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  • Well, I got a lot done today. The neighbors who might potentially be buyers of the house helped a bunch. The guy and I went through Dad's workshop and completely cleaned it out. My Dad had said, back when he was still lucid that he wanted me to give this neighbor first pick of any tools and such. Dad really liked that guy. I think he reminded him of himself at a younger age starting out with a house and a new family. Dad helped him out whenever he could with tools and advice and even a little surrogate grand-parenting of their kid like teaching the tike how a gopher trap works and how to avoid getting hurt by one.

    The neighbor and I got everything out of the workshop in one day, something that I thought would take a week. The lady neighbor helped me go through and sort out the dishes and I gave her some nice things like Mom's big glass punch bowl.

    It feels so good to be lightening the load of excess baggage in my life.

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    • From the other side of the gifting experience, I can speak of how incredibly grateful I was to inherit a number of things large and small - from chessmen and a Jaeger silk scarf to furniture - that I would never have been able to have in my life otherwise. And not a week goes by that I don't think of that individual and remember and honour her and the relative of hers that invited husband and I to take whatever we wanted/needed. That gift truly does keep giving for us. It's a wonderful thing to do if you can: sharing the riches of a life well lived.
      I like badgers, books and booze, more or less in that order.

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      • Originally posted by Paleobird View Post
        It feels so good to be lightening the load of excess baggage in my life.
        I'm glad it's going well so far. Letting go of stuff and streamlining your life is great - it can get pretty addictive, actually! So liberating. And it's nice to see that your folks' things can find new homes and be useful to others.
        I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best.

        Oscar Wilde

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        • Originally posted by badgergirl View Post
          From the other side of the gifting experience, I can speak of how incredibly grateful I was to inherit a number of things large and small - from chessmen and a Jaeger silk scarf to furniture - that I would never have been able to have in my life otherwise. And not a week goes by that I don't think of that individual and remember and honour her and the relative of hers that invited husband and I to take whatever we wanted/needed. That gift truly does keep giving for us. It's a wonderful thing to do if you can: sharing the riches of a life well lived.
          Yep, the neighbors are at a different stage in their lives with two careers and a little kid to raise. They grow a lot of their own produce (they were the ones who kept giving me piles of zucchini last summer) so all Dad's gardening tools will be put to good use. His tools and workshop meant a lot to him. He would be pleased to know that the tools continue to be useful for someone who will take good care of them.

          Originally posted by Sigi View Post
          I'm glad it's going well so far. Letting go of stuff and streamlining your life is great - it can get pretty addictive, actually! So liberating. And it's nice to see that your folks' things can find new homes and be useful to others.
          The neighbors' house was designed by the same architect as my parents' house and has the same mid fifties modern "look" of lots of wood and glass. So, the things I'm giving them look right "at home" there.

          It would be so cool if they actually bought the place. That way we could avoid paying brokerage fees and I would know that the house was going to someone who would appreciate it and not just take a bulldozer to it in order to build something bigger and shinier.
          Last edited by Paleobird; 11-12-2012, 08:53 AM.

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          • Originally posted by Paleobird View Post

            Yep, folks around here can chase after the latest potato if that makes them happy. I know what works. Consistently. Long term.
            Thanks PB and Cori I needed to hear that message today. I have realised that being super busy I have been neglecting my health and have not been true to myself or primal (you know the 1 won't hurt mentality that can creep in while you are not watching!).
            link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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            • I think it would be so comforting to know the new owners. I am a great believer in karma PB and IMO you are reaping what you sow. These lovely people who are there to support you and help you, with the often troublesome process of clearing out and letting go, are there because you have engaged with them in a lovely way in the past.

              BTW I am really quite jealous of your impending freedom. We are mortgaged with dependant kids who are at university and we own our own business, so not exactly in a position to up stumps and go play in the world like you are. All this talk of selling up and travelling sounds so good. I am glad for you (still jealous though).
              link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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              • Originally posted by jacmac View Post
                Thanks PB and Cori I needed to hear that message today. I have realised that being super busy I have been neglecting my health and have not been true to myself or primal (you know the 1 won't hurt mentality that can creep in while you are not watching!).
                Cori and I both have neurological disorders. If a strict diet is helping both of us, it proves that diet does mater. "One won't hurt" is fine if you are young, healthy , and at an ideal weight. The rest of us have to, as Cori said, "stick to our guns".

