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  • You have gotten me reflecting on the nature of hope. I think we have to be unrealistically hopeful to have the courage to get anywhere, in a lot of ways. By acting on that hope, we put ourselves out there and in a position to have good things happen. On the flip side, it hurts so much when hope is disappointed.

    So in the context of job-hunting, or anything similar, when the ultimate outcome is out of our control, here are my tentative conclusions:
    We can't help but hope that the last interview went well. Telling ourselves not to doesn't work.
    So hope away, but immediately after one interview (or even earlier) work towards setting up the next one or two or three, so there is not just one single source of hope in the pipe. That way the no's will be less devastating. Once the interview is over, it might even be best to consider it a no, and transfer our hope to the next ones.

    All of this applies to submissions to agents and publishers too, BTW. I had a couple of bad experiences there (not just the normal rejections, I mean) and it really wiped me out. My health was also hitting rock bottom at the time and that was a very toxic combination.

    Which is basically a long-winded way of saying "don't put all your eggs in one basket".
    5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
    Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
    Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

    More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
    - Lewis Mumford

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    • STRESS!

      I feel like I have been running from a tiger for three days now.

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      • {{{hugs}}}
        5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
        Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
        Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

        More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
        - Lewis Mumford

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        • Yay for kids

          Middlest did something great, which I can't discuss, but am very pleased by. She lifted the whole mood of the house last might in consequence. A welcome relief from the doom and gloom.

          I also saw a hilarious picture on Bloodorchid's journal (post #1436 if you are interested) involving a dachshund which brought a smile to my face. Of such things are life built.

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          • Oh I wish you could tell us!! I'm glad she did something so great and you're all so proud! And I'm glad she lifted the mood. I hope it stays elevated!
            Primal since March 5, 2012
            SW: 221 | CW: 204 | LPW: 166 | UGW: 140 (80 lbs loss)



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            • Thanks, Jenn. Friends to commiserate when you are down, and celebrate when you are up. Life is good.

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              • Yes, it is. And take it one day at a time. It is so much harder when we dwell in our fears for tomorrow. Do what you can today, and take tomorrow when it comes. We almost always have enough strength for today, and almost never enough to bear all the possible disasters of the future.
                5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
                Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
                Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

                More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
                - Lewis Mumford

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                • This and thiat

                  Tomorrow we are visiting with a friend who has her parents to stay. The parents are VERY religiously-based vegetarians(won't even eat vegetarian food that has been prepared in the same space as meat) so I will not be bringing meat to eat. Or even anything to share, just in case. I'm planning on scarfing down a hunk of protein before I go. Most of her food is too spicy for me, though, so I am trying to plan what I can bring that will be easy. I don't want to be stuck in a situation where the only thing bland enough for me to eat is garbanzo beans. All I can think of is cubes of cheese, and nuts. If I were in a better state (mentally and fat-adapted-wise) this would be the perfect time to fast. But I'm not, so I won't.

                  Do you think it would be too tacky of me to keep an emergency can of sardines in our van, and run down to eat it if I need to?

                  The new Trader Joe's which just opened up in our town (yesterday!) is very close to her apartment. I might talk my Honey into stopping by after to check it out. It is over on the other side of town, so I cannot foresee shopping there often, but it would be nice to see what they've got.

                  Littlest is going to a dance tonight. Theme: the 80s. She's wearing a black cowl-neck sweater, hot pink skirt, black leggings. Accessorizing with pink leg-warmers, a pink belt, and pink scrunchie, all of which I made for her out of a thrift-store sweater. And two clunky bead bracelets. She loves planning outfits- for 60s day at school she spray painted a pair of old boots to make white go-go boots, found a patchwork suede mini-skirt, and made a vest and headband to go with it.

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                  • That's great! The dance outfit. Would love to see that!

                    I don't think it's tacky at all. In fact I recommend it. It WOULD be tacky to hand out literature detailing how vegetarians play right into the hands of big agribusiness, sabotage local farmers, support monoculture which is killing our planet...oh, and the fact that it is impossible for homo sapiens to get complete nutrition on a veg diet...B-complex vitamins...oh wait, that's me that does that stuff. Sorry.

