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  • Somehow I doubt my daughter was doing all that. Mind you, she has very fine hair which probably shows the grease a lot more.

    How much baking soda do you need for one wash?
    5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
    Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
    Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

    More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
    - Lewis Mumford

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    • I would say I use about 1/4C baking soda, and 1/2C vinegar.
      The one time I did not use the vinegar, my hair was like straw- very dry and frazzled looking. The vinegar acts like a conditioner, leaving it smooth. vinegar alone, however, leaves it limp- no bounce. At least for my hair.

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      • Thanks. Might try it some time, see if it has nice results.

        And why exactly are so many people going "pooless"?
        5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
        Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
        Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

        More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
        - Lewis Mumford

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        • My motivation is to reduce the amount of chemicals I am exposing myself too. The money savings is a nice bonus.

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          • Gotcha
            5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
            Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
            Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

            More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
            - Lewis Mumford

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            • My son got suspended at school . He's 16, he's repeating his year and is not making any progress whatsoever. He wasn't welcome anymore at his previous school at the end of last year, and it looks like he won't be welcome anymore in his current school...I just hope they keep him until the end of the year (June 30th). But nothing is ever his fault, he's cool! The rest of the world must be wrong, is misunderstanding etc. etc.
              The reason why they suspended him now (he's out of school until at least May 7th, when we have to go to school to talk about it) is futile, but I told him: it's not for this they are suspending you, it's for all that has been going on during the whole school year.
              My son has ADHD and ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), he's not an easy kid. It's not that he's agressive, he doesn't go around hurting people, but he's just always fighting every decision, wants things his way, you say black and he'll say white even if he knows it's really black,.... I understand his teachers are fed up with it, but right now at this moment I don't know what to do anymore. And really? I don't like my kid very much at this moment. I love him, he's my son...but I don't like his attitude and I'm really angry. I'm feeling like I've failed as a mother, but I KNOW I didn't. But this feeling is there. Life hasn't been always easy for him, his dad has (big) problems of his own and has been interned for years now (we don't know if or when he'll come out again).

              I'm eating chocolate bonbons. And almond-orange cake (homemade, grainfree, NOT sugarfree). I know this is not the answer, but I don't know what the right answer is to my questions right now. And I decided to have it anyway and enjoy every bite (and not just stuff it in my mouth because maybe it will make me feel better, I know it won't).
              My Journal: Candy in Primal Wonderland
              My Blog: Candy in Wonderland
              Goal for 2012: keep weight steady (+/- 74 kg): check
              Goal for 2013: lose 10 kg and keep new weight (+/- 65 kg)

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              • I am so sorry Candy!! That is some tough stuff to deal with, and I think every parent can relate to loving your kid and at times really not liking them very much... I will pray for you for wisdom and insight in how to deal with this whole situation. Sending big hugs {{ }} your way! I wish I could help you - so frustrating when they won't acknowlege that they have an issue to work on and keep blaming everything and everyone else.

                Have you tried getting some counselling on how to help him face his own behavioural issues and how they impact his life and relationships? Some counselling is totally crappy and a waste of time and money; but some of it can be incredibly helpful! Just a thought.... hang in there and enjoy a few of your lovely treats. Then go for a walk out under the sky and breathe deep. Take care!
                Start weight: 225.5 lbs Feb 14th 2012. Height: 5'7"
                Primal low: 186 lbs
                Current weight: 221.4 lbs
                Goal weight: 140 lbs

                "You are free to choose, BUT you are not free from the consequences of your choices."

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                • Oh, boy. I'm so sorry, Candy. Worries with your children are the WORST. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Eventually you will come out on the other side.
                  Is the ODD anything that improves with age? I would think that once all the teenage hormones recede, it would have to help if only a little. Of course, those teenage years go on for such a long time. What a worry- hoping they just make it through their problems without doing something that ruins their life in the meantime.
                  I'm praying for you and your whole family.
                  And savoring that almond-orange cake sounds like a wise and wonderful thing to do.

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                  • Candy.
                    I sent you a PM

                    {{{{hugs}}}}
                    "Be careful what you pretend to be because you are what you pretend to be." Kurt Vonnegut
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                    "Every decision you make, from what you eat to what you do with your time tonight, turns you into who you are tomorrow and the day after that." Cmdr Chris Hadfield


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                    • @ WnC thank you so much.

                      @Sabine, I sure hope it gets better with age.

                      @Coll: we've been in and out of therapy with him (DS1, 16) and our middle son (DS2, almost 12 and diagnosed with Asperger just a few months ago). He has been in behavioral therapy for a few weeks back in November, he went on a "Time Out" from school to be in therapy full-time for 3 weeks and we did see some improvements! I finally got his psychiatrist (he has to be followed by a psychiatrist for his ADHD, just means we see the guy once a year, pay a lot and get out with a bunch of Ritalin prescriptions and no help) to realize that maybe behavioral therapy might help him (last year he just said, IN FRONT OF MY SON: "oh, but if he doesn't want to do that, it's not going to do any good" talking about sabotage ). Anyhow, I have contacted a counselor again and am waiting to get an appointment. I sure hope it won't take weeks/months. Although he has behavioral issues, he's not a bad person. He can be really kind and nice to other people (not his teachers though ) and he's really great with kids! He would be a really good babysitter.

