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    I will say one problem i always have is when socializing with friends dont understand the way of life i am on which is primal because i only eat in certain places that have the food i can eat and in my area it is limited. I have had some of my best friends make fun of me or call me weird and even get mad at me. Heck i have even lost some friends. They just dont get it and the biggest thing is i used to be over 400 pounds you would think they would understand my motives for staying primal. Has anyone else ever had this problem.


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    tphillips, in many ways, going primal amongst a non-primal group of friends is similar to becoming an atheist amongst a group of very religious friends. They will be oblivious to reason while mocking you or being aggressive to you.


    It is worrying to read that they criticize your dietary lifestyle, instead of encouraging you in your pursuit. Becoming Primal entails, I would think, and at the very least, commitment and motivation to improve your health.


    The fact that you used to be 400 pounds, are working on getting healthy, and are currently getting that feedback from your "friends" should, I think, make you reconsider their friendship.

    “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” -Oscar Wilde
    "The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." -George Bernard Shaw
    "The trouble with jogging is that the ice falls out of your glass." -Martin Mull

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      well I don't really drink anymore (empty calories, messes with hormones, etc) this is definitively a social handicap being a college student

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        I know I've lost dates over it- especially the not drinking part. Most of my long-time friends, and family just chalk it up to "Ah, that's just D. She's weird." LOL

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          My friends actually have seemed very interested in it, they enjoy seeing what I order when we are at restaurants, and they often ask me how it's going when we're just hanging out. So that's cool!

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            I am still dealing with backlash from not being vegetarian anymore. I blow people's hair back when they see me taking out my pork chops, or meatloaf, or steak, or insert meat type here, from the microwave at work. I haven't really had to deal with the no grains/no processed starch, high fat aspect of it yet, because people still can't get past the fact that I'm now eating meat. I'll have to deal with that next week when I visit family though. Should be interesting.

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              My friends want to know when I'm gonna go off the diet and start eating "normal" food. They think I'm doing it for only weight-loss!

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                I hear you. I have quite a few friends that will plain and simple make fun of this life style. Another aspect of going out and staying primal is selecting places you can eat at. While my friends can grab something from virtualy any fast food joint or even a street food cart, I have to be way more selective. When I do manage to persuade them to go to a place that serves something I can actually eat, it ends up being much more expensive than what they were hoping to spend so I end up being blamed for it as well.

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                  I think a lot of people make fun/give you a hard time because they are afraid you are doing the right thing, and they can't face that maybe they should be doing it too.

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                    My boyfriend continues to look askance at my plate even though I have been eating this way for almost a month now. I can't wait to win him over (hopefully I can both for his health and so I don't have to have the same "I'm not clogging my arteries by eating this steak fried in butter" conversation with him every few days).

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                      One of my friends tries to be supportive (eats out at places friendly to my pursuit) but she insists that my body NEEDS carbs to function properly because she once knew someone who did a low-carb diet and that person felt like crap on it. Another friend just looks at me weird and shakes her head.


                      I kind of wonder if they think I'm judging them or if being around me on my primal "diet" (they still think it's temporary) makes them self-conscious about what they eat. Granted, I'd really like to comment on their low-fat salad dressings and HFCS laden yogurt but I shut my hole.


                      Hopefully in a year or two they'll come around to my way of thinking. In the meantime, glad to know I'm not alone.

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                        hey guys thank you all for the comments and discussion I am glad im not alone. I read each discussion on my post i know what your going through as well feel free to keep venting on my post. I think we all need a reminder and support from fellow primal eaters that we are not alone. Thank you all and a big thanks to Mark Sisson.

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                          OMG...Real friend don't ditch you just because you are trying to eat healthy!


                          I usually don't say anything unless they ask. Then I tell them the basics. If they are ready to change their habits they will be all over you with questions and be reay to listen. If not it doesn't matter what you say!


                          Our friends have seen the dramatic change in my husband (long story involving hospital and many doctors) so they are generally supportive, although not neccesarily ready to jump on board. And of course my husband will tell them to F right off if they have a problem


                          In the end it's your life, your health and your decisions to make. Good luck!!


                          Peace

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                            I had a really long talk with some of my colleagues today. They always snicker at me when I refuse the junk they offer. But today I sent them all the fructose video. And for some reason they seemed interested. I talked to them about high sugar-consumption, disease-prevention, processed foods, organic foods, vegetable oils etc. At the end of my discussion, one of them announced she's going to switch to olive oil from vegetable oil. I declare my spiel a success. Baby steps.

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                              The worst times for me are during lunch meetings or other carb-laden festivities at work. My administrators always use food to praise their employees. Even though we work in a hospital, they often throw ice cream parties and order pizzas, BBQ takeout, or sub sandwiches with processed meat-like products for our working meetings. I once asked for a healthier alternative and laughed when I saw their solution: chicken marsala with mashed potatoes!


                              I don't mind waiting patiently until I can retreat to my own space to eat primal, but the comments drive me crazy. No less than ten people exlaim "why aren't you eating?!!" I've even had some busy-bodies offer comments that I shouldn't be starving myself because I am beautiful the way I am; they are so certain that vanity is my only motivation for not gorging on HFCS and mystery meat!


                              I think Catalina is right; being fit and eating healthfully is offensive to those who opt for conventional foods. I've seen people roll their eyes when I've tried to explain why I'm not partaking in the meal. They think I'm on a high horse and judging them. Now, I find it easier just to lie. It's so much easier to simply say "I have a food allergy", "I'm lactose intolerant", or "I can't eat gluten." Nobody argues with those explanations.

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