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  • Originally posted by tomi View Post
    I'm inclined to agree with Canio on this one......... finding a different term for the f'ing part. Seriously...... holidays bring out the worst in people. Why do people think they have to gather ON the day of the holiday? With so many family tentacles making it so busy and complicated? Spread it out over several days and make it easier on everyone! We've NEVER gathered ON Thanksgiving or Christmas because we'd rather be gracious than selfish. A little yielding to others needs goes a LONG way - especially during the holidays when life becomes one giant screwed up schedule.

    Sorry, Jenn - I hope it all gets ironed out.
    I think she's looking at the weekend before. She asked my sister when she has her kids (sister is divorced too). What will be awesome is if she picks the same day/time that we are supposed to meet with MIL's family...
    Primal since March 5, 2012
    SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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    • Originally posted by Goldie View Post
      What Sabine and Jon said.

      Can you talk to your Dad and see what his opinion is on the whole thing?

      Thank goodness we've never lived close enough to various family members to see more than one group at a holiday!
      He won't care one way or the other what day we have it on. He's pretty flexible. And he knows what she's like and if she's not willing to do breakfast the day of, he's not going to push it - to keep the peace. She's the only one who cares and has always been adamant about Christmas day. She feels it's unfair that Mom gets to spend time with us on Christmas Day every year and Dad has to adjust, when that's not at all what has ever happened - we've always done Christmas with both of them - every year.

      She's just being childish and trying to complicate things. I gave her my availability and pretty much told her to tell me when to be there... I'm not playing the game this time.
      Primal since March 5, 2012
      SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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      • Originally posted by jenn26point2 View Post
        Yeah, it's a bit ridiculous... The divorce was 30 years ago. The child support incident more than 20. This is the same woman who complains when we haven't been over to see them for a while, but yet never comes to our house to visit. Like ever.
        Do you invite them over? Or do they give excuses not to come to your house? Family is messy stuff.........

        So --- have the family Christmas gathering at your house this year? If she isn't willing to come when you schedule it then so sorry for her!

        Some people have a hard time letting go when there is an enormous hurt involved. It sorta sounds like she has attached the grief of losing the baby to her dislike of the ex-wife. When emotions become entangled like that it is very difficult to sort them out and deal with them on separate playing fields. The key here is to not let her issues ruin things for the rest of the family. I'm sure there are many more people involved than just your family unit and her and your dad. Talk to everyone and find out what they all want to do to make it easier and more pleasant to get together.
        1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
        2. Eat to heal
        3. Move to live
        4. Embrace today
        5. Live with intention
        6. Respect my body
        7. Cultivate joy
        8. Find my passion
        9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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        • Originally posted by jenn26point2 View Post
          She's just being childish and trying to complicate things. I gave her my availability and pretty much told her to tell me when to be there... I'm not playing the game this time.
          Stand your ground! Some people need to be knocked off their high horse once in a while!
          1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
          2. Eat to heal
          3. Move to live
          4. Embrace today
          5. Live with intention
          6. Respect my body
          7. Cultivate joy
          8. Find my passion
          9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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          • Originally posted by tomi View Post
            Stand your ground! Some people need to be knocked off their high horse once in a while!
            $10 says she claims to feel attacked and threatens to quit Christmas gatherings all together.

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            • She comes to Wilton every single week to deposit her paycheck. She NEVER swings by the house (a whole mile from the credit union). We invited her over for Thanksgiving and she passed. She makes claims all the time that we spend so much time with MIL and FIL (well, duh, we're neighbors and they store the race car) and no time with them. She complains that my mom watches the kids more often than her, but whenever I ask her, she's got something else going on and can't. So I just stopped asking. She wants us to stop by on the weekends to hang out, but won't ever just come to our house and hang out.

              After we got the trampoline, she said she'd love to get one for the kids to have at her house but it would just be a waste of money as she never sees them. She's the queen of guilt trips... and in her world, phones and roads only go one way.

              She's also a huge score keeper...
              Primal since March 5, 2012
              SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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              • EEESH --- what a piece of work. And your dad loves her because .............. ?????? I hate dealing with these kinds of people - so I generally just pull away and let them live their miserable life without me. It works very well! You can always make plans to spend time with dad without her if its inconvenient for her.
                1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
                2. Eat to heal
                3. Move to live
                4. Embrace today
                5. Live with intention
                6. Respect my body
                7. Cultivate joy
                8. Find my passion
                9. Meditate on peace in my soul

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                • She's an awesome person when she's not playing the drama queen. But she's one of those inflexible, I want it my way types of people. Very type A, maybe? Surprisingly, she and I are closer than my mom and I are.
                  Primal since March 5, 2012
                  SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                  • I'm considering posing to Hulky that we start celebrating the solstice or Yule instead. Something non-religious that doesn't conflict with Christmas so we can spend time with our families that day. Plus, Dec. 21 is our dating anniversary and solstice always falls around then.
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                    • Stepmom decided on December 21 at 7 pm... no dinner. Just gifts. My kids go to bed at 8:30 with Makenna getting tired and cranky between 7:30 and 8. Sister is lobbying for 4 pm and pizza for dinner so lazy stepmom doesn't have to cook. We'll see if this flies or not... if not, I guess we'll do gifts at 7, with cranky kids and leave at 8... whatever. I'm not dicking with it anymore. Christmas isn't supposed to be stressful...

                      Went out for a run today. I got about a half mile in and really had to use the bathroom, so I turned around and went back and used the bathroom. Then headed back out. I was going to run 2 more at this point, but just wasn't into it, so I did another mile and called it good.

