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  • we are getting our car fixed today. they have mobile mechanics here. who knew? anyway, the guy is bringing stuff for the fan and stuff for the eletrical/battery, because that's what we think is going on. estimate is around $500 for the labor and stuff, and he's a friend of a friend, so that might work out.

    otherwise, I think we're going with a smaller hatch-back next time, rather than station wagon. I think more fuel efficiency overall. the civic or fit or something similar in a small hatchback.

    hatchbacks, all the rage in NZ.

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    • Originally posted by zoebird View Post
      I think the ONE thing we miss that we left behind in the states was our Pruis. These days, I wish we'd just had it brought over. LOL Would have cost us a fortune, but still. Probably less than what it would cost us to buy a new prius (which comes in at $40k+ here).
      Congrats on your new car. The prius is cool.
      Thank. With the two trade ins I got it down to 15k so that is not bad. It really handels nicely.

      Originally posted by Crabbcakes View Post
      I like reading your journal about life with Dad. You know my experiences with mine have been, erm, "difficult", and I like seeing that it is real-life possible to have a wonderful reciprocal relationship (not just a "dutiful" one like many have), like you have with yours. I already know that Hubby and I are doing it a thousand times better with our Crabblets, but I really work all the time to have a right relationship with ours so that they will WANT to know us and be with us when we get up there in the decade count. Back when I was a practicing Mormon, here is what we were quoted often: "No other success can compensate for failure in the home." (David O. McKay - former President of the Church who died in 1970), and the longer I live, the more I believe it.

      Whatever is in store for you and Dad, you will be at peace knowing you both did it well and truly right.
      That is a very wise quote regardless of religious affiliation. My Dad has been my rock for all these years. It is my turn to be his. It feels like the natural order of things, not any imposition.

      Originally posted by sbhikes View Post
      I built a website for some grad students who did research on what cars are both economically and environmentally friendly. The Tesla was the most environmentally friendly overall but never the most economical (<-- understatement of the year). Small ordinary gas cars often won both categories, cars like the Focus or Civic. So if anybody has a car like that, you can feel proud.

      Years ago I was hiking with the Sierra Club and Ronald Reagan's nurse was on the hike. She told us about how he was doing. I can't imagine anything more awful than having been the President of the United States and having done so many interesting things in life all to end life not remembering any of it.
      Physical infirmity is scary but losing the marbles is seriously terrifying. My Dad is just at that point now where he has enough marbles left to realize that he is missing some. I can only imagine how frightening and frustrating that must be.

      Originally posted by zoebird View Post
      we are getting our car fixed today. they have mobile mechanics here. who knew? anyway, the guy is bringing stuff for the fan and stuff for the eletrical/battery, because that's what we think is going on. estimate is around $500 for the labor and stuff, and he's a friend of a friend, so that might work out.

      otherwise, I think we're going with a smaller hatch-back next time, rather than station wagon. I think more fuel efficiency overall. the civic or fit or something similar in a small hatchback.

      hatchbacks, all the rage in NZ.
      I like the hatchback design on the Prius. You can really fit a lot back there with the back seats folded down.


      Today I went and got the new car insured and took the stray back seat from my old car (The Rav 4 has the kind that pop out instead of folding flat) that was in my garage to the car dealership and said, "Um, I think you might want this before you try to sell the car." I can't believe neither the salesman nor myself noticed that it was out yesterday. Derp.

      Today was the day of a thousand errands, lots of little stuff I've been not getting around to while needing to hover over my Dad. Car stuff plus taking my broken camera in for fixing, doing some grocery shopping, trying to find a good rolling walker for my Dad. I am also in search of a decent pair of flip-flops. Unfortunately all the shoe stores are putting out their fall lines of fuzzy boots. This is San Diego, folks. Flip- flops should be on sale all year long. Urg. Shopping is tiring.

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      • PB, Kenneth Cole flip flops are awesome with a tiny little heel, 1/4", quite pretty,
        also Born makes a good one, very comfortable, but TEVA my fave this yr.

