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  • Originally posted by Cryptocode View Post
    Maybe a big effect. It was a scary situation that could have been much worse. The fear takes a while to face and recede.
    Yes it does take a while. I think last night, after writing about it, was the first night I was really able to sleep right and deeply since getting home. I feel much more rested and together today.

    Thanks to everybody for listening to my soap opera.

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    • The beauty of a forum is the download!

      PB you give a lot on this forum and I believe the karma of giving is the receiving. No surprises that you have plenty of peeps to listen when you need
      link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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      • Very helpful to "talk out" traumatic experiences. It's your journal, after all!
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        • Originally posted by jacmac View Post
          The beauty of a forum is the download!

          PB you give a lot on this forum and I believe the karma of giving is the receiving. No surprises that you have plenty of peeps to listen when you need
          Awwww, jacmac. Thank you.

          Originally posted by Dragonfly View Post
          Very helpful to "talk out" traumatic experiences. It's your journal, after all!
          I did help to write it out. At the time it was happening it was just so completely "out of the blue" it just seemed surreal. Then when I got home I just felt numb for several days.

          Geting it out in words had made it tangible and face-able. Face it, deal with it, shake it off, and move on.

          While I know that I dodged a bullet, I still grieve for the relationship I thought I had with that caring sweet guy. I miss him. I miss what we had.

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          • Originally posted by jacmac View Post
            The beauty of a forum is the download!

            PB you give a lot on this forum and I believe the karma of giving is the receiving. No surprises that you have plenty of peeps to listen when you need
            Aye aye, PB you've typed quite a few words of encouragement in response to my posts and I'm sorry to hear about what happened. Breakups suck but music is what gets me through them. I recommend Megadeth Don't forget there's 3.5 billion guys in the world!

            Btw, are you still doing the carnivore diet? I've been on it for a few months and feel terrific.

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            • Damn, Paleobird, that's really fucked up. I was honestly hoping things would have worked out for you two, you seemed so happy :| Really sorry to hear about that.

              You'll find yours though.
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              • Robin, what you're describing (multiple personalities) is technically called dissociative disorder. Of course no one can diagnose via the internet, but here's some info.

                A snip from NAMI | Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder)

                "Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), previously referred to as multiple personality disorder (MPD), is a dissociative disorder involving a disturbance of identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states (or identities) control the individual's behavior at different times. When under the control of one identity, the person is usually unable to remember some of the events that occurred while other personalities were in control. The different identities, referred to as alters, may exhibit differences in speech, mannerisms, attitudes, thoughts, and gender orientation. The alters may even differ in "physical" properties such as allergies, right-or-left handedness, or the need for eyeglass prescriptions. These differences between alters are often quite striking."

                There's a little more on the link I put above, and you can also Google it to get even more info. The major "cause" for this disorder is childhood trauma, where the person assumes an alter who is "stronger" in some way to handle the trauma.

                You're lucky you discovered this about him before your relationship went any further. I'm glad you're safe, and I offer more *hugs*.

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                • Originally posted by dizzyorange View Post
                  Aye aye, PB you've typed quite a few words of encouragement in response to my posts and I'm sorry to hear about what happened. Breakups suck but music is what gets me through them. I recommend Megadeth Don't forget there's 3.5 billion guys in the world!

                  Btw, are you still doing the carnivore diet? I've been on it for a few months and feel terrific.
                  Thanks, Dizzy. Yep, still carnivorous. I let a bunch of other stuff slip in as part of being sociable in the relationship going out to restaurants and such but I'm taking it back to the basics now. I'm glad it's working for you.

                  Originally posted by Derpamix View Post
                  Damn, Paleobird, that's really fucked up. I was honestly hoping things would have worked out for you two, you seemed so happy :| Really sorry to hear about that.

                  You'll find yours though.
                  Thank you, Derpaheart.

                  Originally posted by Goldie View Post
                  Robin, what you're describing (multiple personalities) is technically called dissociative disorder. Of course no one can diagnose via the internet, but here's some info.

                  A snip from NAMI | Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder)

                  "Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), previously referred to as multiple personality disorder (MPD), is a dissociative disorder involving a disturbance of identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states (or identities) control the individual's behavior at different times. When under the control of one identity, the person is usually unable to remember some of the events that occurred while other personalities were in control. The different identities, referred to as alters, may exhibit differences in speech, mannerisms, attitudes, thoughts, and gender orientation. The alters may even differ in "physical" properties such as allergies, right-or-left handedness, or the need for eyeglass prescriptions. These differences between alters are often quite striking."

                  There's a little more on the link I put above, and you can also Google it to get even more info. The major "cause" for this disorder is childhood trauma, where the person assumes an alter who is "stronger" in some way to handle the trauma.

                  You're lucky you discovered this about him before your relationship went any further. I'm glad you're safe, and I offer more *hugs*.
                  That sounds about right. In his case the trauma was having a face that scared people. Interesting info. Thanks, Goldie.

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                  • I think it's time to start a new journal. I'm feeling the need for a clean break with the past.

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                    • Yup. You need a new journal to reflect your new life.
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                      • Leave us a link here, please?
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                        • Originally posted by honeybuns View Post
                          Yup. You need a new journal to reflect your new life.
                          Originally posted by Twibble View Post
                          Leave us a link here, please?
                          Yep. Very true.

                          Here it is. : http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread90369.html

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                          • Originally posted by Goldie View Post
                            Robin, what you're describing (multiple personalities) is technically called dissociative disorder. Of course no one can diagnose via the internet, but here's some info.

                            A snip from NAMI | Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder)

                            "Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), previously referred to as multiple personality disorder (MPD), is a dissociative disorder involving a disturbance of identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states (or identities) control the individual's behavior at different times. When under the control of one identity, the person is usually unable to remember some of the events that occurred while other personalities were in control. The different identities, referred to as alters, may exhibit differences in speech, mannerisms, attitudes, thoughts, and gender orientation. The alters may even differ in "physical" properties such as allergies, right-or-left handedness, or the need for eyeglass prescriptions. These differences between alters are often quite striking."

                            There's a little more on the link I put above, and you can also Google it to get even more info. The major "cause" for this disorder is childhood trauma, where the person assumes an alter who is "stronger" in some way to handle the trauma.

                            You're lucky you discovered this about him before your relationship went any further. I'm glad you're safe, and I offer more *hugs*.
                            The first thing they need to understand is that the Survivor is NOT the adult.

                            hard to accept but true. the thinking that helped you cope wont always work.
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                            • Originally posted by quelsen View Post
                              The first thing they need to understand is that the Survivor is NOT the adult.

                              hard to accept but true. the thinking that helped you cope wont always work.
                              I think the classic scenario that Goldie is referencing is when a person has a relatively normal life, then a traumatic event occurs and the "alter" is created as a protector/coping mechanism.

                              In this particular case the trauma was the first 35 years of his life. I think, with his new face, he created and "alter" of a soft spoken, successful, respectable gentleman and that it was this alter who was the person that I thought I knew. Under pressure, the facade cracked and the angry, paranoid, hurting, and hurtful loser that had been carefully stuffed down for years came out again.

                              Maybe this isn't textbook MPD or DID but it sure felt like it.

                              In any case, I haven't heard from him since which is fine with me.

                              <Shudder> Would rather not think about this any more.

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                              • paleobird...am trying to catch up to you.
                                shoot me a msg if/when you get this.
                                Even if you fall flat on your face, at least you're moving forward!

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