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  • The more vindictive part of me says, "Well, that's what you get!" (to hubby) Sounds like he has a hard time being patient when it comes to stuff like that.
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    • Even though Geek and I have 3 checking accounts between us (his, mine, bill pay), there's still an implicit line at $100, not matter which account it comes out of. If whatever it is costs more than $100 and it's not necessary (groceries, medical, etc), we don't buy it until we consult with the other. (Gifts are obviously in a different category.) I think that's what's kept money troubles to a minimum between us. That and a shared belief that very little debt is necessary or warranted, and any debt is to be paid off ASAP. I think in y'all's case, it's a matter of actually getting on the same page. Y'all are in the same book right now, mostly, but he needs to be gotten up to date. Walk him through the spreadsheet. Get his input. Maybe actually seeing and understanding what's earmarked for what will wake him up. If that doesn't, maybe an agreement on what constitutes a viable loan (hint: none unnecessary to survival) and how much disposable income each of ya'll gets per month would work. (Make sure it's a true agreement, not a "yes, mother" agreement.)
      I know, I'm young. Take what I said at face value and what'll work for y'all's situation.
      Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, steak in one hand, chocolate in the other, yelling "Holy F***, What a Ride!"
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      • Just playing here... my personal debts (as in credit cards, etc in my name) for the month of December alone totals up to be half of what is in his name - actually owned by him, used by him, etc - trailer, truck, that sort of stuff.

        Our joint bills are enormous - daycare, groceries, fuel, mortgage, etc.

        If we each paid off our bills with what we make ourselves, I would end up floating the most of the joint bills b/c as it stands, with my VA benefits, I make more than he does each month. A LOT of our expenses are racing related - truck, trailer, Bud, race car loan, Turn 3 Graphics loan (remember the business he sold? Yeah, we're still paying for its loan), credit cards (2) that got racked up to pay off other higher interest rate cards that got racked up because of Turn 3 Graphics...

        So when he gives me grief for buying new Christmas lights or buying kindle books I just want to remind him that if it wasn't for his racing habit, we wouldn't have a combined total of $1050 going out each month to pay for stuff related to racing... not to mention the two aforemention debts... but I don't. I carry the burden of those loans just like he does, except I think I carry the burden more than him b/c I make sure they're paid each month and I am the one who deals with the stress of how we're going to make ends meet each week b/c one or both of us spent too much "fun money" the weekend prior and our checkbook is technically overdrawn, although not known by the bank b/c there are still checks outstanding.

        Our Christmas club took a hit recently. I haven't found the source of the problem, but according to my spreadsheet, we should have $200 more than we do... Maybe I've done the math wrong or something and what we've spent so far on Christmas adds up to that $200, idk... I'd have to recheck my work... but the fact of the matter is that whatever we PLAN to save for always gets hijacked for one reason or another. This is why the Bud bill keeps getting pushed aside. B/c it's not a priority.

        Anyhow... 1st world problems...
        Primal since March 5, 2012
        SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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        • I'm hungry... as in stomach is growling hungry. No food in sight. *sigh*
          Primal since March 5, 2012
          SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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          • Originally posted by namelesswonder View Post
            The more vindictive part of me says, "Well, that's what you get!" (to hubby) Sounds like he has a hard time being patient when it comes to stuff like that.
            patience is not one of his better virtues...
            Primal since March 5, 2012
            SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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            • Brad just told me that his dad has paid off his half of the Bud bill... the statement that arrived this week says $1200 is still owed... if our half is 1200 when this whole time I was told 750, Imma blow a gasket!!
              Primal since March 5, 2012
              SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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              • That sucks.
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                • Some feed stores sell do-it-yourself rabies vaccinations. Around $5, and it is really not hard to give, as it is intramuscular. It comes with a tag, too.

                  Good luck with the money. How frustrating.

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                  • Maybe it would be easier for Brad if you simplify the spread sheet - just for his benefit. Make out a simple "this is our total income" ........ and "this is our total expenditure" .......... maybe that will help him see that one isn't matching the other.

                    Good luck, Jenn - I know this is a huge thorn in your side and you keep trying to get things right. Maybe telling him sincerely that you really need his help to get the finances in order.
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                    4. Embrace today
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                    • I think every once in a while we just have to vent how badly our situation sucks to get it out of our system. We vent and blame each other then agree that it's not just one person's fault, agree to stop spending and then things get better for a while. I told him no more race car debts. I'm sure that'll last til next winter... :S

                      We know what needs to be done, and we typically follow our plan, but occasionally, things don't go according to plan and then we both get irritated by it. Then we vent, then we get over it.

                      Right now, my head hurts, and we're out of ibuprofen so it's time for bed.
                      Primal since March 5, 2012
                      SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                      • Day 2 recap:

                        B: 3 boiled eggs, 3 slices bacon
                        L: leftover catfish, sweet potatoes, steamed broccoli
                        D: pork chop, green beans with bacon and onion
                        S: turkey breast, roasted/salted almonds (no oils)

                        I was uber hungry yesterday. I think stress was playing an enormous roll in that hunger. As such, I overate, but I ate only 100% Whole30 acceptable foods (aside from the fact that nothing was organic/strictly grass fed).

                        Day 3 Plan:

                        B: 3 boiled eggs, 3 slices bacon
                        L: leftover pork chop and green beans
                        D: steak, baked sweet potato (or maybe chicken breast since Brad is on 2nd and it's totally unfair to make steak when he's not home to eat it)
                        S: almonds, maybe a paleo deviled egg or two.

                        Other stuff:

                        Reading Robb Wolf's The Paleo Solution and loving ever second of it. I wouldn't go as far as saying the man is brilliant b/c he's simply regurgitating information that's already been put out there, but he certainly spells it out in a way that makes total sense and is easy to read - not to mention has a bit of humor to it, so it's not stuffy and dry. I'm hoping to get to bed sooner tonight so I can enjoy the book earlier than I did last night. Posted some bits from the book to Facebook and tagged those I felt it was relavent to.

                        Cut the maca down to 500 mg today after reading the blog post that was linked on Nameless's journal. No sense in further screwing the hormones up by taking too much too quickly. I'll ease into it. Might even start taking an iodine supplement with it just to be sure it doesn't rob my thyroid of the iodine it needs.

                        Really tired today. I think the carb flu is in full swing right now. BUT, we had a great morning this morning. Kids were cooperative and we got out the door on time, so for that I'm not bitchy!! Small wonders...
                        Primal since March 5, 2012
                        SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                        • I think a small dose of iodine would be a good idea. I'm not going to mess with the maca root again until my aches and pains go away. It's going pretty slowly this time =\

                          I know bacon is pretty fatty, but for me, 3 hard-boiled eggs would not be enough in the morning. I wonder if the lack of added fat (like if they were scrambled) is affecting your hunger? Then again, sometimes, no matter how much I eat in the AM, I'm ravenous by lunch time.
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                          • I was hungry after lunch - after eating catfish cooked in ghee and sweet potatoes in coconut oil. I think it was strictly stress related.
                            Primal since March 5, 2012
                            SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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                            • Financial issues blow. Good for you for having a great plan. I have found including my hubs has helped. That and I turned over all bills to him (I give him my part), so he has to figure out what to do when he doesn't have enough for his share. I still pay more than my share, but this has helped me a lot.
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                              • New blog post is up: New Direction
                                Primal since March 5, 2012
                                SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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