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  • Praying as well. Luckily it was caught before it traveled.
    Primal since 9/24/2010
    "Our greatest foes, and whom we must chiefly combat, are within." Miguel de Cervantes

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      • Morning all. What a whirlwind weekend!

        Dad ended up in the ER again on Saturday night. He was released from the hospital on Friday evening with instructions to resume normal activities, so of course, that's what he did. He was scheduled to take an Emergency Medical Services class called "Harm on the Farm" which focused on farm related accidents. VERY important for his EMS work. Anyhow, he went and I guess it wasn't anything too strenuous. Sit at a table, get instruction, practice some practical and take a test. That night, his right leg was so swollen, it was hot to the touch and red, and he said his foot felt cold (but to the touch it was warm). So, stepmom took him back up to the ER, where they got conflicting instructions from what the original doctor told him. The second ER doc told him that it would easily be a year before the clot dissolves and the risk dissipates. He was told not to sit too long and not to stand too long... so he's like, ok, what about work? He works in maintenance, so he could be standing for a good part of the day or he could be sitting working on a machine in the plant. Sure, he can take some time off work, but not an entire year. The doctor didn't have advice for this question.

        Then of course, my stepmom is terrified! She's not sleeping well, she's not eating well, she's sick to her stomach. She's a ball of nerves. She doesn't want to leave his side b/c what if he develops trouble breathing? How will he get help? (I joked and told her he needs Life Alert, but in all seriousness, I don't think it'd be a bad idea).

        The biggest problem is that, like me, Dad is an EMT so he knows quite a bit about all things medical. He knows the severity of the problem he's facing, but at the same time, he knows too much b/c that results in him delaying seeking medical attention. He'll wait until it's absolutely necessary to seek medical attention before doing so. So, if he develops a tiny bit of breathing difficulty, he'll likely wait so as not to over-react, ya know? Same as me.

        He's been given specific instructions by Stepmom that if he so much as takes any extra breath in the next minute, he's to call 911 b/c she'd rather pay for 100 unnecessary ambulance rides and ER visits than pay for another casket.

        Everyone expected them to hold him til the clot started to dissolve and shrink, but no one realized that it could take a year for this clot to dissolve. So everyone is up in arms b/c the hospital isn't doing more... I've been down this road before (a year ago one of our family friends discovered he had a clot from his knee to his groin and he's still waiting for it to fully dissolve) so I knew it was going to be a long term concern. Stepmom is scared to death that she's going to wake up to find Dad dead or come home and find the clot has broken off and he wasn't able to call for help. I can't say that I blame her. I'm scared too. But I also know that Dad's smart enough to call for an ambulance. He's got friends on the fire department who would be there to help him in a quick minute if he needed to call 911 (that's the joys of having a very small town with a very large department).

        The other concern is that they live in a mess... as in almost hoarderish. There would not be room for a gurney to get through the house to transport him out to the ambulance. And my dad's a bigger guy, probably pushing 300 lbs, so carrying him out is probably not an option for the most part. Luckily, the front door is close to the living room, in case it were to be needed.

        He's supposed to go see his physician today for follow up and to get more relavent instructions regarding his activity level, what he can/should be doing, and about work. I'm anxious to see what his doctor has to say about this.

        In the meantime, he's on lovenox to reduce his clotting factors and Coumadin to thin his blood, for probably the next year. It just seems so surreal! Like, is this really happening? Am I really at a great risk of losing my dad? I don't even want to think about that!
        Primal since March 5, 2012
        SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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        • Sounds like a whole lot of stress for everyone. I'm sorry. I understand that fear of not knowing, from when my dad had a heart attack a couple of years ago. I didn't even know it was a heart attack at first because no one used that phrase. It was scary.

          Would they accept help in cleaning up, even if is just as a precaution for easy access. Maybe you can help them find someone to hire, if not help clean up. My mom is really bad at getting rid of things on her own, but she does really well when I'm around and helping her sort. Actually, my dad is the same way, but with books & car things instead of clothes & paperwork.
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          • Jenn, sending positive thoughts your way. It's so hard when our parents have serious health issues. When my mom fell & broke her hip the first of the year I was afraid to go off & leave her...even at the hospital. She's 76. At least your dad is still young & has some medical background...& friends close by that will be there to help quickly.

            Keep us informed as to his progress. How are you holding up?
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            • The problem is that they don't do a very good job of picking up after themselves, so things just end up stacked all over the place. They have a very large house but you'd never know it b/c there's so much stuff in it. She used to have a compulsive shopping problem. She'd buy stuff just b/c it was on clearance and then never use it. It would sit in the shopping bag on the floor for weeks, sometimes months, before she'd touch it again. That has finally come to an end. I think they ran into money trouble when she had her gall bladder removed so she doesn't shop much anymore.

