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  • Sol you are still going strong I see Well done, I myself have been under some stress and have fallen off the food wagon.
    sigh Picks herself up , dusts herself off and clambers back on
    Feeling it with ya.
    link to my journal http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread97129.html

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    • Originally posted by jacmac View Post
      sigh Picks herself up , dusts herself off and clambers back on
      Perfect plan.
      Durp.

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      • Originally posted by Sol blackcat View Post
        Thanks mike. Last post would be

        Thank you to every single person that has offered advice, tips, encouragement, support, insight into their own story's but most of all, sincere thanks for taking the time to bother.

        I love this place and has it made the last ten days easier than I could of ever imagined..
        Hey, no last posts until you start a journal! And then you have to tell us what it's called so we can stick with you. If you don't know how to link to it, just start a new thread in the Journals forum and as long as you post about what you've called it, someone will link from here for you.

        10 days, Sol! (or is it 11 today?) that means the next 10 are twice as important but only half as difficult, right?

        Saturday night's alright for ... hanging out on MDA !!
        Me, My Father and The Alzheimer's - http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread84213.html

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        • Hey, Sol, where've you gone? How's it going? Don't disappear on us ...
          Me, My Father and The Alzheimer's - http://www.marksdailyapple.com/forum/thread84213.html

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          • Originally posted by awok677 View Post
            Hey, Sol, where've you gone? How's it going? Don't disappear on us ...
            Hi awok, I'm still here reading everything. I thought people were getting a bit fed up of this thread so I stopped posting on it. Still love this place and it's twelve days today. My belly is shrinking fast.

            Hope everyone's well.
            FTM. I'm not biased, I hope everybody beats the mags!

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            • Hi Sol;
              Glad to see you posting. I don't think anyone is fed up. So the belly keeps shrinking, does it? How are you feeling besides that? Seems like this is the second weekend--are your friends OK with the changes you're making or do they even believe it is really happening? Nobody around me thought I meant to stick it when I quit. So I just kept mum and joined a gym. Real friends stuck around but drinking buddies dropped away slowly. I did like having to buy new pants when I lost the belly. Getting there yet?
              Last edited by missblue; 06-23-2013, 04:39 PM.

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              • Originally posted by missblue View Post
                Hi Sol;
                Glad to see you posting. I don't think anyone is fed up. So the belly keeps shrinking, does it? How are you feeling besides that? Seems like this is the second weekend--are your friends OK with the changes you're making or do they even believe it is really happening? Nobody around me thought I meant to stick it when I quit. So I just kept mum and joined a gym. Real friends stuck around but drinking buddies dropped away slowly. I did like having to buy new pants when I lost the belly. Getting there yet?


                Hi miss. The belly is doing good. I'm feeling good, gout is 90% better, only problem I have is the lack of sleep. My diet is spot on apart from using sunflower oil last night before I checked on here. It's gone now and replaced with lard. My close family are pleased with what I'm doing, but I also kept mum to some friends but they have noticed my weight loss.

                I don't know if they are expecting me to crash and burn or not, but I think if it was going to happen it would have by now.

                Still hoping to return to work in early august so going to wait till then before buying some clothes.
                FTM. I'm not biased, I hope everybody beats the mags!

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                • That sounds good. Glad to hear the gout is clearing up.

                  Yes, the first two weeks are kind of the trial. Once I got through the second weekend the new way of living was beginning to feel something like "normal" but the sleeping was a problem for awhile. I found that all the stuff I had been thinking about but pushing down (with the drink) for years kept just coming up when I would lie down and get quiet. My brain would race until I couldn't stand it and got up. Writing it down in a journal (any notebook will do) helped. Sometimes I'd even burn the stuff I wrote just to get it "out" if you know what I mean. You know--the regrets of the stupid things you did (drunk or sober in my case) or stuff done to you, and so on. Facing that was not always the easiest but I must say clearing it out was like washing a year's worth of dirty dishes. Nasty but sure looks great when you're done

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                  • Yep, I know what you mean. I did some crazy stuff while drunk, particulary when I was younger. Oh the memories
                    Sometimes I'm quite tired during the day or early evening but come bedtime it's full on wide awake brain racing a hundred miles an hour. Well done miss, I'm pleased you got there before me. Are you teetotal or moderating? If you don't mind my asking.
                    FTM. I'm not biased, I hope everybody beats the mags!

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                    • So far teetotal. I was so nervous about quitting at all I told myself "only 3-6 months" and then I'd try it moderately.
                      The three months was spent detoxing and getting to sleep normally. By the end of that it was pretty easy, so I thought I'd go for the six months. I forgot to total the time (if you can believe that) and when I thought about it again it was seven months. So then I thought, "Well, I'm this close, so may as well try for the year."

                      By the time I had a year, I was feeling so much better and had learned to do other things with my time besides drink, that I just kept going.