                Originally posted by jacmac View Post
                I think it would be so comforting to know the new owners. I am a great believer in karma PB and IMO you are reaping what you sow. These lovely people who are there to support you and help you, with the often troublesome process of clearing out and letting go, are there because you have engaged with them in a lovely way in the past.

                BTW I am really quite jealous of your impending freedom. We are mortgaged with dependant kids who are at university and we own our own business, so not exactly in a position to up stumps and go play in the world like you are. All this talk of selling up and travelling sounds so good. I am glad for you (still jealous though).
                Yes, on the one hand I love this place. I grew up here. Otoh, I really feel like it is time to move onward. Knowing the new owners would treat the place well and even being welcome to come back for a visit now and then would be nice though. Sort of the best of both.

                I t really does feel good to look around me and think, "How much of this *stuff* do I actually need and/or use?" And then to realize that there is a lot that needs to go.

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                • It's always great living in a high demand place, and mid-mod is really hot now, so that no doubt helps a ton. Our place sold before we put it on the market just because of how it was positioned in our area (no more new construction of that size, ours were the newest, and in good condition, great schools/neighborhood/amenities, etc). So, technically sold in one day (the day that we put it on the market!).

                  I think it sounds like a great option for that young, artsy family. Renting there might be weird, or it might be awesome! Honestly, there's no telling. It's definitely worth considering all around.

                  It's also great to be able to give things to neighbors who knew your dad and whom your dad enjoyed good relationships with. he will carry on with them, too. Those children will go "this was our neighbor's tool!" DH does this with some of the things that he's collected over the years from beloved neighbors who passed away when he was young. Most of it he ultimately sold (to move here), but when we went through that stuff, he told me stories of each person. Even many years out, the memories remain.

                  And isn't it nice to have these little treasures of your family's life have a new life with families who will treasure these things? I think that's a real joy in letting go of these things.

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                  • PB have you ever considered walking the Camino Santiago? The idea of shedding of stuff plays a role in that walk. I have walked a portion of it after my cancer treatment. I plan to return and complete the whole walk.A quick google search will enlighten you.
                    link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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                    • My friend just finished Camino Santiago! This weekend is her welcome-back party. Very cool. Amazing, really.

                      DH and I look forward to some long walks in the future. Both DS and his girlfriend can do a good distance for their age (about 8 kms with enough rest on pretty steep up/down terrain here in wellington), so it's not going to be too much longer.

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                      • Hello Paleobird, my name is Kym and I came to the forum a year and a half ago and then took a hiatus. You may remember me or maybe not. I'm the same height as you, and I remember your story.

                        I clean out a closet every 3-9 months, one reason is I am an anal organizer at times and lived in a few small studios in NYC where you HAD to clean out regularly. Also, I think it is because of all the old stuff I have seen in relatives homes after their passing.

                        My mother, the responsible, over functioner of the family, was always cleaning and sorting mostly solo and still says stuff like, I need to clean out this house, I would be mortified knowing someone has to deal with all this junk if I die. I guess it stuck with me, bc I am far from dead, but always cleaning out and letting go. It is an amazing process and can really allow for unexpected things to come into your life. Good for you! And traveling adventures are the best stuff of life, aren't they?

                        I am currently on a mission to correct my health after some clusters of small, and too close for comfort, health issues. You can check out my new journal for details if you so choose. Do you mind if I ask how long it took to wittle off 65 pounds the first time? I am an overachieving freak, and would like something to relate (not compare) to from someone who is built similar to me.
                        My journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread70684.html

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                        • Originally posted by zoebird View Post
                          It's always great living in a high demand place, and mid-mod is really hot now, so that no doubt helps a ton. Our place sold before we put it on the market just because of how it was positioned in our area (no more new construction of that size, ours were the newest, and in good condition, great schools/neighborhood/amenities, etc). So, technically sold in one day (the day that we put it on the market!).

                          I think it sounds like a great option for that young, artsy family. Renting there might be weird, or it might be awesome! Honestly, there's no telling. It's definitely worth considering all around.

