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  • As you did it unto the least of these... I mean, what is your nephew supposed to do, leave them sitting at home?
    5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
    Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
    Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

    More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
    - Lewis Mumford

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    • Thanks, Pedidoc --- I think I'm just having an off day! Sorta in a slump.

      For many reasons the holidays and the end of the year are very stressful for me. I won't bore you with the details.......

      Judg - I've thought about that too. But the gathering is not even happening ON thanksgiving - we are having our gathering on Friday evening. So its not like they would be left home on Thanksgiving. I think the part that bugs me the most is that they didn't even ask if they could bring FIVE more people. Maybe I'm really more upset that her sister isn't saying "it's a family gathering, I'm not going be a party crasher". I wouldn't assume I was invited to a family gathering when its not my family -- its just rude I think. Honestly - my neice probably has absolutely no clue that its just not okay to do this. I love her dearly and wouldn't want her to feel badly. I'm pretty much into the "dealing with it" phase. We'll manage and everything will be fine. We will be gracious hosts and make them feel welcome.

      I was craving brownies when I left work today.......... nearly stopped at the store to buy a mix. But I didn't. Instead I came home and ate some cold chicken, almond butter and a little brown sugar. I'm currently on my second cup of tea with honey. Breakfast was also almond butter. Not eating very good today. Dinner will be a hamburger patty I think. I'm not sure -- I don't want more chicken. Maybe dinner will be breakfast - eggs scrambled with bacon and cheese - and hashed browns I could even cook the rest of the ground beef and mix it in with some red onions and peppers too! Yummy! Have to see what hubby thinks about that.

      My son is making arrangements to see another house. The one he offered on didn't work out. Seems the owners are chin deep in debt on that one and they pretty much have to get full asking price to clear things. I imagine we will look at some this weekend. I hope he finds something soon cuz I'm getting frustrated with him! It will be interesting to see him managing his own household - he's never even lived on his own. I'm sure he'll be fine - but I think he's going to need some hand holding for a while until he figures it all out. He's very responsible with money so I'm not concerned with that - but I still have to remind him to clean his bathroom! He's basically lazy by nature....... so I expect his housekeeping and yard maintenance my suffer a bit. Bottom line - he's 26 and its time for him to move out! As I've said numerous times in this journal. I'm getting tired of waiting for him to move out!

      Tomorrow is mom day. I haven't hemmed her pants yet - I will have to do that tonight. Shouldn't take that long - 3 pairs of pants and I have the inseam measurement. I just don't want to do it.
      1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
      2. Eat to heal
      3. Move to live
      4. Embrace today
      5. Live with intention
      6. Respect my body
      7. Cultivate joy
      8. Find my passion
      9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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      • I posted this in the she-groks thread - but thought it was worth putting in my journal too.

        Aging is weird isn't it? I had a hard time turning 30 - but thats the only number that really bothered me. I have had a hard time watching my face change, and my body sage. I had a pretty lousy self-esteem in my younger years, and I always felt my only good asset was my looks -- no beauty queen - but I was not ugly either. I remember finding my first grey hair! I almost cried! My ex husband was 14 years my senior so growing old "with" him was never an option - when we got married he was already 35 and to my 21 he already looked old! I thought I needed to stay looking young to be attractive to him. We divorced when I was 40 and he confessed that he had never been in love with me anyway. Now I'm married to a man my same age and growing old together is just a hoot! We laugh at the changes we are going through. I still don't want to look like an old woman though - even though I know he will still love me - I mean, gaining 75 pounds didn't hinder his love for me - so why should a few wrinkles and a white head of hair? You know what I hate MOST about the changes in my body? My belly! You know that wonderful saggy under the belly button thing? I remember watching Mrs. Doubtfire when Robin Williams was putting on the body suit -- I almost died! I thought............. oh my heavens.......... thats what I look like! UGH! My husband says I'm pretty damn sexy --- I don't see it. I see grossness when I look in the mirror. I'm hoping I will find peace with my aging body when I get the rest of this blubber off me and can look in the mirror and say, "okay, thats not so bad for a woman my age". I want to be able to accept that when my husband tells me I'm beautiful and sexy --- he's not just hoping to get lucky!

        People tell me I don't look anywhere near my age -- they don't see me without makeup and just crawling out of bed in the morning! and they don't see me nekid!

        Okay - I'm done rambling now.
        1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
        2. Eat to heal
        3. Move to live
        4. Embrace today
        5. Live with intention
        6. Respect my body
        7. Cultivate joy
        8. Find my passion
        9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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        • Well, it's simple enough. To your hubby, you are more than your belly. FWIW, mine is probably much worse. Five kids, two surgeries... I'll spare you the details.

          You are more than the sum of your flaws, you know. Your hubby knows that. He sees the beautiful things more than the flaws. And most men are wise enough not to think that a 20-year-old stick is the height of beauty.

          Sometimes I think we were better off when women covered up all the time. We didn't have to live with the incessant comparisons. With Photoshopped images no less.