              Dad never picks up after himself. If he's done with a coke, the bottle/can sits on the table next to the couch until it falls off, where it stays on the floor until stepmom picks it up. She tries - really tries to get the house in order. She has marathon cleaning sessions where she'll clean the kitchen and have it looking really nice, but a week later it's trashed again. It's the same issue we have at our house. Things start to accumulate on the counters until it gets out of control and you just get overwhelmed by it so you do nothing b/c you don't know where to start. I know her pain with the house.

              I do want to help her with her house, but it's hard to say "I'm going over to Dad's to clean" when I can't even keep control of my own house...

              Speaking of which, I did some work at home yesterday. Brad got the kids to pick up their toys in the living room, and then I vacuumed really quick before the carpet got covered again. By then, I was in the mood, so I put the kids' toys away in the dining room (we don't have a proper toy room, so there are 4 tubs of toys and a toy shelf in our dining room along the wall). I then swept and dust mopped (OMG the amount of pet hair that accumulates in such a short time!) and after the kids went to bed, I mopped. Then I went through my FlyLady daily routine of getting things ready for the morning, doing dishes, straightening the kitchen, etc. Brad spent this whole time folding all the laundry. He put his stuff away. After he went to bed, I hung the kids' shirts/dresses and paired their socks and mine. I put my clothes away and will put the kids' away tonight (I didn't want to be messing around in their rooms while they were sleeping). I sat down when I was done and just looked around. I realized just how big our house is when things are put away, and discovered I still like our house. For a while there, I thought I hated our house, but what I really hate is the mess. I'm hoping FlyLady and I will stay in contact with each other (she tries, I'm the flake) so the house will stay this nice feeling.

              Paula, how do you feel about a FlyLady Whole30? I loved your idea and I think we should do it. In 4 weeks we could cycle through all four zones and have a happy home again. What do you say?
              Primal since March 5, 2012
              SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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              • Wow - crazy and scary weekend for you and your family Remember they said it "could" take up to a year - not that it "will".

                Some family intervention to get the house in order might be necessary right now. Are they open to allowing a clean up weekend?
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                • I love the fly lady! I have her books...somewhere! Several years ago I tried her system... Never could get it right. I'll have to check her out again & see what's new with her. My house is so tiny I only have one zone! lol
                  Goal: Don't worry be happy!

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                  • I'm game for the Flylady Whole30. I still need to find a system that works for the mail counter and "action item" corner (a corner of the coffee table reserved for stuff that needs to leave the house to go somewhere else, like outbound mail and stuff for his family. )
                    Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, steak in one hand, chocolate in the other, yelling "Holy F***, What a Ride!"
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                    • I have to work on that too, Naiad. My recent approach to mail is to pick it up once a week, sort out the week's junk mail before I leave the post office, and then burn the rest. I pay most of our bills online and only need a couple of statements in paper form (like our cable and municiple bill - neither are high tech enough to accept plastic). I get a lot of insurance statements of benefits paid, but I usually just pitch those too. I know soon enough how much insurance paid when the hospital bills arrive... I have a box in my garage that is serving as the "burn box". I fill it up with mail that should by all rights be shredded, then I take it to my mom's to be burned on burn day. So much easier than shredding it all. And they burn their mail too, so I know he's careful to make sure it all gets destroyed. The other option I've heard of people doing is to gather their mail daily, sort it and bring their shredables to work - and shred them there. It's only like 3-4 pieces each day, so no one notices, really. But I've never been good about that habit.

                      So for a FlyLady Whole30 - so far there's me and Naiad... anyone else?

                      As far as a clean out weekend at my dad's? While it's a good idea, I don't know that stepmom would be all that thrilled with it. Not because people would be going through their stuff or b/c she's a control freak or anything like that... but because she doesn't want to waste anyone else's time. She knows it'll never STAY cleaned out so she'd tell us all to find something else to do. But to add to her cleaning stress, they've got Grandma's house now (Dad and I come by our untidy house genes naturally). She's been working on getting it cleared out too (grandma's is easier - you don't know what's in there, so if you just pitch it all, you're not missing anything). There's a big pile of stuff to go to Goodwill, and they've already had a garage sale. But still lots of stuff. The upstairs is cleared out though, and that was the biggest mess as no one used the upstairs when she was alive so it was the perfect place for storing crap you didn't really need but didn't want to throw away just yet.

                      I think my problem is ADD related. I'll be unloading the dishwasher, placing dishes on the counter (I stack the dishes for one cabinet and then carry them all over at once), then get distracted and it sits there for a while before I get back to it, and sometimes I forget. Like the tupperware like dishes - I've discovered at times that they'll sit on the counter for a day or two if I get distracted before they get put away. Which is why FlyLady is nice - if I get distracted I can just look at my list and see where I was so I can get back to it.

