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    Hi all, I'm a 23 year old male who has been eating primally for a couple of weeks and perfectly healthy other than being about 15 lbs overweight, in other words I feel I am the perfect canidate for fasting. The last time I ate was Friday the 25th at 8 pm - cashews (side question: are these primal?). I decided to try water fasting for a couple of reasons. First I wanted to see if I had the willpower. Also I wanted to lose weight and experience the myriad of health benefits that fasting can provide. Anyways I texted my mom about it cuz she texted me first and asked how I was doing, so I just told her, maybe hoping to get some support (such a bad idea wish I wouldn't have said anything). She called me, I ignored the call. Immediately called me back so I had no choice but to answer. She bombarded me with a bunch of questions then began imploring that I eat. I tried to explain what I was doing was extremely HEALTHY (ive put so much research into fasting, bored while fasting best thing to do is read about fasting :P). Anyways she began to threaten me with all sorts of BS and began crying (talk about a guilt trip! ). Really I do not want to break my fast, I've made it 3 days and I feel fine and whenever I think about all its doing it just makes me want to continue. How do I handle this situation? I've tried explaining that it is healthy but it is like arguing with a religious person, no amount of evidence to the contrary can make them change what they WANT to believe.

    HELP

  • #2
    Just tell her you have decided to fast for religious/spiritual reasons... (research a valid sounding religious reason to provide upon being asked)
    For some reason people don't argue with that. *shrug*
    “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
    ~Friedrich Nietzsche
    And that's why I'm here eating HFLC Primal/Paleo.

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    • #3
      I'm a mom. EAT!

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      • #4
        Originally posted by cori93437 View Post
        Just tell her you have decided to fast for religious/spiritual reasons... (research a valid sounding religious reason to provide upon being asked)
        For some reason people don't argue with that. *shrug*
        My mom knows I'm 100% atheist and when she asks me to get more "spiritual" I mockingly reply "but I don't believe in ghosts"

        Although cori I still very much appreciate you taking the time to try and help me out, Thanks!

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        • #5
          Originally posted by pfair143 View Post
          I'm a mom. EAT!
          Again I thank you very much for taking the time to reply to my post but.............. in a nutshell this is the problem I described, not a solution!

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          • #6
            Originally posted by BeatlesFan View Post
            My mom knows I'm 100% atheist and when she asks me to get more "spiritual" I mockingly reply "but I don't believe in ghosts"

            Although cori I still very much appreciate you taking the time to try and help me out, Thanks!
            Sorry about that.. it's just one of the tried and trues.
            You could use it as logic still...
            People do fast for religious/spiritual reasons all of the time and are fine/do no harm.

            I'm a mom too... of a 19yr old. I would NOT ever try to command him to eat unless it was a fast of serious 'hunger strike' proportions and he was below a normal body weight.

            Good luck.
            “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
            ~Friedrich Nietzsche
            And that's why I'm here eating HFLC Primal/Paleo.

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            • #7
              You're 23. Hang up if she can't be rational and civil.
              “The whole concept of a macronutrient, like that of a calorie, is determining our language game in such a way that the conversation is not making sense." - Dr. Kurt Harris

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Chaohinon View Post
                You're 23.
                Agreed. This was my first reaction. I have a very close relationship with my mother but generally diet doesn't come up in random conversations. Now you know how she'll react to this kind of thing. You are in control of the situation. If you speak with her and she brings it up, you can choose to talk about it or tell her that it's no longer something you wish to speak with her about and then talk about something else.

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                • #9
                  If you're staying hydrated, you're no worse off than not eating for 3 days because of a stomach bug.

                  But whether its healthy or not, you're a big boy, and you should know what would send your momma into a tizzy. You don't TEXT her something like that and expect her not to react. You've become an 'expert' on PB and fasting because you've been doing it for 2 weeks? And now you want to add yourself to the long list of people who come here looking for advice on how to change their family members' minds?

                  no amount of evidence to the contrary can make them change what they WANT to believe.
                  I think you answered your own question.
                  Sandra
                  *My obligatory intro

                  There are no cheat days. There are days when you eat primal and days you don't. As soon as you label a day a cheat day, you're on a diet. Don't be on a diet. ~~ Fernaldo

                  DAINTY CAN KISS MY PRIMAL BACKSIDE. ~~ Crabcakes

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                  • #10
                    Just send her the links to Mark's fasting series.
                    Crohn's, doing SCD

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                    • #11
                      Been there, done that. Now you know, just don't bring up diet, the next time around, until asked; even then, make sure the questions are honest. I don't find it necessary to respond to snarky questions.
                      If you have a problem with what you read: 1. Get a dictionary 2. Don't read it 3. Grow up 4. After 3, go back to 1/ or 2. -- Dennis Blue. | "I don't care about your opinion, only your analysis"- Professor Calabrese. | "Life is more important than _______" - Drew | I eat animals that eat vegetables -- Matt Millen, former NFL Linebacker. | "This country is built on sugar & shit that comes in a box marinated in gluten - abc123

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                      • #12
                        as another mom, just reassure her that you're being careful, reading from "medical websites" about how to do it safely. Tell her "mom, i appreciate your concern for my well-being. i know you just love me. but i'm an adult, capable of making these decisions. if you can't be calm and rational about these things, i won't talk to you about them." then change the subject. every time she drifts to that topic, if she's doing it from an emotionally charged POV, tell her that you're not talking about it and change the subject.
                        my primal journal:
                        http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum...Primal-Journal

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                        • #13
                          just tell her that you started eating again?

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                          • #14
                            TLDR....I read I'm 23 years old and stopped there.........Cut the strings dude.

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                            • #15
                              I usually tell people that 'If fasting occasionally were in any way harmful to a healthy person, 1) I wouldn't do it, and 2) the human race would have become extinct long ago.'

                              If I were you I just wouldn't discuss it with your mum. It's fun to pass on the mind-blowing knowledge of the caveman lifestyle, but not if the audience is unreceptive to the point of actually worrying about you!
                              Start weight: 238 lbs (March 2012)
                              Current weight: 205 lbs (July 2012)
                              Loss so far: 33 lbs!!!
                              WOE: Primal + IF
                              Movements: Hiking, sprinting.
                              Goal: to see my abs some time in 2013!

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