                    I wish, I wish, I wish I had a Trader Joe's close by. The nearest one is 1 hour 15 minutes, although we are lucky to have it. Only one in the state of Maine!
                    My Primal Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread53052.html

                    "Freedom from fear" could be said to sum up the whole philosophy of human rights. - Dag Hammarskjold

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                    • Good luck with the food today. That is a very complicated situation. I would stash food in a cooler in your car.

                      I love the dance outfits. I only have boys. They don't like the school dances.
                      Primal since 9/24/2010
                      "Our greatest foes, and whom we must chiefly combat, are within." Miguel de Cervantes

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                      • When I'm invited over, I let people know that I'm not eating grains, to avoid awkwardness on all sides. I tell them meat and veggies are okay, but that's a little more complicated with vegetarians for sure. I would definitely chow down on some protein before going, which I think would make sardines in the car unnecessary. I do have vegetarians in the family, but we just treat each other with respect, and make sure we've got food the others can eat. Cheese is a nice meeting ground.

                        I had to make a pasta salad for a family potluck recently (specifically requested by the hostess), but I made a pasta-free version on the side for me. Lots of veggies, feta, and avocado mayo.
                        5'2", 55 years, Primal since April. Pre-Primal weight loss, from 216.6 to 157.8
                        Primal low: 140.2 (Dec. 3) Goal weight: 135?
                        Main Primal goal: beating back my CFS enough to function more normally and start writing again

                        More and more, our life has been governed by specialists, who know too little of what lies outside their province to be able to know enough about what takes place within it.
                        - Lewis Mumford

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                        • Sabine, hope your get together meal went ok. I am so sorry you are feeling so stressed at the moment. It is tough to get out of that kind of feeling when it seems that everything keeps on knocking you down. I like the stuff Judg was saying about keeping on moving as if the last interview was a no and get focused on the next one instead of hanging so much on the last one.... Tough to do of course!

                          Eating with others can be pretty challenging. So many times folk assume that they know exactly what is ok and go the CW route even when you try to explain! Sigh...
                          Start weight: 225.5 lbs Feb 14th 2012. Height: 5'7"
                          Primal low: 186 lbs
                          Current weight: 221.4 lbs
                          Goal weight: 140 lbs

                          "You are free to choose, BUT you are not free from the consequences of your choices."

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                          • Ugh. So much gas.

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                            • As you may have guessed

                              I ate non-primal things. Grains, grains, and more grains. And a lot of the crookneck squash casserole that I DID end up bringing.

                              Oh, well.

                              Everyone in the house except Littlest is struggling with stress. Middlest has her college stuff, and is picking up on our difficulties, too. She is old enough to realize that a mortgage is a big deal, and I am afraid that is causing her problems. I spent some hugging time last night, just reassuring her that her father and I will always take care of them, no matter what. Then I spent the night having dreams about money. Not restful at all.

                              Interview for my Honey today, but at an inconvenient time and place(from where he is working now, not from us; it would be a straight shot on the train, so that would be good), so that he had to go in VERY early, and will still only get 5 hours of work today. Hard to make up.

                              Pulled the last of our grass-fed beef out of the freezer for dinner tonight. And I made a batch of primal granola yesterday, which the girls immediately dived into. It is yummy stuff. Also found a recipe for making your own 'craisins' at home and am going to give it a try. I can only find dried fruits that have sugar added, which is ridiculous.

                              Did I mention that our town got a Trader Joe's? We stopped there yesterday on our way home, just to look around. They have full-fat greek yogurt! And some interesting sausages and salamis I'd like to try. But I was disappointed by their produce. Most of it seemed to be pre-packaged. Does a cucumber really need to be shrink-wrapped? My Honey thought the atmosphere was of a warehouse store/ clearance center. Maybe it was the high ceilings. It was definitely not as cozy as the two TJs I have visited in California. But I'll go back sometime when it is not crazy busy and look at things more leisurely.

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                              • If only you could burn it in the engine of your car...might make CW worthwhile sometimes. Imagine having pizza and beer on Saturday and then powering your car the rest of the week...or heating your home...
                                My Primal Journal: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread53052.html

                                "Freedom from fear" could be said to sum up the whole philosophy of human rights. - Dag Hammarskjold

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