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        • Try the thrift store. In my area at least one of the drug stores will donate all the leftover flip-flops to Good Will. They aren't top quality, but it'll get you through. And you never know what else there might be. Otherwise, try the surf shops.
          Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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          • Originally posted by JudyCr View Post
            PB, Kenneth Cole flip flops are awesome with a tiny little heel, 1/4", quite pretty,
            also Born makes a good one, very comfortable, but TEVA my fave this yr.
            Originally posted by sbhikes View Post
            Try the thrift store. In my area at least one of the drug stores will donate all the leftover flip-flops to Good Will. They aren't top quality, but it'll get you through. And you never know what else there might be. Otherwise, try the surf shops.
            You really have to try flip flops on rather than buy them on the net. You never can tell where something is going to rub you the wrong way from a picture. Teva makes very nice shoes. I have some wedge heeled sandals of theirs that are surprisingly comfortable for having a heel.

            I'm looking for hard soled flip flops and it seems like all I'm finding are the soft mushy ones.

            Surf shops down by the beach is a good idea. I think I'll take the dog for a walk and multitask.

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            • Originally posted by Paleobird View Post
              You really have to try flip flops on rather than buy them on the net. You never can tell where something is going to rub you the wrong way from a picture. Teva makes very nice shoes. I have some wedge heeled sandals of theirs that are surprisingly comfortable for having a heel.

              I'm looking for hard soled flip flops and it seems like all I'm finding are the soft mushy ones.

              Surf shops down by the beach is a good idea. I think I'll take the dog for a walk and multitask.
              I bought my Kenneth Cole's at Nordstroms.. but, like you say, they may be gone until next spring.
              Smart Dogs another great one, got beige ones on now. I ordered from their website, 8.5 always works for me.

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              • PB, I'm just catching up now and am I sorry about the development with your father. Sending warm thoughts your way.
                Last edited by KerryK; 09-22-2012, 02:10 PM. Reason: Derned phone
                SW: 243
                CW: 177
                Goal: Health

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                • Paleobird,

                  I just want to let you know how much your diaries and Moar Fat threads have helped me in my primal journey. I'm 1 year older than you and your contributions (and others) have been invaluable to me sticking with this, making tweaks, and finding success with this lifestyle that didn't come to me immediately. Your counting calories and tracking advice was really hard for me to accept, but I kept coming back to it when I went months and months with no weight loss. So I FINALLY started tracking.. and wow. It's probably the single one thing that has helped me start getting the scale moving downward again.

                  Now ...the upping the fat, embracing ketosis, while keeping calories in check advice has also been tremendously valuable. I'm cycling rather than staying in ketosis 100% of the time, but overall, I'm 10 lbs lighter, thanks to your advice.

                  My father has alzheimers. He's in early stages.. which is good, but the future is grim. Your post about your dad also resonate.

                  Anyway - thanks for your openness. I'm still a bit jealous of your photos.. but I wanted you to know how much you help others around here.

                  -Kristin

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                  • Paleobird,

                    so sorry to hear about your dads health challenges.

                    It does sound like you are using all your life skills to handle this time. A very dear friend of mine has a saying that I often turn to and that is 'TIME BELONG'. This is such a reminder that now is the time for insert event or situation. I find this gives me permission to live the experience and focus on the gifts of the event as well as the challenges.

                    Sending love and light from Australia to you and your dad.
                    Jackie
                    link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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                    • Originally posted by JudyCr View Post
                      I bought my Kenneth Cole's at Nordstroms.. but, like you say, they may be gone until next spring.
                      Smart Dogs another great one, got beige ones on now. I ordered from their website, 8.5 always works for me.
                      Finally today, RiteAid Pharmacy to the rescue. I was in there to get some printer paper and noticed they had flip flops. Got some perfect ones, just plain black (don't need beads, feathers, or sparkly things on my feet) and very comfortable with a flat hard sole. Yay!

                      Originally posted by KerryK View Post
                      PB, I'm just catching up now and am I sorry about the development with your father. Sending warm thoughts your way.
                      Thank you, Kerry. My online "family" support means a lot to me.

