Don't make any effort to actually change anything while you're soaking up the information. Don't pick a "start date" or anything like that. You'll know when it's worked -- you'll "suddenly" know what you have to do and you'll have a certain strength of purpose that will get you through the first days or even weeks.
                I do this. I didn't even realize it had a name. It's just the way I've lived my entire life. I do still need "the jolt" to trigger the initial interest to set me down the path to all that research.
                Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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                • #9
                  I agree with above. Do some reading and research to get the itch going again and take it one day at a time. I'm recently back on the wagon myself after being off for a month or two. I'm already starting to feel better.

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                  • #10
                    I totally agree with the 'jolt' philosophy.

                    Some questions:

                    What was the easiest part of being primal?

                    What was the hardest?

                    What was the 'event' that brought you off the wagon? Importantly, do not look at this as a 'failure' or evidence that you are evil/lack motivation/subpar human being. This is simply a learning opportunity.

                    Next, what resources/skills could you use next time? Yes, there will be a next time. We all fall off the wagon, whether it be one bite, one meal, one week, or 6 months. Are there things that could help head you off at the pass?

                    For me, a major breakthrough Eureka! moment occurred when I really internalized that eating crap will not, in fact, make me feel better emotionally. Up till then I would still do the "Life sucks I really want a chocolate bar just one and I will feel better life sucks anyway what difference does one chocolate bar make" rationalization. I would eat the chocolate, but the 'reward' component just seemed to be missing.

                    Once you answer those, then organize a bit so that you have ample 'resources' at your fingertips, both for the easy times and hard times.

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                    • #11
                      For me the biggest question is: "Why do you want to be Primal?" If your goal is purely weight loss, perhaps there is something else out there that would feel more natural to you than Primal. With losing weight, forcing a way of eating that is incompatible with what keeps you going will make you stop to adhere. Make adjustments that are easy to make and that will lead you to lose weight. Then make more adjustments. Etc.

                      Anyway, I am chewing gum right now so I probably should not be talking at all. After all is said and done, losing weight overrode for me the "OMG, I want to be Paleo/Primal!" In the end, I want to be ripped and I want to satisfy my sweet tooth too and experience the soothing chewing.
                      My Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread57916.html
                      When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

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                      • #12
                        I know when I've gone off course, I only have to think about all the yummmmy foods I get to eat. Just be sure to plan out what you're going to eat and snack on very specifically for a few days. The first few days back "on", you will be very hungry, so make sure you are set up to succeed. Bring on the bacon!
                        Happy Wifey and NEW MOM!
                        Pre-preg weight: 130
                        Current: 145 (eek!)
                        Goal: ??? <-- whatever it takes to get rid of this tire!
                        Started Primal in May '12.
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                        • #13
                          Wow, thank you so much, everyone! I can't believe I got so many responses. You have no idea how much support I feel!

                          I used to eat Primal before there was a Primal movement -- back in the mid '90's after college, it's just how I started eating, made me feel great.

                          Cut to one serious auto-immune illness (and recovery), two kids, and thirty pounds later...and voila, here I am. I love eating this way, it's when I don't sleep that I'm thrown. And my kids haven't been good sleepers. What got me off this round was my four year old wreaking havoc on our household with his sleep apnea (we're on it, solution-wise, now). And then after 2 1/2 or so weeks of no deep sleep, then I couldn't get back to sleep, at all! Which is when I turned to lattes and pan au chocolat.

                          Everybody's giving great advice -- one meal at a time. I am just so amazingly discouraged with my weight, lack of vitality, and now a sharp, deep, chronic pain in my hip that has been keeping me from exercising. It hurt to go on a light walk tonight! I'm heading to the doctor tomorrow about it though I don't expect they'll have much by way of suggestions; I suspect it may be inflammation.

                          Anyway, I digress. Trying to give myself that jolt, just reading a ton, looking at recipes, and trying to tell myself that I can get back to my normal size and health. I appreciate so much all of your advice and encouragement!

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                          • #14
                            Buy yourself your absolute favourite cut of steak.

                            Grill it, pan-sear it...cook it however you like it best.

                            Serve your favourite veg on the side cooked in your FOC (fat of choice). I love lard, duck fat, and beef tallow.

                            EAT YOUR FACE OFF.

                            If this doesn't put you back on the wagon, then I'm very sorry. You're completely hopeless.














































                            KIDDING!
                            A Post-Primal PrimalPat

                            Do not allow yourself to become wrapped up in a food 'lifestyle'. That is ego, and you are not that.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by patski View Post
                              Buy yourself your absolute favourite cut of steak.

                              Grill it, pan-sear it...cook it however you like it best.

                              Serve your favourite veg on the side cooked in your FOC (fat of choice). I love lard, duck fat, and beef tallow.

                              EAT YOUR FACE OFF.

                              If this doesn't put you back on the wagon, then I'm very sorry. You're completely hopeless.














































                              KIDDING!
                              Love it! That's hilarious! And I'm soooooo going to do it... Thanks

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