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    I have had weight issues my entire life, since puberty. Before becoming Primal in February, I was a vegetarian for 10 years. I have always focused on health...I work out, eat healthy. I don't eat processed food, I don't eat fast food, etc. But I'm fat.
    My husband eats whatever he wants, does not have a weight problem, never works out, eats processed food and junk food. I don't think there is a fat person in his family and they all love their food.
    If the two of us were to go in public, he gets judged as healthy, I'd get judged as unhealthy. Because he is thin, I'm fat. It's very frustrating.
    How do you deal with people's judgements about you?

    *I'm just using my husband as an example. It applies to pretty much any thin person, they always get assumed to be healthy even if they don't earn that label.

  • #2
    People will make snap judgments about you as long as you live so no avoiding that.

    What I did about my weight was go eat primal, work out (minus the chronic cardio) and get my sleep squared away. Now I look and feel much, much better and can secretly frown at those uggos and fatties still eating the CW diet.

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    • #3
      Learning not to care about other people's judgments was an unexpected benefit of going primal for me. Now that I have my health, that's really all that matters. I do keep an open mind to all new ideas, but prejudice and ignorance don't disturb my inner peace the way they used to.

      Is there something in particular that's bothering you? What do you care what other people think?

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      • #4
        People can't help but judge others based on their own thought systems and separate realities. Everyone has these separate realities and they are just something you have to realize. They can't change their "reality" any more than you can change yours. Just remember, their perceptions do not equal your reality.

        Just keep doing what you're doing and enjoy the experience.
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        • #5
          It's the last acceptable prejudice because after all "you're doing it to yourself." No matter that I've been fat since puberty (although not so much anymore) I share it. It's a great failing.

          But for others being judgmental, they can get effed.
          Wheat is the new tobacco. Spread the word.

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          • #6
            "What other people think of me is none of my business" - Some Happy Person

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Nomad1 View Post
              I have had weight issues my entire life, since puberty. Before becoming Primal in February, I was a vegetarian for 10 years. I have always focused on health...I work out, eat healthy. I don't eat processed food, I don't eat fast food, etc. But I'm fat.
              My husband eats whatever he wants, does not have a weight problem, never works out, eats processed food and junk food. I don't think there is a fat person in his family and they all love their food.
              If the two of us were to go in public, he gets judged as healthy, I'd get judged as unhealthy. Because he is thin, I'm fat. It's
              very frustrating.

              How do you deal with people's judgements about you?
















              *I'm just using my husband as an example. It applies to pretty much any thin person, they always get assumed to be healthy even if they don't earn that label.
              I take a perverted joy in seeing them sickening to their stomach as I eat my plate of eggs and bacon with a shit eating grin. I get even more pleasure when they begrudgingly acknowledge I'm losing weight.
              I'm kinda sick and twisted like that. That and I really don't care what the country bumpkins out here think. (this statement only applies to the country bumpkins in the town I live in, I'm a country bumpkin, so....) they is all dying from the diabeetus anyway.

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              • #8
                your concern with their judgement is really your own unhappiness about the way you look. you have no self confidence.

                as you gain confidence you will see that you do not think people judge you negatively.

                i suggest you train for strength. there is nothing in the world like the feeling of strength, this is the most important thing, look at my quote. then you will be confident.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Roach View Post
                  "What other people think of me is none of my business" - Some Happy Person
                  I like that! When other people tell what they think of me, I can tell them that. Usually others are not really paying that much attention as long as I don't make a big deal about it. No reason to make a big deal about it even when somebody asks. Vegetables, fruits, nuts. Real food! Vegetarian? Oh, and meat! Never mention any of those "fad diets"--Paleo, Primal or low carb. Grains? I run better without them. Fruit is over-rated. Grains are very over-rated!
                  Beware of fake meat.

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                  • #10
                    Just stay the course, Primal of course.
                    The Journey is yours, to cherish and keep.
                    Others will falter, that's why they speak.
                    Ill words, looks, pretensious thoughts,
                    All CW BS, so jealous and distraught.
                    Be happy with yourself for what you have done,
                    And remember this, "You've only just begun".

                    Fre your Mind, and your Grok will follow! :-)
                    Free your mind, and your Grok will follow!

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Nomad1 View Post
                      I have had weight issues my entire life, since puberty. Before becoming Primal in February, I was a vegetarian for 10 years. I have always focused on health...I work out, eat healthy. I don't eat processed food, I don't eat fast food, etc. But I'm fat.
                      My husband eats whatever he wants, does not have a weight problem, never works out, eats processed food and junk food. I don't think there is a fat person in his family and they all love their food.
                      If the two of us were to go in public, he gets judged as healthy, I'd get judged as unhealthy. Because he is thin, I'm fat. It's very frustrating.
                      How do you deal with people's judgements about you?

                      *I'm just using my husband as an example. It applies to pretty much any thin person, they always get assumed to be healthy even if they don't earn that label.
                      Hey sister, i know the feeling, get some lab work to see if you have showstoppers.
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by dado View Post
                        your concern with their judgement is really your own unhappiness about the way you look. you have no self confidence.

                        as you gain confidence you will see that you do not think people judge you negatively.

                        i suggest you train for strength. there is nothing in the world like the feeling of strength, this is the most important thing, look at my quote. then you will be confident.
                        I'll second this one. Ultimately once you have sufficient belief in yourself, you tend to worry less about the opinions of others. Strength training(along with other steps to improve yourself, physically or otherwise) can certainly be a part of that.

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                        • #13
                          What dumb people think does not matter to me.
                          Lifting Journal

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                          • #14
                            I have to agree with the others - ultimately it doesn't matter what others think. I mean, I know deep down it's nice to be respected and loved and have people think you're wonderful, but if they don't know you... who cares?

                            I know there have been times in the past when I would see people looking at me strangely for any number of reasons. I'd sometimes think, "I can totally explain why what they're thinking is wrong." But the thing is, they never would ask. People will make their assumptions and there's nothing you can do about it. All you can do is be happy with the person you are, and be around people that know you and love you.
                            Durp.

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                            • #15
                              It's hard to imagine people could really be judging a primal plate too harshly. When I go to dinner I might get a burger served on salad greens with a side of veggies. People are much more likely to comment on how healthy I eat than to be judgmental. I think when a plate is piled high with fried foods or pizza or something like that someone might look twice, but most primal food looks very healthy I think.
                              Last edited by jammies; 10-08-2011, 03:02 PM.
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