          Here's something to cheer you up a bit: Fotoshop by Adobé on Vimeo
          5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
          Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
          Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

          More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
          - Lewis Mumford

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          • I remember the first time I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and saw...my mother. Now my mother is nice looking, but she is 25 years older than I am. And of course to me she was always "old." I must have been in my late 30's when I realized that as I age I get more and more like her in appearance. Not sure how I feel about that.
            My Primal Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread53052.html

            “"Freedom from fear" could be said to sum up the whole philosophy of human rights. - Dag Hammarskjold

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            • Judg --- thanks for video! I've never seen one done like that.

              I think once I get my weight back to where I'm comfortable I will be fine with my body - even the flaws brought on by age, creating a new life, and gravity. It helps knowing the man by my side will love all the changes!
              1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
              2. Eat to heal
              3. Move to live
              4. Embrace today
              5. Live with intention
              6. Respect my body
              7. Cultivate joy
              8. Find my passion
              9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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              • How often do we see older (I mean over the age of 40, let's say, or even 50) women's bodies? Young, supple bodies are everywhere, in the media, advertising, movies, the beach. Everything else is "shameful", "disgusting", and hidden away. Just remember that there are millions of women out there with bodies like yours. They are not disgusting, they just are. Your husband knows your body for what it is and has no reason to impose unrealistic standards on it. He's a good man
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                • Originally posted by namelesswonder View Post
                  How often do we see older (I mean over the age of 40, let's say, or even 50) women's bodies? Young, supple bodies are everywhere, in the media, advertising, movies, the beach. Everything else is "shameful", "disgusting", and hidden away. Just remember that there are millions of women out there with bodies like yours. They are not disgusting, they just are. Your husband knows your body for what it is and has no reason to impose unrealistic standards on it. He's a good man
                  You're very wise for your young years! Thanks for reminding me that my husband knows best!
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                  1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                  2. Eat to heal
                  3. Move to live
                  4. Embrace today
                  5. Live with intention
                  6. Respect my body
                  7. Cultivate joy
                  8. Find my passion
                  9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                  • However - my husband does NOT know best when it comes to eating healthy! I have totally let down my guard for the past 2 days and have eaten SINFUL things!!!! I'm not going to say what cuz I'm totally ashamed. I should know better than to let him sway me into eating junkfood!

                    I'm not feeling the greatest as a result. No fibro pain yet.......... but my stomach is saying "yuck - why did put that crap in me?"

                    We're going to look at some houses this evening with my son. Hopefully he'll make an offer on one. They are going quickly - just a few days on the market and they go "pending". He has to move fast if he's going to buy.

                    Tomorrow we are going with a bunch of my family and some mutual friends to the Valley of the Giants.
                    Valley of the Giants (Oregon) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
                    to spend some time out in nature - have a nice BBQ and just enjoy our friends and family for a few hours! I'm looking forward to it! I've never been up there and hubby and I are hoping to go back in the spring when the weather is good and do some hiking.

                    I'm not sure what dinner will be tonight - we're meeting the realtor at 4 and we have 5 homes to look at - so dinner might be out and late. ???? I should eat just veggies after what I've eaten the past 2 days. UGH! I'm really scared to step on the scales!
                    1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                    2. Eat to heal
                    3. Move to live
                    4. Embrace today
                    5. Live with intention
                    6. Respect my body
                    7. Cultivate joy
                    8. Find my passion
                    9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                    • Well, give him due where he deserves it, and sit down and have a good talk with him about the eating thing. Tell him you need his help to avoid those foods because they hurt you.

                      Anyway, we all blow it now and again. Back on the horse. Think about how good you feel when you eat right.
                      5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
                      Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
                      Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

                      More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
                      - Lewis Mumford

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                      • Yes --- back on track today! I didn't go completely off the path........ but my foot crossed the line several times! Okay - here's the list of sins I put in my mouth.......

                        Friday night:
                        flour tortillas, corn chips and refried beans at my favorite mexican place
                        a long island (cuz they make the best I have ever had!)

                        Saturday:
                        pancakes with syrup for breakfast (didn't even taste good)
                        Lorna Dunes for late night snack
                        Rum and diet coke

                        Sunday:
                        Hamburger buns (at the bbq in the woods)
                        Nachos with corn chips for dinner
                        Rum and diet coke
                        Peanut M&Ms

                        There --- I've confessed. All in all - I didn't completely blow it - I just detoured a bit into the SAD.

                        On the upside - the hike at the Valley of the Giants was a killer! 1.6 miles of hill climbing and steep grades! It was not a well maintained trail so many places were quite rough and rocky - and MUDDY! The final 100 yards were a pretty good incline - several of us had to stop and catch our breath a couple times. My legs never got terribly fatigued, but my heart was definitely getting a workout! It was lots of fun and I would like to go back again someday in nicer weather. What a drive to get there! It took us over an hour to drive there. Gravel logging roads and not very good directions - good thing we had one guy that knew the way. 13 of us made the journey in the rain and muck! Our white truck was covered in mud! Here's a picture of one of the giants! This tree is probably over 500 years old!

