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    Hi,


    I have been eating primal for a while now and have decided it's definitely the way I want to live and eat. On the weekend I decided it was about time I told my mother in law, who is heavy on the rice, pasta, bread and potatoes that this is how I ate now. I told her that I do not eat anything processed anymore and just natural whole foods and listed off what I eat. I said that she nevers has to go out of her way for me and that there is always something I can eat when I am there and I just wanted to let her know that I would pass on the bread or side of rice.........she looked at me like I had told her I had just killed her cat.


    What do I do now? I am afraid that she has not taken me seriously. She already thought I was a bit nuts before this because I have always eaten pretty healthy and trained hard.

    How will I go about this if she doesn't take me seriously?


    Any advice from people who have experienced this would be great.


    Thanks


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    If everything fails, eat her.

    “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” -Oscar Wilde
    "The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." -George Bernard Shaw
    "The trouble with jogging is that the ice falls out of your glass." -Martin Mull

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      Eat her cat. The other white meat.

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        I'm really not trying to be a pain but why do you care what she thinks? You've stated your position and frankly it's irrelevant if she takes you seriously. Why must you convince her of your convictions?

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          It all depends on your goal. . .do you want her to like you? To respect your wishes? Do you want to keep peace in a dysfunctional family? It sounds like you were very diplomatic--I'd just eat what you want to eat around her with a polite "no thank you" if offered pasta or bread. You can't cure her insecurities.

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            at family get togethers and such...just take what you want to eat. if anyone asks if you want something you don't want or asks why you're not eating whatever...all you gotta do is say 'no thank you. i'm fine.' or the like.


            doesn't have to be a big deal.

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              I would suggest next time...not jumping the gun. I think her response might've been to the fact that you just told her the fact out of nowhere (based on how I read it).


              Personally to dodge the sweets offer I get a small plate + fattiest cut of meat WITH bones + veggies. I use the ensuing mess as scapegoat to "oh I'm too full".


              Others here suggest saying you have gluten intolerance or some such condition...given that you want to impress her with your genes though, might not work for you


              PS. You'll have leverage if there's some physical activity you can participate in before eating - prove the PB lifestyle as at least at par with CW.


              Goodluck!

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                I wouldn't make a big deal of it. She might not be taking you seriously, but if you consistently eat the primal food and say no thank you to the non-primal stuff, then she will have to accept it eventually.


                You can't do anything about how people react to you, but you can do something about how you react to them. I wouldn't let it get to you. I speak from experience! Plus, the bonus of looking fitter/healthier/slimmer usually helps things along (it has for me!).

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                  I know this may sound harsh, but I'm just waiting for my mom's cholesterol to get higher. It's really the only freaking way to get some people to listen!

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                    I have some of the same issues. My mother has finally accepted I have Celiac, but both my Mother and Hubby keep saying you can have these "Organic Tortilla Chips, corn meal only" or well you can have rice and beans. So I have just kind of ignored them so far. Hubby knows I am trying to stick to Primal so he asks me when he is cooking if I am going to eat what he plans on cooking. I don&#39;t have any answers here and have my ears open to all the other replies


                    Good Luck

                    Bags
                    Primal Since 10/2009

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                      I&#39;d say absolutely nothing unless someone asks me. And why?


                      Because I seriously don&#39;t give two s***s what they think or eat and would rather avoid the argument.


                      I also agree with Raphael. Just wait until a family member begins to have high cholesterol and/or blood sugar and then suddenly your advice is golden.......

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                        "Others here suggest saying you have gluten intolerance or some such condition.."


                        unless one actually has this condition...why lie?


                        regardless if they believe you, it&#39;s still making a big deal of something that shouldn&#39;t be a big deal.


                        mrd232&#39;s got the right of it...don&#39;t say anything unless someone says something first.


                        if they ask why..just tell &#39;em you&#39;re fine with what you have or whatever. no need to get into the PB-rant or make up excuses (gluten intolerance) and so forth.

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                          Being a geek, I actually have a little diabetic glucose meter I&#39;ll take to family/friend gatherings. I just tell folks "I&#39;m watching my blood sugar" which is true, show them the meter, and the peer pressure is off.


                          You just have to decide if you wanna go brash and bold, fly under the radar, or outright lie about having a condition to excuse yourself from partaking of poor food choices. Depending on your relationship with folks at the gathering, you can tailor your approach.


                          It is nice to commiserate with other Primal/Paleo people, but don&#39;t let folks opinions here get you down. Do whatever makes the situation easier for you, and be flexible in your approach as the situation dictates.

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                            What Raphael is suggesting definitely works. I&#39;ve been talking about my diet to my good friend (I don&#39;t share it w/ people I don&#39;t feel comfortable with). She would always say how I have a self-control and that she just doesn&#39;t have the discipline to follow a similar diet. She called up this weekend and told me her husband&#39;s triglycerides are high and the dr. advised to start medication ASAP but he requested the doc to give him 3 months so he can bring it under control with dietary changes. And I shared w/ her information about the diet. She&#39;s a physician herself btw.


                            Brooki, I completely empathize with you. My m-i-l is the same. She thinks I&#39;m starving myself and her son. Every time I talk to her over the phone, she&#39;s always concerned about what we ate and the days I tell her I made rice or lentils (for the mister), she sounds relieved. She is obese, diabetic, has hypothyroidism and is on medication. I&#39;ve tried my best to help her make dietary changes but she&#39;s stuck in her ways. She&#39;s a vegetarian and the fact that I feed my husband meat is of great concern to her. Anyway, thankfully, she lives in a different continent and I have to worry about my diet only when I visit her, which is for a month once a year. Like the others have mentioned, ignore what your m-i-l thinks, I know it&#39;s easier said than done, I&#39;m like you too. I was constantly worried about hurting my in-laws feeling but at the end of the day, it&#39;s my health and only I&#39;m responsible for it. Good luck to you.


                            ETA: AcmeBike, "watching my blood sugar" is a great line to use. We are all indeed watching our blood-sugar with this diet but people will automatically assume you are pre-diabetic or diabetic and not perster you with questions.

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                              I sometimes say that I have to watch my blood sugar because it goes kind of crazy with carbs and diabetes runs in the family. I use this argument around people I meet for professional reasons or who I won&#39;t see often.


                              Unfortunately, many people tend to frown upon anything "different". Many think it&#39;s some sort of personal statement or an attempt to challenge the status quo. Or they think that you are just plain conflictive and weird. All these arguments could be perfectly used against you if your job requires you to engage in team work or to interact with clients.


                              I think it&#39;s pointless to risk having issues at work for standing my ground on a topic that is not even work related and which they probably won&#39;t understand anyway, so why bother?


                              I also think this applies to one&#39;s political family if the main goal to build a harmonious relationship with them.


                              The only times I standy ground and take the time to explain my lifestyle is when I genuinely care about someone&#39;s well-being.

                              “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” -Oscar Wilde
                              "The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." -George Bernard Shaw
                              "The trouble with jogging is that the ice falls out of your glass." -Martin Mull

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