                      Originally posted by Credodisi View Post
                      Paleobird,

                      I just want to let you know how much your diaries and Moar Fat threads have helped me in my primal journey. I'm 1 year older than you and your contributions (and others) have been invaluable to me sticking with this, making tweaks, and finding success with this lifestyle that didn't come to me immediately. Your counting calories and tracking advice was really hard for me to accept, but I kept coming back to it when I went months and months with no weight loss. So I FINALLY started tracking.. and wow. It's probably the single one thing that has helped me start getting the scale moving downward again.

                      Now ...the upping the fat, embracing ketosis, while keeping calories in check advice has also been tremendously valuable. I'm cycling rather than staying in ketosis 100% of the time, but overall, I'm 10 lbs lighter, thanks to your advice.

                      My father has alzheimers. He's in early stages.. which is good, but the future is grim. Your post about your dad also resonate.

                      Anyway - thanks for your openness. I'm still a bit jealous of your photos.. but I wanted you to know how much you help others around here.

                      -Kristin
                      Oh, Kristin, thank you. This is the kind of note that makes it all worth doing. Knowing that I could help someone else. I'm so glad it is working for you too. I'm so sorry about your Dad. I think there are a lot of us baby boomers dealing with elder care right now. {{{{HUGS}}}}

                      Originally posted by jacmac View Post
                      Paleobird,

                      so sorry to hear about your dads health challenges.

                      It does sound like you are using all your life skills to handle this time. A very dear friend of mine has a saying that I often turn to and that is 'TIME BELONG'. This is such a reminder that now is the time for insert event or situation. I find this gives me permission to live the experience and focus on the gifts of the event as well as the challenges.

                      Sending love and light from Australia to you and your dad.
                      Jackie
                      Thank you, Jackie. Yes, that is a good way of looking at it. Dad and I are working together to address some of the challenges like I just ordered one of those rollators for him (sort of a rolling walker with handles and a fold down seat). With that he could get out and about more and not be stuck going stir crazy in the house. He is just too unsteady on his feet now. He goes around the house with one hand on a wall or a sofa for balance but outside he feels insecure. This would also give him a place to sit down and rest if needed. I was thinking he could come with me to the park where I sometimes run wind sprints. We could have a little walk and then he could sit down and watch me do my sprints.

                      Yes, challenges and gifts, you're right. The gift in this situation is the time we get to spend together and the closeness. Dad has never been particularly good at expressing feeling so he really took me by surprise tonight by saying, "I want you to know that I really appreciate all the tender loving care you have been giving me." I just about cried.

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                      • Aww, that's the sweetest thing ever. Dads are so awesome.

                        All this really got me thinking about all of our seniors in our family, and so I've upped a little more connection. I email my grandmother (including my mom and aunt) images of our family and life. I don't know if she knows how to access them, but my aunt and uncle tend to help her from what I understand. DH's grandmother has basically no real sense of anything, but my MIL takes her notes that we send to her via email. She had her 96th birthday last weekend! She remembers her own name, but that's just about all, really. She's sweet though, not aggressive about all of it like some people with dementia can be (in fact, my grandmother can get really mean and nasty with her dementia).

                        I've also made some good progress with my ILs. It's hard because we are so different, but at the end of the day, they are part of the family. And then, with my own parents, things are going really well. They are happy with their new yoga routines, and dad's noticing a lot of benefits. They are looking forward to coming back again in a year or two, and just staying around wellington and doing some fun things with DS. So, it's good on that end.

                        My aunt has had a really rough go because she fell and hurt her wrist. It's devastating for her, becuase her physical therapist won't let her do anything but *walk* on a flat area for only about 30 minutes at a time. They're afraid of her getting too tired and falling and injuring the wrist. It's such a mess! I feel so sorry for her. So, I'm trying to contact her to create a yoga routine just for her that wouldn't involve her wrist but would let her get some movement is at least a bit more than what she's been given the go-ahead to do (she can do yoga, but not classes in her area because the PT doesn't know what they do and whether or not they would hurt her wrist, but I figure if I make a video, her PT can have a look at it and see if it fits the bill or not).

                        I'm really thankful for skype.
                        Last edited by zoebird; 09-22-2012, 11:40 PM.

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                        • Originally posted by Paleobird View Post
                          The gift in this situation is the time we get to spend together and the closeness. Dad has never been particularly good at expressing feeling so he really took me by surprise tonight by saying, "I want you to know that I really appreciate all the tender loving care you have been giving me." I just about cried.
                          ^This made me cry!