                      This week was supposed to be a 17 mile week, and with the half marathon, it'll end up being an 18 mile week, if I head out for 3 miles on Sunday... which I probably won't do b/c I'll be in Memphis and likely won't feel comfortable running in a new area without someone with me. Melanie's foot is still jacked so she won't want to go with me. So, I guess it'll just be a 15 mile week. No worries. Marathon training with commence hard and fast when we return next week.

                      I am returning my New Balance shoes - the super cool pink and yellow one and the black and pink ones. My body doesn't like them. I get a really bad burning sensation in the area between my calf and shin (on the outside of my leg) that doesn't go away when I run in them... so they're going back. I ordered a pair of vibrams made out of neoprene that are supposed to be good for winter running. We'll see.

                      It's only supposed to be 36 degrees this weekend, so at some point I need to buy a pair of injinji socks and see if they'll fit in my current pair of vibrams. I don't think the new ones will be here in time for this weekend's race.

                      So yay! 30 degree half marathon! That'll be a first for me. lol
                      Primal since March 5, 2012
                      SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                      • Have you looked into the barefoot Merells? They are closed-toe barefoot shoes. You could wear any sock with them (though they fit pretty snugly).
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                        • I have. They're way more expensive than vibrams. Though, I haven't looked at them at 6pm.com yet. But, the Merrells I have looked at are now designed for winter weather - very thin uppers - usually a fine mesh which will let snow, water and cold in. The neoprene vibrams were $37 a pair and are supposed to be water proof - neoprene is used in wetsuits, so it's got a pretty good reputation for waterproofness.

                          ***

                          Applied for a job working as a "Staff Action Specialist" in the General's office. Basically, I'd do what I do now, but for a higher rank (sadly, not higher pay as I'm already paid at that rank) and more "prestigious" location. I'd be busier and given the people I'd be working for/with, I'd probably have to give up MDA during the days - well, most of my screw off activities, actually. Oh well. It would be awesome to be busier and hold a higher rank.
                          Primal since March 5, 2012
                          SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                          • Merrell Barefoot Road Glove Dash 2 Yellow/Pink - Zappos.com Free Shipping BOTH Ways
                            I figured since the other shoes you got were around $100, the Merrells would be a reasonable consideration. They have several different styles, too.

                            You got the Lontra? I see that those are specifically designed for cold! Very cool.
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                            • No, I got the Flow, which has been replaced by the Lontra. I paid $37 for the Vibrams I just ordered, and had a 10% off coupon code, so I didn't pay anywhere CLOSE to $100 for them. lol I spent $143 on the two pairs of New Balance I bought, that I'm getting ready to return. I can't bring myself to pay $100 for running shoes anymore. I did that once and now I have a really expensive pair of walking shoes. :/

                              Those Merrells are the ones I tried on in the store. Very thin upper material. I'd need a lot of socks for those to keep warm, and they wouldn't be even remotely water resistant. Hopefully the new Vibrams will keep the ol' feets warm and dry.

                              I did get a pair of toe socks today and tried them on with my current vibrams. Posted a pic on FB so head on over and look if you wanna see my snowflake socks. I forgot that the toe sleeves are elastic and there's plenty of room in them. I could probably get away with wearing 3 pairs of toes socks in them. Very excited.

                              Oh and if anyone is interested, I have run, at a minimum, 623 miles in my Vibrams this year. I was looking at the last couple of months and there are a lot of workouts missing, but I don't know what they were or why they weren't logged either by my phone or imported from my garmin. I don't get it. I know I ran more than 23 miles in October... I know this b/c I had a half in October and I ran it from start to finish, so there's no way I skipped training runs and did that well. I'm going to go through my training plan and verify.
                              Last edited by jenn26point2; 12-04-2013, 10:09 PM.
                              Primal since March 5, 2012
                              SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                              • Not sure what the problem is with MDA today, but I can't get this page to pull up properly... the quick reply box is all goofy.

                                Over the last couple of days, Brady has been falling below "Ready to Learn" on the behavior chart. Ready to Learn is the "well behaved child" level on the chart. Yesterday, he got Teacher's Choice, which means she sets the punishment for his wrong doings. He lost 5 minutes of his recess as his punishment. When we asked him what he was doing that got him in trouble, he said playing with his hands - which he explained to be monkeying with things at the table, "wrestling" with his hands (I assume this means his hands were combatting each other like wrestlers), and in general, disrupting the class by fidgeting.

                                He was sent to bed a half hour early last night and before lights out, I had a chat with him. I told him that if he finishes up his work and is waiting on the other students, he should ask his teacher if he can read his book or help her with something while he waits for the rest of the class to finish. He apparently told her that we had this discussion because this is the email I got from her:

                                Brady talked to me about your discussion last night. WOW made a HUGe difference. Thanks for being a great mom and a great mom to work with.


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                                I was looking at my running log on mapmyrun and noticed there is an entire week where I didn't track a workout. Normally I use my garmin or the mapmyrun app to track my activities, so it's weird to have an entire week with no input. Then I noticed what week it was - the week prior to my 3rd half marathon. When I went to start my garmin for the half, it wouldn't power up. I ended up calling Garmin about it and they told me I needed to reset it. Apparently, during the reset process, all the data was lost - which explains the week of no logged activites. I'll be going into mapmyrun later to log those runs (per the training calendar). So, I'll have closer to 650 miles run for this year so far.
                                Primal since March 5, 2012
                                SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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