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  • Fat gay guy at 265 lbs 45 years old in Canada

    Hello all.

    Does this plan work FOR ME? That's my yard stick for measuring all this. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. Have been eating primal for about a week now. Think I'm over a carb flu.

    At 265 pounds and have been this heavy for a year. Since 2006, jumped from 230. Was down around 190 in 2004. Was 200 ish in 1998, then up to 250 by 2001.

    The major increase of weight from 2001 was a change in jobs from a physical one to a sedentary one. That, the death of my mum and my body slowing down while my eating wasn't - I was 35 then.

    In 2001 I tried to take control using a commercial diet that cost a fortune. I checked in with a nurse 3 x a week, received an injection said to be Vitamin B6 and B12, and was restricted to a diet < 800 calories a day. Majorly unhappy the whole time other than losing piles of weight. But miserable. Off and on that stupid, stupid diet until 2004 when I realized how freaking unhealthy it really was. It has since pulled at me to come back - if only for the results. My partner has said he will NOT let me go on it - that's how horrible the process was.

    Two years ago, read about Bill Clinton and his success with the Ornish plan. Tried that. Too damned difficult to comply. Tried Atkins and lost some weight. South Beach, and lost some weight.

    Then I just gave up. What the hell. The weight is on, it's not coming off.

    Six months ago, I stumbled on a site: Nerd Fitness. The guy talked in very simple terms about getting moving, about the folly of the Standard American Diet. Made reference to MDA. So I've spent MONTHS looking at this MDA plan - not diet. I joined a gym - one with a really great team who focused not only on fitness, but on diet (in its generic term). They put me on a self designed program essentially 50-30-20 carb/prot/fat - I lost some weight when I stuck to it, but it was hard even then to comply. And complex, constantly figuring out ratios - so much frigging work. The gym basically $65 a week for training. Ran out of my work, ran out of dough, stopped going to the gym. Weight started sneaking up.

    I waited to try the Primal route because although Mark talks a good game, EVERY damn diet out there does. And EVERYONE is now on the bandwagon saying 'its not a diet, it's a lifestyle'. I was confused and thought that any diet that removes a whole food group is just another gimmick. I'm so tired of gimmicks, of things that don't do anything but line someone else's pocket. Who to believe? Got sources for your info? Yes I know you do, but I can prove that you're an elephant if you let me cite the proper statistics. I do like that Primal does NOT eliminate a food group although it might at first appear to do so.

    BUT, Nerd Fitness and MDA both say "try it for 30 days". So OK I am. I'll get my hopes up again. I'll start dreaming again about what healthy looks like, about how it will feel not to lug around 100 pounds of blubber (and when I carry my 45 pound dog up the stairs for fun, I know how much 100 pounds weighs - yikes). I dream of what it will be like to be attractive - sexy. I think BEFORE I put food in my mouth about whether it's emotional eating or now.

    Someone in the forum posted the following sentence (close to it) - that the only measure of whether it works is whether it works for you. It hit home for me because it was buried in a forum thread that was heavy on the science of nutrition - you know the stuff, the stuff that sounds SO convincing (Hey P90X and it's muscle confusion sounded convincing too). And I thought yeah yeah so convincing. Right. I wouldn't know a fast muscle twitch from a horse saddle. Then I read that person's quote: it only works if it works FOR YOU.

    Great point. So here I am, hopes high. Knowing myself well enough to know if I'm really working this program or whether I'm just looking for another failure to justify my fat. I didn't "fall off" the plan yesterday, because I'm not working a PLAN. I am cutting out sugars, grains and crap food. I had a couple of cookies and some popcorn at the movies. Life goes on,. Today it's back to the way I want to eat: primal style.

    Was pretty cranky last week. Hard to determine if it was part of my regular depression (for which I'm popping pills) or carb flu. Think carb flu because it was worse than usual. Past two days though (days 6 and 7), I'm a pretty happy guy. After the cookies last night, legs trembled terribly trying to get too sleep. Taught me well that sugar is not my friend.

    My family is having pasta tonight - instead of noodles, I'm having spaghetti squash noodles, which I love. Instead of breakfast, which I have for years forced myself to eat, I usually have a smoothie - coconut milk, 1/2 banana, protein powder, some blueberries, some strawberries, some cayenne and some cinnamon. LOVE it.

    Cut out booze for 30 days. I love my beer. I need to learn a new booze habit - I don't see complete elimination of alcohol as realistic, but who knows. Maybe wine. For 30 days. I don't have to think about it though. This particular task will be hard for me.

    Six months ago, I had a major depression crash relating to my work. A high stress environment which I am now, for the most part, happily out of. Am re-evaluating life and realizing I WANT to be thin. And it's not just about health. I want to be sexy again, I want some vanity. I want some self esteem back. I'm tired of the quiet and not so quiet discrimination against me because I am fat. The jokes. The pokes in the belly and the Pillsbury dough boy comments. Tired of the self hatred. Tired of not being able to look down and see my ****.

    This cannot be the way life is supposed to be. I'm not letting this all rest on my "diet". There;s a good chunk of internal work to be done too. But they are not separate beasts. One lives with the other.

    I have reinvented myself several times over this life. I have not been a cubicle worker, I have been successful. And I will be again. And my health and my weight are part of this next adventure. So I have high hopes, Mr. Sisson. And while not ALL of my hopes are on the Primal Life, a good chunk is.

    So here we go. 265 - I'm going to weigh myself once a month. I'm going to commit to writing this journal once a week, every Tuesday. I've started some fitness steps - the Nerd Fitness basic workout but not pushing myself into injury.

    And dammit, I am going for my 36-38 inch waist. And not, as I have joked, a week after my death. But before my 47th birthday, eleven months from now.

