There was a friend of mine at the memorial service who, when told about putting the house up for sale and looking for an apartment, said, "Oh, you have to come look at the place we have for rent in our building". She and her partner bought a huge rambling old craftsman style house a while back and have been fixing it up with the idea of renting it out as several units.
So I went to take a look. It is a really cool neighborhood very like and very near where I live now. Dead end street, canyon view, quiet, etc. They have done a very nice job fixing the place up but I just don't think it is right for me. Looking at it though helped me clarify in my mind what I DO want by seeing what I don't.
I came to the conclusion that I am looking for a newer building, one that was built since the invention of the internet. Things like plumbing that doesn't make funny noises, floors that don't squeak, electrical infrastructure that can handle computers, built in wifi, big enough closet space, plentiful kitchen counter space, matter to me. I don't want "quaint", "charming", etc, all just code words for kinda old.
The owners are two of my best friends and there is an appeal to moving in there (where they also have one floor). It would be like an instant community complete with a community garden out back. It really felt "homey" to me but then I realized that this is because it is a lot like the home I have now. These two ladies both knew my Mom and Dad and, in some way, it would be like moving in with a couple of kindly aunts.
Also, this neighborhood is known around SD for being the center of the LGBT community. That is no problem for me and, at the risk of a cliche, some of my best friends are gay, lots of them in fact. I just think that I would end up hanging out with them and their friends a lot if I lived in that house and that is one of the things I would like to change by changing neighborhoods. I would like to stop getting hit on by girls and having all the few single straight men who exist assume I must be gay and not even bothering. This is a rather lonely neighborhood in which to be straight.
So why is it that I feel this need to completely strike out on my own? Do something completely different? <cue Monty Python,"And now, for something completely different...">