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  • Tomi, we have similar backgrounds. I have five living sisters. My oldest sister died just weeks before I was born. I think that caused a lack of bonding. I know I was held responsible for a lot of my parents issues.

    Its parade day in my neck of the woods...
    Are you talking about Keizer's Iris Festival Parade that was this morning? If you are, we are very close neighbors.

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    • Originally posted by marcadav View Post
      Tomi, we have similar backgrounds. I have five living sisters. My oldest sister died just weeks before I was born. I think that caused a lack of bonding. I know I was held responsible for a lot of my parents issues.
      Are you talking about Keizer's Iris Festival Parade that was this morning? If you are, we are very close neighbors.
      Yes - I was referring the Iris Festival in Keizer. We're neighbors huh? how weird is that?

      Sorry to hear about your family stuff....... it can sure mess with a person can't it? I've had lots of problems with feeling un-loved and un-wanted all my life. My mom used to tell me that my dad went on another "bender" when he found out she was pregnant again ( so my mind translated that into my exhistance being the cause of his death - an alcohol related car accident, but he wasn't driving). I think I've worked through it for the most part. Counseling helped a lot!!!
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      • Originally posted by Judg View Post
        Have you tried talking to your sister? When my in-laws stopped driving, the siblings worked out who would be responsible for what. It gets shifted around as need dictates, but we all chip in as we can.

        B12 is easy to fix, and cheap too. Get the sublingual tablets at a health food store. Or you can get shots, but why bother? I've done both before. Last time I was tested my levels were very high, so I stopped taking supplements.
        When my mom first stopped driving due to her failing eye sight my sister and I agreed to take turns, but she was working a full time job, plus doing the books for her husbands 2 businesses. She was just overwhelmed - so I took up the slack and did almost everything. Now, they have closed one of the businesses - but she still seems to be too busy. On mothers day she dropped off some bedding plants at moms but told her she didn't have time to plant them and would come back when she had more time - but didn't specify when that would be. Mom pretty much relies on me to do everything. My sister has power of attorney and is able to sign checks on my moms accounts, but mom never knows when she will come over so she wants me to write out the checks and then she signs them the best she can. My sister wants to pay the bills online and mom isn't comfortable with that. I guess I've taken on the job without much arguement. I'm not a fighter - I'd rather just vent when I need to and not cause a problem.

        I'll get some of those sublingual B things - thanks for the suggestion. I've been vitamin B and D deficient for many years. If I don't supplement I go WAY low. Doc says I have vitamin malabsorption issues. ??? whatever............ From looking at patient charts at work I think 1/2 population has that.
        Last edited by tomi; 05-21-2012, 12:17 AM.
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        2. Eat to heal
        3. Move to live
        4. Embrace today
        5. Live with intention
        6. Respect my body
        7. Cultivate joy
        8. Find my passion
        9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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        • Well, the weekend got started a bit late. Hubby had to work until about noon on Saturday and then we didn't get out of town until 4:30. We stopped and looked at kayaks Might get a couple to go with the boat cuz they are going on a huge sale this week. We'll see. But we got to the lake and motored out to a really beautiful spot to spend the night.
          DSCF0429.jpgDSCF0433.jpg This is our new (used) boat, and this is where we spent the night! What a great nights sleep we got!
          1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
          2. Eat to heal
          3. Move to live
          4. Embrace today
          5. Live with intention
          6. Respect my body
          7. Cultivate joy
          8. Find my passion
          9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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          • Nice boat and what a beautiful, peaceful spot to spend the night!
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            • Might be time to discuss it with your sister again, then. But I understand that these things can be more difficult to do than to talk about. I tend to run away from confrontation myself, but if I get pushed up against the wall long enough or hard enough, I screw up my courage. I try to find the least confrontational method to deal with it then.

              Unless of course somebody makes me really mad. Then they better run for cover... LOL! I have been known to blow up. And I hate to say it, but it has often produced good results. Other times, not so much.
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              Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
              Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

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              • Originally posted by tomi View Post
                Yes - I was referring the Iris Festival in Keizer. We're neighbors huh? how weird is that?
                Yes, I'm in Keizer, not far from the library. I found counseling very helpful too.

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                • I don't think I even know where the Keizer Library is....... how bad is that? Is it near City Hall?
                  1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                  2. Eat to heal
                  3. Move to live
                  4. Embrace today
                  5. Live with intention
                  6. Respect my body
                  7. Cultivate joy
                  8. Find my passion
                  9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                  • Originally posted by Judg View Post
                    Might be time to discuss it with your sister again, then. But I understand that these things can be more difficult to do than to talk about. I tend to run away from confrontation myself, but if I get pushed up against the wall long enough or hard enough, I screw up my courage. I try to find the least confrontational method to deal with it then.