                      Her website has changed and I'm not sure I like it that much... I have to do some more exploring. FlyLady.net

                      After a week of following my evening routine, I think I might venture into zones this week - starting with the kitchen. I'm a much happier person if my kitchen is clean and decluttered. Usually it's clean, but not decluttered. Decluttered will be a nice feeling.
                      Last edited by jenn26point2; 09-16-2013, 08:46 AM.
                      Primal since March 5, 2012
                      SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                      • Wow it has changed!! It's been about 6 years since I tried the fly lady way. I will have to say that one thing has stuck with me all these years...I don't like to leave any dishes in the sink or on the cabinet...I like to get up to a clean kitchen. Baby boy sometimes will leave a glass or silverware in the sink, he works nights & comes in in the wee hours...but I don't mind that. Will do some more reading at the site a bit later.

                        So I'll join you in trying a whole30flylady. If nothing else maybe it will help me keep things a bit tidier. Should we start a group? Like we did the stress one last year? Or a separate journal? Or just post in our own...whatever ya'll want to do.

                        Sounds like fun!
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                        • I just don't have enough stuff to make a big mess or leave things out. There's definitely a plus side to only have 4 larger plates, 4 smaller plates, and 4 small bowls for dishes. Sometimes I think I'd like more, but we don't entertain often enough to warrant it. We also just don't have a lot of space for stuff to hang around so it gets picked up quickly. Having fewer tupperware that I want to use makes me clean it because it needs to be ready for me in advance.

                          As for mail, we don't get much. Junk goes straight to the recycling bin or trash. Bills go to our respective computer desks. My grandma has a wood stove, maybe I'll bring my fold of stuff to shred and burn them next time we visit.
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                          • Oh there's an idea, Nameless! I hadn't thought of my dad's central boiler! Brad's grandma has one too. Shredables would make great kindling to start fires and a great way to completely destroy them (central boilers burn every last bit - everything turns to ash). I hadn't even thought of their boilers... geesh. Thanks for the reminder.

                            I'm working on my cleaning lists and routines now. The ones I have work, but the tasks are kind of out of order so I bounce around a lot, which requires me to read the list too much. If I had things in order of when they should be done (like unload the dishwasher before load the dishwasher on the list), I wouldn't have to read it so much. I could just jump to the next task.

                            So, revamping those to be more functional, if you will. I WILL get this house under control. Come hell or high water, I will.
                            Primal since March 5, 2012
                            SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                            • I'll do Flylady w30. When do we start?

                              Also, I'm not sure if you remember, Jenn, but I had bilateral pulmonary emboli due to DVTs in my right leg in Oct. of 2010. Once I survived the initial danger on heparin. I was switched to coumadin, which I am on for life. In the hospital, they found another clot right behind my knee. They made me stay absolutely still for 48 hours, but the danger of break off lessens significantly after a few days on heparin. From what I understand your father should be safe from forming other clots while on coumadin. The clots in my lungs took at least 6 months to re absorb enough that my breathing was no longer affected. Sometimes the body will just repair over them, so they may never be completely reabsorbed.

                              I always make sure to move around once every hour or so. Walking, stretching, rotating ankles are all good things to do for anyone who stays in one position for a long time.
                              Last edited by Pebbles67; 09-16-2013, 10:25 AM.
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                              • After meeting with his doctor today he is 100% certain the reason for the clot is b/c he was wearing an immobilizer on his right leg for about a week. He has knee troubles and one day his knees were hurting him so badly, he went to the ER. They put him in an immobilizer to help stabilize his knee until he could see the ortho doc during the week. It wasn't very long before he was able to see his ortho, got his MRI, got his cortisone shots and was told he could stop wearing the immobilizer. He stopped wearing it about a week and a half ago, right before Labor Day is when he stopped. They measured his leg today and the spot where his clot is directly corresponds to where the immobilizer sat on his leg. He's infuriated about it. If they had just given him the cortisone shot at the ER like he asked (he was treated by the ortho on call that day), then none of this would have happened.

                                There's a study going on at the University of Iowa Hospital (only the BEST hospital in the state of Iowa and a whopping 30 minutes from our houses - I had my kids there) to tackle blood clots like this. The have started using a new approach to resolve the clots more quickly. He's going to call to see if he would be a good candidate or not. Stepmom thinks they go in and remove them laproscopically. I might see if I can research it and see what it's all about. Dad seems pretty much decided that if he's a candidate, he's going to do it.
                                Primal since March 5, 2012
                                SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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