                          It's also great to be able to give things to neighbors who knew your dad and whom your dad enjoyed good relationships with. he will carry on with them, too. Those children will go "this was our neighbor's tool!" DH does this with some of the things that he's collected over the years from beloved neighbors who passed away when he was young. Most of it he ultimately sold (to move here), but when we went through that stuff, he told me stories of each person. Even many years out, the memories remain.

                          And isn't it nice to have these little treasures of your family's life have a new life with families who will treasure these things? I think that's a real joy in letting go of these things.
                          Is mid-mod hot? I really didn't know that.

                          Today I gave away my Mom's sewing machine and all her sewing stuff to my housekeeper who was just thrilled to have it. It is nice to know that things like that are going to someone who can really use and appreciate them. The housekeeper also took all the cleaning supplies that were piling up under Dad's sink. He would be at the store and not remember if he needed some Windex or not so he would buy another one and ended up with three bottles of Windex. And there were dusters and mops and all kinds of stuff that will keep on cleaning houses for many more years to come.

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                          • Originally posted by jacmac View Post
                            PB have you ever considered walking the Camino Santiago? The idea of shedding of stuff plays a role in that walk. I have walked a portion of it after my cancer treatment. I plan to return and complete the whole walk.A quick google search will enlighten you.
                            Originally posted by zoebird View Post
                            My friend just finished Camino Santiago! This weekend is her welcome-back party. Very cool. Amazing, really.

                            DH and I look forward to some long walks in the future. Both DS and his girlfriend can do a good distance for their age (about 8 kms with enough rest on pretty steep up/down terrain here in wellington), so it's not going to be too much longer.
                            Are you guys talking about the one in Spain or is there another?

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                            • yep the Camino Santiago is in Spain. I have such fond memories of my time in Spain. I only walked for two weeks but spent another week travelling in Spain the people were amazing along with the landscape.
                              link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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                              • Originally posted by Kymma View Post
                                Hello Paleobird, my name is Kym and I came to the forum a year and a half ago and then took a hiatus. You may remember me or maybe not. I'm the same height as you, and I remember your story.

                                I clean out a closet every 3-9 months, one reason is I am an anal organizer at times and lived in a few small studios in NYC where you HAD to clean out regularly. Also, I think it is because of all the old stuff I have seen in relatives homes after their passing.

                                My mother, the responsible, over functioner of the family, was always cleaning and sorting mostly solo and still says stuff like, I need to clean out this house, I would be mortified knowing someone has to deal with all this junk if I die. I guess it stuck with me, bc I am far from dead, but always cleaning out and letting go. It is an amazing process and can really allow for unexpected things to come into your life. Good for you! And traveling adventures are the best stuff of life, aren't they?

                                I am currently on a mission to correct my health after some clusters of small, and too close for comfort, health issues. You can check out my new journal for details if you so choose. Do you mind if I ask how long it took to wittle off 65 pounds the first time? I am an overachieving freak, and would like something to relate (not compare) to from someone who is built similar to me.
                                Hi Kym. Yes I remember you. Fellow Amazonian woman.

                                That sounds like a great plan to do the clean out on a regular basis and not wait for the stuff to build up to the point where it gets so huge that you just think, "I'll get to that next week. Really I will."

                                My 65 lbs came off in two chunks. The first 30 fell off really easily in about 6 months by just going low carb on the "don't eat white foods" program before I found Primal. Then I started Primal and that's when I got the "EAT MOAR FAT" message and so I did and gained some back. When I figured out that calories do count and that just because they are Taubsian "good" calories doesn't mean you can eat as much as you want and still lose weight, then things got moving the right direction again. The last 35 dropped off in 5 months.

                                I am not a Jack Kruse devotee by any means but he does have some good sensible advice that really helped me. The big protein breakfast is great. (It doesn't have to be exact # of grams at exact time). The no snacking rule is good too. Also just generally getting your body back in touch with natural daily cycles of sleep/wake by going to bed earlier and getting up earlier helps a lot too.
                                There is no way he will ever convince me that sitting in an ice water bath is anything other than misplaced masochism though.

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