                          My thoughts and prayers are with you as you find your way through this next stage of life. It's a hard thing with new ground to navigate. It sounds like you'll do it well though. Hugs from Vienna!

                          And congrats on the new car! Sea foam green sounds lovely. Kinda beachy.

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                          • Originally posted by zoebird View Post
                            Aww, that's the sweetest thing ever. Dads are so awesome.

                            All this really got me thinking about all of our seniors in our family, and so I've upped a little more connection. I email my grandmother (including my mom and aunt) images of our family and life. I don't know if she knows how to access them, but my aunt and uncle tend to help her from what I understand. DH's grandmother has basically no real sense of anything, but my MIL takes her notes that we send to her via email. She had her 96th birthday last weekend! She remembers her own name, but that's just about all, really. She's sweet though, not aggressive about all of it like some people with dementia can be (in fact, my grandmother can get really mean and nasty with her dementia).

                            I've also made some good progress with my ILs. It's hard because we are so different, but at the end of the day, they are part of the family. And then, with my own parents, things are going really well. They are happy with their new yoga routines, and dad's noticing a lot of benefits. They are looking forward to coming back again in a year or two, and just staying around wellington and doing some fun things with DS. So, it's good on that end.

                            My aunt has had a really rough go because she fell and hurt her wrist. It's devastating for her, becuase her physical therapist won't let her do anything but *walk* on a flat area for only about 30 minutes at a time. They're afraid of her getting too tired and falling and injuring the wrist. It's such a mess! I feel so sorry for her. So, I'm trying to contact her to create a yoga routine just for her that wouldn't involve her wrist but would let her get some movement is at least a bit more than what she's been given the go-ahead to do (she can do yoga, but not classes in her area because the PT doesn't know what they do and whether or not they would hurt her wrist, but I figure if I make a video, her PT can have a look at it and see if it fits the bill or not).

                            I'm really thankful for skype.
                            I think that's great that you can help them. I wonder if some gentle yoga could help my Dad with his balance issues. Hmm. Must research.
                            Last edited by Paleobird; 09-23-2012, 12:46 PM.

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                            • Originally posted by lissee View Post
                              ^This made me cry!

                              My thoughts and prayers are with you as you find your way through this next stage of life. It's a hard thing with new ground to navigate. It sounds like you'll do it well though. Hugs from Vienna!

                              And congrats on the new car! Sea foam green sounds lovely. Kinda beachy.
                              Thanks you, lissee. Yes, I think the official Toyota name for the color is "Seaglass".

                              Have you ever heard the Billy Joel song, "Vienna Waits For You"? Way before your time but well worth a google.

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                              • Your journal has prompted me to really talk seriously to my mother about what's going to happen for her in the future when she needs to move out of her house (she has steps to every door, some of them quite steep). She's been very unrealistic about what she could get for the house when she sells, and then miserable at the prospect of what kind of place she could afford to live in. We've kind of left those conversations, because although she's thinking and worrying about it a lot, she's still only 67, working and very independent if not as healthy as she could be. So after some serious conversations with my lovely husband about what our responsibilities are (that sounds so harsh - it was really about what we want to do, need to do, and can manage to do), I called her. I was able to tell her that the moment she decides she doesn't want to work any more, she can move in here. Not ideal, we both agreed, but this is the ultimate backstop and she can use it any time and for any reason. She's not trapped any more by having no option but to work. The best thing, though, was telling her that we will pay her mortgage so she can afford to live in the place she wants to live - a 3 bedroom villa in a retirement village near to her friends. It's the first time in my whole life that I've ever been able to be heard by her. She went quiet, then said thank you.

                                I hope it won't happen for a few years yet, so that she stays healthy enough to work things through at her own pace. But we have a plan that will work for us all.

                                I feel tearful as I write this - it's been a big weekend for us all. Thanks for the level of sharing you do here, PB; you're helping me to be a better version of me.
                                Started Feb 18 2011

                                Tried basic primal and almost everything else in pursuit of IBS control, mood stability, and weight loss.

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