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                        I'm not weighing myself for a few days - I think the wheat has caused some bloat and inflamation - and I'm sure the alcohol added to that as well. So - I'm going to really push the water and do some purging of the system for a few days. I still have that goal of getting to goal weight by July 25! I'm thinking of adjusting my goal weight --- I think 135 is going to be really difficult to get to and maintain - since most of my adult life (minus the past 12 years) have been right at 140. I dipped down to 135 once when I was doing kick boxing at the age of 38. But I couldn't keep it there for long. So I'm thinking of trying to be realistic about all this and set my goal at 140. I can always try to get to 135 but it doesn't have to be my goal weight. My doctor wants me at about 160! I don't know why she picked that number - maybe just to give me a goal that is doable.

                        Yes - I'm going to do that. 140 will be my REALISTIC goal weight! I feel more comfortable with that.

                        I think I'm going to get bundled up and go for a walk this afternoon, after work. Its a cold and blustery day! But I see others out walking and jogging so I guess I can go for it too!

                        Foodwise............. I'm thinking I will skip breakfast since it already 10:45 and I'm not really feeling hungry. Maybe just a nice cup of HOT tea w/honey. Dinner will be ground beef patty with steamed veggies. Since hubby has bible study tonight I can eat when ever I feel like it. I'll probably just do one meal today and probably have some almond butter to snack on.

                        Happy Veterans Day - and thank you to all the VETs for helping keep America the Land of the FREE.
                        Last edited by tomi; 11-12-2012, 05:57 PM.
                        1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                        2. Eat to heal
                        3. Move to live
                        4. Embrace today
                        5. Live with intention
                        6. Respect my body
                        7. Cultivate joy
                        8. Find my passion
                        9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                        • And back on the saddle again, eh? Well, that's what it's all about. Starting over again every day. Have you tried finding other things that you can love just as much for the things that keep calling to you? I don't know, maybe an Irish coffee made with cream and stevia instead of the rum and Coke? A restaurant with better alternatives to replace that Mexican place? Primal pancakes for breakfast? Home-made primal cookies for the Lorna Dunes? (Still just an occasional treat, but fun.) Macadamias and dark chocolate instead of M&Ms?

                          I thought nachos were corn chips. What's the difference?
                          5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
                          Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
                          Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

                          More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
                          - Lewis Mumford

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                          • All wonderful suggestions --- seems I'm just not prepared enough. The mexican place has several very primal meals - and I could very easily avoid the no-no's. I was feeling very much like letting the guard for the night --- we normally eat there maybe once a month - so if that were the ONLY time I deviated I wouldn't even think twice about it. My favorite meal at that place is the bacon wrapped prawns baked in butter and served with saute'd onions and peppers and covered in monterey jack cheese! Its to die for yummy!

                            As for the rum -- thats just a bad habit that I wouldn't miss. I never drank at all before I married hubby - not even sure how or when we decided to give it a try. Bad choice for sure.

                            Its REALLY hard to stay 100% on course when your spouse isn't on board. His attitude seems to be pretty much "I'm not forcing you to eat this - so why should I not have the treats I want?" - those are NOT his words, but I get the feeling that is his attitude. I'm not blaming him, mind you, I'm a big girl and take full responsibility for the choices that I make. Just saying - it would be easier if we were on the same page. I don't buy things like m&ms and cookies - he brings them home. The pancake mix is left over from before I went primal - its pretty old! I tried to put it in the care box we sent with the girls when they moved out - but hubby wanted me to keep it. I think this is the first time its been used in a year.

                            Bottom line - I need to say NO. Pretty simple. But not always so easy.

                            But I'm back on track today. I've eaten nothing today until now (4:00 pm) and I'm having a nice 7 oz ground beef patty and a LOT of steamed veggies. I've had lots of water today also.

                            I realized my knees are a bit beat up after yesterday's hike. So no walking today. I will let them heal and recover. The trail had lots of places where you had to step down - like natural stairs - only BIG drops. My knees were hurting a little yesterday but I figured they would be fine today - nope. I think our hikes need to be carefully planned out so we don't take on too many difficult trails. This one was just a bit over our limit.

                            Hubby won't be home until about 9 pm - and then he'll want something to eat. But between now and then I plan to do pretty much nothing! Hope everyone is having a good evening - as most of you are to the East of me - you're evening is probably coming to a close! Hope it was good.
                            1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                            2. Eat to heal
                            3. Move to live
                            4. Embrace today
                            5. Live with intention
                            6. Respect my body
                            7. Cultivate joy
                            8. Find my passion
                            9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                            • You just have to move past the cheats and recommit. Skinny for your birthday!
                              Female 55
                              Starting wt: 198, Goal: 135, Current with PB: 165
                              Started at a size 16 down to loose 10

                              With PB my asthma has improved, low back pain is gone, & I've got more energy

                              My Primal Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread60175.html

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                              • yes -- I've moved past. I'm setting my sights on that goal again! I'll have to find a way to say NO!!!! until I see that magic number on the scale.

                                Its totally doable............
                                1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                                2. Eat to heal
                                3. Move to live
                                4. Embrace today
                                5. Live with intention
                                6. Respect my body
                                7. Cultivate joy
                                8. Find my passion
                                9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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