                      DS1 is now at my sister's until tomorrow afternoon. This was already planned a long time, my sister lives 1 hour driving from our place, she's his godmother. At first I thought he shouldn't go, but then I realized I needed this, so 'punishing' him would be 'punishing' ME more (and my sister). At least DH and me will have the time to discuss the situation tonight, and tomorrow we can talk to DS1 about how we will proceed.

                      And then for some nice news DS2 just arrived home after spending the whole week at the seaside with school! He had a great time and his teacher was very happy to say that everything went really smooth, they had no problems at all! I'm so happy his back home and that he had a good time away from home. He never wants to go on summer camps or so, if this means not sleeping where we are, but he did look forward to being away with the whole class.
                      Last edited by Candy in Wonderland; 04-27-2012, 08:33 AM. Reason: adding some things I do love about DS1 :)
                      My Journal: Candy in Primal Wonderland
                      My Blog: Candy in Wonderland
                      Goal for 2012: keep weight steady (+/- 74 kg): check
                      Goal for 2013: lose 10 kg and keep new weight (+/- 65 kg)

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                      • I'm sorry you're experiencing trouble with DS1. I hear ODD can be pretty tough to deal with. And I agree that keeping DS1 home because of school not only punishes him, it punishes you and your sister. We're going through that now with our DS. When he's naughty at school (he's in preschool) his dad says he should not be allowed to do certain things our family does on weekends (like watching DH race), and that's all fine and dandy if I can find a sitter to watch DS, but if I can't, I have to stay home with him and that punishes me too b/c I don't get to go to the races and have fun either. DH and I have argued over this many times and have not yet found an ideal solution.

                        I'm glad DS2 had a good time with his class.
                        Primal since March 5, 2012
                        SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                        • Candy, so sorry you have to go through this. I have five children and some of them were smooth as silk, and some put us through hell.

                          Is homeschooling a realistic option for you? That has sometimes worked very well in these kinds of situations. Unstructured, individualized learning might help him turn the corner.
                          5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
                          Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
                          Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

                          More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
                          - Lewis Mumford

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                          • Hi Judg, homeschooling isn't really much of an option here in Belgium, and specially after 6th grade it gets really difficult, there are no curricula available. Last year we were considering moving to the US (Philadelphia) for DH's job, and I did consider homeschooling there, but not for DS1 either. Right now he just can't be bothered with working, he just wants to have fun. I can't even get him to make his homework *sigh*. He's going to a technical school now (graphics and printing) and I'm thinking to have him go to a professional school (I don't know what it's called over there, it's the kind of school were you don't get much to study, but they learn a job) next year.
                            My Journal: Candy in Primal Wonderland
                            My Blog: Candy in Wonderland
                            Goal for 2012: keep weight steady (+/- 74 kg): check
                            Goal for 2013: lose 10 kg and keep new weight (+/- 65 kg)

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                            • Originally posted by jenn26point2 View Post
                              I'm sorry you're experiencing trouble with DS1. I hear ODD can be pretty tough to deal with. And I agree that keeping DS1 home because of school not only punishes him, it punishes you and your sister. We're going through that now with our DS. When he's naughty at school (he's in preschool) his dad says he should not be allowed to do certain things our family does on weekends (like watching DH race), and that's all fine and dandy if I can find a sitter to watch DS, but if I can't, I have to stay home with him and that punishes me too b/c I don't get to go to the races and have fun either. DH and I have argued over this many times and have not yet found an ideal solution.

                              I'm glad DS2 had a good time with his class.
                              How naughty can a kid be in preschool ? Is punishing him working at all?
                              My Journal: Candy in Primal Wonderland
                              My Blog: Candy in Wonderland
                              Goal for 2012: keep weight steady (+/- 74 kg): check
                              Goal for 2013: lose 10 kg and keep new weight (+/- 65 kg)

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                              • Originally posted by Candy in Wonderland View Post
                                How naughty can a kid be in preschool ? Is punishing him working at all?
                                He does typical little boy things - not picking up toys when told, pushing his friends, ignoring the teacher's instructions, acting out when he's bored. Typical 5 year old defiance. We have tried different approaches with him. His teacher does a color chart with all the kids: green means good, yellow means he was warned repeatedly, and red means he was pretty much out of control or hit a friend/pushed a friend, etc. We tolerate yellow b/c all kids are going to have a day when they don't listen the greatest. But red is pretty much unacceptable because his teacher cuts him breaks and I know he had to do something pretty significant or be warned way too many times if he's gotten a red mark.

                                All this week (today is yet to be declared) he got green. If he gets green again today, DH and I are going to reward him with a new toy. We congratulate him daily if he gets green and tell him how proud we are of him and how happy we are that he was such a good boy.

                                All last week, however, he got yellow, with the exception of Friday, which was red. As such, he was not allowed to go to the races to watch his dad race and since I couldn't find a sitter, I couldn't go either. He was also not allowed to ride his battery operated 4 wheeler, nor is he allowed to go to the park. He has to play at home when he gets red. B/c he was so well behaved on Friday evening, he was allowed to go racing on Saturday, but there were certain stipulations he had to meet - had to take a nap without fighting me was the main one. He went saturday night and was an angel.

                                Sometimes it works, other times it doesn't. The trick for us is finding the right "currency" for him that works. I try to praise his good behavior more than punish his bad, but sometimes that doesn't work.

                                Good luck with your children. It sounds like you really have your hands full.
                                Primal since March 5, 2012
                                SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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