for calories, i stopped first by curing malnutirition. a mind at ease will take to changes much better. you count for a reason be it stress relief etc, so find another way to relieve stress. then i had to change my view of food. i stopped viewing it as numbers and look at it as nourishment. for example instead of looking at fried eggs and beef liverand worrying about a caloric number some dude gave it which isnt accurate anyways, look at the rack of b vitamins, choline and everything else that meal provides you.
helps not to eat by yourself also as you cant sit and analyze