  • #2
    Good luck. A friend of mine lost exactly 100lbs following weight watchers, so whatever you stick to will work and at least he does eat plenty of vegetables and what not.

    I'm not sure if this works for the gays though, what with their flashy genes and all.
    I used to seriously post here, now I prefer to troll.


    • #3
      Originally posted by iniQuity View Post
      Good luck. A friend of mine lost exactly 100lbs following weight watchers, so whatever you stick to will work and at least he does eat plenty of vegetables and what not.

      I'm not sure if this works for the gays though, what with their flashy genes and all.
      (We all look for someone to identify with. I saw no gay person identified on MDA, so thought I would be the first to do so.)


      • #4
        welcome aboard. like iniquity said, stick with it and it will work (i'm not the friend he's talking about, but i lost 100lbs with WW before getting wise and going primal...i'm mostly straight though.)
        and good for you for only weighing yourself once a month.


        • #5

          Welcome to MDA! I also found out about Paleo/Primal through NerdFitness (go Steve!), and ended up, over time, over here.

          I think there might be a few gays here, and a few straights, and a few we-don't-give-a-hoot, where's-the-bacon? types. Be prepared for wild arguments on gluten, sugar, booze, potatoes, and iodine. Oh, and how many orgasms did Grok really have - yeah, that was divisive for awhile - and do look for Gay Panda's journal, I think you will love it.


          • #6
            Haha, I was going to say, you must've missed Gay Panda

            Best of luck on your trial and future endeavours, whether you stick around or not! It's a nice community around here, especially in the journals.
            Depression Lies


            • #7
              Originally posted by lifechanger View Post
              I was confused and thought that any diet that removes a whole food group is just another gimmick.

              I tell myself to remember that grains are NOT a food group, at least for humans.

              And also, no offense to iniQuity, but for some of us, some things do NOT work, whether we stick to them, or not. Low-fat-high-carb-low-cal did not work for me, and I beat myself up for years about it, thinking I was just undisciplined. Primal DOES work (for me) and it makes it so easy. I can now understand how my body works, and hope to fix it eventually.

              Hope this is the thing that works for you, Lifechanger. Welcome.


              • #8
                Good luck but don't just weigh yourself, see if you can take photos and body part measurements...
                Eating primal is not a diet, it is a way of life.
                Don't forget to play!


                • #9
                  Good luck to you and welcome! I look forward to hearing about your experiences.
                  My Primal Journal:

                  "Freedom from fear" could be said to sum up the whole philosophy of human rights. - Dag Hammarskjold


                  • #10
                    Well, I must have missed any gay reference in the OP..... HOWEVER, besides the fact that I am straight, We are a lot alike sir..... I am a little older, and a little heavier, but we're close enough to be called similar, I would say.

                    I have been doing this "primal thing" for about 8 weeks.... after 2 weeks I had dropped 15 pounds... now most people would say that was all water weight, but I was already down 50 pounds when I started primal. Since then, my weight has gone down and up quite often, and in big chunks. I was sad when the day after I broke into the 260's, to find myself up 6 pounds overnight! Again, most would say that was water weight. I'm not so sure..... it makes sense though....

                    What doesn't make sense to me is that I keep fluctuating between 270 - and 278 on any given day.... and I am frustrated as hell....

                    So why am I posting here? Well, not to bring you down, but to encourage you to stick with it..... See, the whole weight thing SUCKS..... but I am fitting in clothes that I couldn't before. I have added holes to my belt. I feel pretty good. My blood sugar levels are better.

                    But that BLEEPING scale is like my worst nightmare. I am addicted to it. I try to weigh myself just once a week. I would LOVE to throw it away, but my family uses it.

                    Anyway, my big point here is that if you ever want to discuss something, you can drop me a message, and maybe I will have a relevant reply.

                    Good luck to you.
                    Start Date 9.24.12
                    Starting weight 285ish ( scale is acting funny so I don't trust it, but 285 is close )
                    CW - 271 pounds
                    First Goal - 255 by 2013
                    Main Goal - To be healthy for my family... I have an awesome family.
                    Other Goal - to get off some medications
                    Final goal - to get to about 180 pounds by 2014
                    NEW GOAL - When I can start a new journal called "Your dad is not so fat!"

                    Your Dad is So Fat


                    • #11

                      Thanks for sharing your story, I imagine many many people go through that same thought process when considering the PB life. When I first heard about PB (also through Nerd Fitness!) I dismissed it.

                      Congrats on the beginning of your journey And hurrah to looking good naked!
                      The Paleo Strongwoman - A site dedicated to strength, and feeding strength.


                      • #12
                        Do make sure you checkout Gay Panda. He's a gay and you're a gay, you'll get on famously :-p
                        Don't worry lifechanger, You're not the only gay in the village ;-) There's a few of us around the forum, we just don't necessarily put it in our handle or journal title.
                        If you're interested in my (very) occasional updates on how I'm working out and what I'm eating click here.

                        Originally posted by tfarny
                        If you are new to the PB - please ignore ALL of this stuff, until you've read the book, or at least


                        • #13
                          gay panda is not a he or a she, gay panda is an ethereal effervescent bit of evanescence in fuzzy pandapants form

                          or, you know, whatever

                          but i missed the gay part as well, which means that if i weren't taken and happy about i still wouldn't have a chance, cause i'm a girl

                          but hi lifechanger my depression got better (there are still some down days) and i hope yours will too

                          yeah you are

                          Baby if you time travel back far enough you can avoid that work because the dust won't be there. You're too pretty to be working that hard.


                          • #14
                            Good morning! Today, off to the gym. Yikes! Following the basic routine - a starter routine - found in Nerd Fitness.


                            • #15
                              You go, lifechanger!