                      If I look at it honestly, I think in the beginning I was really worried about backsliding if I tried to drink in moderation. As I told you before, it had begun to start to be an issue for me at work and my body was really sick from years of doing it. I saw several other people talk about being "high functioning" drinkers, and I would say that was true of me. I got to work, did what was needed for the most part, and appeared "normal". I would sometimes go days without drinking, but always went back. My parents were both alcoholics so I learned early and had the genes for it.

                      Now, I just like my life better and so for the time being am staying totally away from drinking. It isn't a "fear" of going back so much now as moving into a different way of living. I had some great times on the drink and can look back with a smile for many reasons. I had a hell of a lot of fun in several continents and cities of the world while in party mode. I wouldn't trade that and am not taking the pledge to never drink again as much as enjoying being in control and clear-headed. That feels good.

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                      • Some good points miss, it's still early days for me but I'm going to have to think about filling my drinking time doing other things. It's not going to be easy being unemployed, things like joining a gym, eating out, cinema ect.

                        I keep telling myself that it's only till I get this under control then perhaps I can have a social life which includes drinking on a more acceptable level. But if I'm honest with myself I think one little drink, even a sip would put me back twenty years and the whole process would start again. I did love to to drink but I was a professional beer monster. The saying " ones too many but twelves not enough" was so accurate about me.

                        I never thought I'd get this far so I'm going to keep at it but silly little thing keep popping into my head. Seen Wimbledon advertised today and thought how the hell am I going to enjoy tennis without a drink? My local football team signs a new player and I must have a drink to celebrate. I haven't had a drink for twelve days, surely I deserve a drink for being so strong?

                        I think (and pray) I've come to far to let it slip away now. The added bonus is I would not only let myself down but family and friends too.
                        FTM. I'm not biased, I hope everybody beats the mags!

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                        • Hey Sol,

                          Awesome work on getting this far! You are clearly showing you have the will to win the battle of you vs. booze.

                          I don't have issues with alcohol, but I think with any struggle (of which I've had a few) sometimes when you are in the
                          hole, you have to take it hour by hour, or even minute by minute. You said before you're a big reader- do you have a library membership? What about local walking groups etc - gives you free exercise and social contact in a non-drinking environment?

                          Teetotal vs moderation- you know yourself best. But it might be helpful to try and split the relationship in your head between events (Wimbledon, new teammate) and alcohol... they do not have to go hand-in-hand! e.g. Wimbledon is a great event, maybe focus more on the games, the personalities rather than it being an excuse/reason to drink?
                          Also, a drink is not a "reward" if it means you fall back in the hole, lead to more health issues... etc etc etc.
                          What else is a "reward" for you?

                          Mate- feel free to ignore the above if its not useful- I think you're doing so well and keep it up.

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                          • Sounds like you get it. I did have one slip when I first started but climbed back on the wagon. Same as you thought I could "just have one" and stop but that doesn't work for me either.

                            Maybe start with a short term goal of 3 or 6 months. That will get you back to work and healthy and not feeling hopeless about never getting to "have one" again. You are doing great so far, and it really does get easier from here. Take care and I'll check in tomorrow to see what's up

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                            • Originally posted by heatherp View Post
                              Hey Sol,

                              Awesome work on getting this far! You are clearly showing you have the will to win the battle of you vs. booze.

                              I don't have issues with alcohol, but I think with any struggle (of which I've had a few) sometimes when you are in the
                              hole, you have to take it hour by hour, or even minute by minute. You said before you're a big reader- do you have a library membership? What about local walking groups etc - gives you free exercise and social contact in a non-drinking environment?

                              Teetotal vs moderation- you know yourself best. But it might be helpful to try and split the relationship in your head between events (Wimbledon, new teammate) and alcohol... they do not have to go hand-in-hand! e.g. Wimbledon is a great event, maybe focus more on the games, the personalities rather than it being an excuse/reason to drink?
                              Also, a drink is not a "reward" if it means you fall back in the hole, lead to more health issues... etc etc etc.
                              What else is a "reward" for you?

                              Mate- feel free to ignore the above if its not useful- I think you're doing so well and keep it up.



                              Thanks heatherp, i'am a total bookworm, I love to read. Not much getting done since I found MDA mind. Never thought about walking groups before although I have seen advertisements for them in local library.
                              The biggest reward I'm facing is getting my job back. That won't happen if I can't convince the boss that I'm a totally different person regarding the drink. I would not ignore someone who is providing an opinion and taking the time to bother.

                              Thank you.




                              Originally posted by missblue View Post
                              Sounds like you get it. I did have one slip when I first started but climbed back on the wagon. Same as you thought I could "just have one" and stop but that doesn't work for me either.

                              Maybe start with a short term goal of 3 or 6 months. That will get you back to work and healthy and not feeling hopeless about never getting to "have one" again. You are doing great so far, and it really does get easier from here. Take care and I'll check in tomorrow to see what's up

                              Thanks blue. I suppose it can only get easier if I keep on trying.
                              FTM. I'm not biased, I hope everybody beats the mags!

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                              • Sol you are doing wonderfully. Take it from someone who has been sober for three years now, it does get easier. Now only if you were a Tottenham fan I could really advise you. Be well my friend and good luck.

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