                    Unless of course somebody makes me really mad. Then they better run for cover... LOL! I have been known to blow up. And I hate to say it, but it has often produced good results. Other times, not so much.
                    I rarely blow up. It takes a lot to really piss me off. I can understand my sisters busy schedule, but I also know she isn't a very good time keeper. I mean, she seems to live by her own clock. Yes, she is busy, but she doesn't manage her time well. At least thats my opinion. I think she could step up more - but I'm not going to push it. I keep hoping she'll see how much I do and decide she needs to step it up a bit - if not, its okay. My mom days are just stressful and I wish I had a little help from her thats all.

                    I have a hard time seeing you as the type who would blow up - you seem to have a very calm center - at least thats what I get from your writing.

                    Hope you have a great day........... I'm heading off to work now. Blah!
                    1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                    2. Eat to heal
                    3. Move to live
                    4. Embrace today
                    5. Live with intention
                    6. Respect my body
                    7. Cultivate joy
                    8. Find my passion
                    9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                    • I think I will be fasting this morning. I ate something yesterday that made be feel really yucky.......... I was bloated and sorta nausious all night - then this morning had the gutt issues again - not as bad as they've been in the past, but ache and diarrhea. So, I'm giving my system a cleansing today. I'll eat later, but for now, just water. I'm waiting to take my supplements with food. Maybe I'll eat dinner. I do feel hungry, and there are some rumblings going on in there - but I just don't feel like eating.

                      I'm going to try to cut back on my portions......... I've got the "what to eat and not to eat" part down good. Even if I do slip once in a while - but I need to eat a bit less I think.
                      1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                      2. Eat to heal
                      3. Move to live
                      4. Embrace today
                      5. Live with intention
                      6. Respect my body
                      7. Cultivate joy
                      8. Find my passion
                      9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                      • Originally posted by tomi View Post
                        I don't think I even know where the Keizer Library is....... how bad is that? Is it near City Hall?
                        Yes, it's in the white building next to the civic center/city hall on Chemawa Rd. I'm actually off Dearborn.

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                        • Marcadav --- we are about 2 miles apart I believe. I'm west of Burger King - down by the river. Small world!!

                          Okay - so after feeling yucky all night and most of the morning - I did an 18 hour fast. It felt good to go without anything in my stomach. For dinner I had a salad w/shrimp and commercial dressing with a grass fed burger patty and ketchup. Condiments are my downfall........... I just can't give them up. And I just don't want to. I don't eat that much of them - a couple TBs of dressing 3 or 4 times a week and a couple TB of ketchup maybe once or twice a week. So, probably 2 TB of some kind of commercially produced dressing or dip everyday. I don't think thats gonna kill my efforts to be healthy. Yes it has "bad" oils and HFCS -- but its not that much. I've wrestled with it long enough -- even tried some of the recipes for homemade stuff and I don't like them. So, I'm sticking with my Ranch or Honey Mustard, and Ketchup. Thats the only thing processed I eat anymore.

                          Haven't weighed lately........ I'm feeling heavier though. Hence the need to reduce my portions. I ate a smaller burger patty than I would have normally. For breakfast I'm going to eat one peice of bacon and 2 eggs. I haven't had any dark chocolate in weeks! and I think I've broken my addiction to almonds too. Progress........... I also haven't had any rum for a week. That sounds aweful -- but considering for YEARS I had it EVERY night just to be able to sleep through the fibromyalgia pain - going a week without any is a big deal! Good thing I never got dependent on it. At least not physically, I think maybe a little emotionally. But I'm fine if I don't have it. My problems comes from having it in the house..... its like cookies - if they are in the house I want to eat them - if the rum is in the house I want to drink some - but if it isn't in the house its no big deal. I guess that means I don't have a problem with it. Sheesh I sound like a drunk! So many people have a glass of wine every night - why do I worry about the occasional rum cocktail?

                          My stomach didn't like the salad I had for dinner! OUCHY!
                          1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                          2. Eat to heal
                          3. Move to live
                          4. Embrace today
                          5. Live with intention
                          6. Respect my body
                          7. Cultivate joy
                          8. Find my passion
                          9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                          • I think your condiments fit well into the 20%. Congratulations on cutting back on your almonds and rum. I like it when I feel like I am in control, not the food. Some almonds and rum (or whatever) are fine, as long as we choose to have them, and don't NEED to have them. The fact that I have gone MONTHS without peanut butter is so satisfying to me.

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                            • Wow! Nice boat!! Beautiful sleeping spot too! I'm envious! I love camping and being outdoors and on the water. You've got an idea set up there!
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                              SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                              • I also wanted to comment that you should ask your sister to split the month with you. You said you help her ever other week. Why don't you ask sister to take one of those days. then you'll both have one day a month where you take mom to run errands, write checks, etc.

                                I've been having a gut issue as well. Last 3 days. At first I thought it was that I'd had two burgers that had come into contact with wheat... now I wonder if it's processed cheese (think Kraft singles). All 3 days I had two slices of the stuff on my breakfast/dinner "mess" (hashbrowns, green pepper, ham, scrambled eggs all mixed together and topped with 2 slices of kraft singles). I hope it doesn't turn out to be all cheese...
                                Primal since March 5, 2012
                                SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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